Broke my own rule

slweaver0626 · May 2013

H and I vowed that LO would not be bed sharing with us - or Family Bed as it is called. Last night we broke. She actually slept and didn't scream every 10 minutes for no reason. And we slept. I think that's what counts at this point.

She sleeps all day no matter how hard I fight to keep her awake and then she is up all night. She sleeps just fine in her crib for naps and such, but won't have it at night. We are still working on flipping her schedule.

BeesMomma00 · May 2013

You will break many "rules" from now until the end of time. Never say never.

Rules for the sake of having rules do no one any good. I eventually started bed sharing because I breastfed my DD and it was just plain easier for me. I slept better, baby slept better, husband slept better. Win-Win-Win.

Schell2013 · May 2013

I said this to myself too. My daughter has spent every night sleeping on my chest.... I can't imagine not being able to feel her skin against mine at night, I really enjoy it.

BeesMomma00 · May 2013

beckyschell:
I said this to myself too. My daughter has spent every night sleeping on my chest.... I can't imagine not being able to feel her skin against mine at night, I really enjoy it.

Best thing ever! And honestly, if you spent your entire life inside someone, warm, close, hearing a heartbeat, etc... would you want to sleep alone in a crib?

AliciaR777 · May 2013

My daughter was always great about sleeping on her own. My son, however, has spent at least one night of each of the past three weeks on my chest. It's not the best sleep for me, but at least he's not screaming for hours at a time.

I think our issue is a combination of gas and his fondness of sleeping on his belly. We've started using gas drops that seem to help, but for the nights that it doesn't, I think the pressure is relieved by laying on me.

As PP have said, many rules will be broken! As a mom, we have to do whatever we can to make everyone happy and keep our sanity!

whirlygirl00 · May 2013

Sleep is important! Whatever it takes to get sleep is what's best:)

caden1206 · May 2013

I am having a similar issue with my LO. She isn't up all night, but she WILL NOT sleep by herself at night. I have tried everything, but it is like she knows when mommy is trying to sleep. I even broke down last night and tried to give her a pacifier, but she just gagged on it. She calms right down if she is picked up. So, basically I sleep with her. And, this morning she woke up in a great mood. I am going to have to look into safety stuff so I can get back in my bed and not sleep in the glider holding her.

caden1206 · May 2013

whirlygirl00:
Sleep is important! Whatever it takes to get sleep is what's best:)

This is kind of what I am thinking. I have to stay sane and in order to do that I need sleep too.

gradmommy13 · May 2013

Yeah....we've definitely broken a couple of our rules, too. We were all set to cloth diaper from birth, but with a new baby it's just been so overwhelming, that we've been using disposable ones this whole week [she's also very small, so the prefolds that we have would be super bulky on her]. I also said no bottle and no pacifier until I go back to work. Umm...yeah....I'm now exclusively pumping and she's had a pacifier since day 3! I think one of the most important things about being a parent is flexibility!

blush64 · May 2013

BeesMomma00:
You will break many "rules" from now until the end of time. Never say never.
Rules for the sake of having rules do no one any good. I eventually started bed sharing because I breastfed my DD and it was just plain easier for me. I slept better, baby slept better, husband slept better. Win-Win-Win.

All this.

slweaver0626 · May 2013

caden1206:
I am having a similar issue with my LO. She isn't up all night, but she WILL NOT sleep by herself at night. I have tried everything, but it is like she knows when mommy is trying to sleep. I even broke down last night and tried to give her a pacifier, but she just gagged on it. She calms right down if she is picked up. So, basically I sleep with her. And, this morning she woke up in a great mood. I am going to have to look into safety stuff so I can get back in my bed and not sleep in the glider holding her.

This is us too! I have tried 4 different pacifiers and she just won't have it. I'm OK with that. But I feed her, change her, burp her, and rock her to sleep... sneak back to my bed and less than 20 minutes later she triggers.

While sleeping with her is not ideal or even the best sleep, it's sleep. I will take mediocre sleep over none - or sleeping in the glider!

MamaMcCleary · May 2013

No Judgement Mommie. Everyone will break this rule at least once. We all need sleep. Besides, we have been sharing that bed with our little one close for nine months. A few nights of snuggling will not create a bed monster. Enjoy those late night snuggles.

ColeyHouse · May 2013

I've read somewhere keeping a little bit of light on in the room at night while they are sleeping could help! good luck!

rpalen29 · May 2013

I think the first 3 months should be considered the 4th trimester. Let your LO be close to you, and if you end up sharing the bed for the first few months for sleep and peace, then you should.

do what works!

wcvsb3b5 · May 2013

slweaver0626:
caden1206:
I am having a similar issue with my LO.  She isn't up all night, but she WILL NOT sleep by herself at night.  I have tried everything, but it is like she knows when mommy is trying to sleep.   I even broke down last night and tried to give her a pacifier, but she just gagged on it.  She calms right down if she is picked up.  So, basically I sleep with her.  And, this morning she woke up in a great mood.  I am going to have to look into safety stuff so I can get back in my bed and not sleep in the glider holding her. 
This is us too! I have tried 4 different pacifiers and she just won't have it. I'm OK with that. But I feed her, change her, burp her, and rock her to sleep... sneak back to my bed and less than 20 minutes later she triggers.
While sleeping with her is not ideal or even the best sleep, it's sleep. I will take mediocre sleep over none - or sleeping in the glider! 
 

I could have written this myself. We had one night that she stayed in the crib. I was hoping she would stick with it but it ended up just being a tease. She won't stay in the crib, pnp, or swing for more than 20 minutes, night or day.

Mommy2CB · May 2013

Have you heard of The Happiest Baby on the Block DVD? It's incredible. Just simple tips and tricks to help calm your baby and help them sleep at night. We watched it right when DS1 turned 3 to 4 months old and he slept 10 plus hours straight after that. Amazing stuff!

NinaBeana87 · May 2013

beckyschell:
I said this to myself too. My daughter has spent every night sleeping on my chest.... I can't imagine not being able to feel her skin against mine at night, I really enjoy it.

This has worked beautifully for us too. I can transfer her beside to the rock n play, but not after have drifted off for an hour or so with her on my chest and we all get some sleep!

Curtsdarling · May 2013

I hate to be unsupportive but please follow safe sleep practices. A friend of mine lost their healthy beautiful baby boy to SIDS at three weeks of age after falling asleep with him in his arms.

I know it is hard and you are tired but it isn't worth taking the chance.

Please visit:
https://charlieskids.org/sidsriskreduction/

slweaver0626 · May 2013

Mommy2CB:
Have you heard of The Happiest Baby on the Block DVD? It's incredible. Just simple tips and tricks to help calm your baby and help them sleep at night. We watched it right when DS1 turned 3 to 4 months old and he slept 10 plus hours straight after that. Amazing stuff!

They made us watch it in the hospital. She hates to be swaddled and shushing makes her louder.

BeesMomma00 · May 2013

Curtsdarling:
I hate to be unsupportive but please follow safe sleep practices. A friend of mine lost their healthy beautiful baby boy to SIDS at three weeks of age after falling asleep with him in his arms.

I know it is hard and you are tired but it isn't worth taking the chance.

Please visit:
https://charlieskids.org/sidsriskreduction/

I am very sorry for your friend. That is completely unimaginable.

And the warning is fair. But bed sharing can be very safe. Usually, if a child dies while practicing UNSAFE bed sharing or being held, it's really suffocation and not SIDS.

The bottom line is cosleep smartly.

hollowstar · May 2013

Co-sleeping is the best. Just do your research and make sure you are doing it safely. Done under the right circumstances (breastfeeding, no drug use, no smoking, minimal blankets and pillows) it is safer than a crib!

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