DH vent: WWYD

chelsmcl · May 2013

This week I'm starting half days at work because the doctors think that my stress levels are messing with my blood sugar levels (I have GD). I didn't even think about the fact that lately DH has been working from home and his co-worker is also working from our house. So yesterday I come home after lunch and DH and his co-worker are spread out all over the main floor with their laptops, cords, phones etc. It made me extra grumpy because his co-worker was working from MY recliner and I really wanted to put my swollen feet up so I had to go upstairs to my bedroom to put my feet up and get some peace and quiet. Then DH's coworker comes upstairs to chat with me while I'm laying in bed, this guy has no boundries!

I know part of it is pregnancy hormones making me overreact, but I would really like to be able to have my home to myself when I'm off work to try to relax. And I'd love to be able to watch some brainless TV, but they hook up their laptops to the TV. When the baby comes I really don't want them working from our house either because I'd like to be able to whip out my boob whenever I want without worrying about flashing DH's coworker, plus they are loud when they're both on the phone at once.

I'd like to tell DH that they can work from our house in the morning but as of noon they need to GTFO so I can have some down time. And when the baby comes, it's fine if DH works from our home, but not the other guy. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? (and yes, you can be honest)

Stardust54 · May 2013

Why can't his coworker work from his own house? And why the hell is he coming into your bedroom?? That is annoying on so many levels. I think you are completely in the right to tell them to GTFO when the baby gets here. At the very least the creepy coworker!

KellenHi21 · May 2013

No I would feel the same way.

Monkeybutt80 · May 2013

I would totally feel the same way

jane.says · May 2013

I'll be honest ? I would feel the same way, but it's hard to say if you're being unreasonable without knowing what your DH does for a living. Does the co-worker need to be physically with him for them to do their jobs? Do they have another location where they can go? Starbucks doesn't sound like a viable option for two guys who have laptops hooked up to TVs with constant phone calls.

The coming to your bedroom business is bullsh!t, and the entire situation sounds terrible, but if it's unavoidable for some reason it's hard to tell them to get out.

WhitWed · May 2013

Definitely not unreasonable in my opinion. Having them at your house right now is one thing, and I'd probably put up with it temporarily, but I'd let DH know that they should find another location to work outside the house when you bring your LO home. Not only for comfort reasons, but your hormones will be really loopy, you will be learning your baby's cues, tears for various reasons may be shed, you will want to sleep when your LO is sleeping, and it is just not a time to have people in the way. (Especially if you have a c/s and cannot climb stairs for a week or two you will not want their equipment all over)

I'd just nonchalantly mention to hubby that he needs to think about an alternative location for a few months and then can come right back once you're on a schedule, settled in, or back to work. Perhaps his co-worker will temporarily offer up his house or they can find a public library with WiFi. I think asking for a few months in your house alone isn't an outlandish request and DH may already be on the same page as you. Good luck! Sorry you have to put up with that now.

MrsHughesNC · May 2013

Not at all! I think it's totally weird that the other guy works out of your house at all... Hmm

can he not work from his own home? If they need to be together, looks like maybe they should search for a small office to lease somewhere. I would definitely not be cool with that, especially while on maternity leave.

chelsmcl · May 2013

Yeah, there is a Starbuck's about 5 blocks from our place they could go to. Also, the coworker is a single guy that lives on his own so I personally think it would make more sense for them to work from his place. It's a small company with no office space yet so I don't want to leave them with no where to go but I would prefer if they worked from the coworkers house if they need to both be together.

chelsmcl · May 2013

justplanelove:
No, I think you are being reasonable. YOUR house too, ya know. From a self-proclaimed home body, if anyone messes with my space or invades the privacy of MY home, the claws come out. Set your boundaries. BF is hard enough, I can't imagine having to constantly be discreet about it at home.

Part of the problem is I'm a total home body. And I'm sure in a couple months I'll be whipping my boob out and not caring but I'd like some private time to get used to it.

I'm going to casually suggest they work from the coworkers house today.

nikel13 · May 2013

That's ridiculous! You shouldn't have to deal with the coworker, and you should tell your hubby. Honesty is the best before you get too frustrated and blow up.

courty625 · May 2013

I'd be feeling the same way. If they need to work together, I'd request that the 2 of them designate an area to keep the laptops, phones, cords contained and not sprawled out everywhere. And that would be for the time being, once LO gets here the co-worker would have to go.

And he needs to GTFO of your room..what a weirdo.

jennOK · May 2013

The coworker needs to be working from his own house, not yours. I would have a talk with H now.

Courtimilk · May 2013

CTGirl30:
~~Chels&Ry~~:
Yeah, there is a Starbuck's about 5 blocks from our place they could go to. Also, the coworker is a single guy that lives on his own so I personally think it would make more sense for them to work from his place. It's a small company with no office space yet so I don't want to leave them with no where to go but I would prefer if they worked from the coworkers house if they need to both be together.
There - they can go to the coworker's house then. Single guy with no wife or baby at his house....perfect.

I found a flaw!!! He doesn't have a wife to clean his house!!

chelsmcl · May 2013

Courtimilk:
CTGirl30:
~~Chels&Ry~~:
Yeah, there is a Starbuck's about 5 blocks from our place they could go to. Also, the coworker is a single guy that lives on his own so I personally think it would make more sense for them to work from his place. It's a small company with no office space yet so I don't want to leave them with no where to go but I would prefer if they worked from the coworkers house if they need to both be together.
There - they can go to the coworker's house then. Single guy with no wife or baby at his house....perfect.
I found a flaw!!! He doesn't have a wife to clean his house!!

lol, no kidding.

flerlgirl · May 2013

MeghanKG:
Oh hell no! I would have totally flipped out and probably scared the coworker from ever wanting to come over again. That's your home your place to relax and do whatever you want to do.

Preach

HelgaFunk · May 2013

Just out of curiosity, how long have DH and co-worker been working from your house without it being a big deal? Because if they've been doing it for the past year and all of a sudden now it's not cool then I could understand there being confusion and it might have to be a more gentle conversation about why things need to change.

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