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October 2012 Moms
Drama, drama, drama...
Bear with me here...I just need to write it out 'cause I'm sworn to secrecy between all these people. We were once all friends and now I'm the only friend they have in common.
To make things a bit easier, we have friends K, C and L. L had a baby over 2 years ago but has been trying for #2 for a while now. K & her hubs have wanted a baby but were having a hard time. She's now 12 weeks (yay!). I was apparently the first person she told after her husband, which makes me feel honored. And just for background, C was K's maid of honor but they had a falling out because C was clingy and K told her. So C didn't know about K's pregnancy until someone leaked it on Mother's Day on Facebook.
Well, C is the person I'm feeling like a bad friend with--and we're good friends; she's always thoughtful and so forth. But since I met her in high school there have been things here and there that either are a long stretch of the truth or a lie. I think it's because she's very obese and her family is dysfunctional so maybe she feels the need to say some stuff. For example, K was diagnosed with MS the week of her wedding. C tells her two days later she just found out the same week she has Lupus. She never mentioned it to me or L and none of us have heard of it since then.
She's supposedly have had 2 miscarriages since high school (one of which L was aware of), had a problem with one ovary and had it removed and 2 back surgeries. Now it's entirely possible, especially with her back because of her weight and that could count for the miscarriages. In September she claimed she had ovarian cancer and was undergoing chemo while working 3rd shift full time and going to nursing school on an accelerated program during the day--kudos for that. And I know chemo can come at different levels and not everyone loses their hair and is super sick, but on the outside you'd have no clue she was getting it. Which made me and K wonder if she had it for sure, but the she kept talking about it here and there with me.
Well last week C tells me before she knew about K's pregnancy that she was pregnant--a shock to her since she just got off hormone meds that stopped her period and all that. She decided to tell me before her boyfriend because she knew he'd be stressed about not having a job and living in a very small 1 bedroom condo they can't sell. So of course I'm like "are you really" but if she is I am very happy for her. Truly.
Of course, as to be expected she went for an ultrasound today and said there's no pictures because they couldn't see the fetus with all the scar tissue and will try again next week. So I'm still skeptical. I even told DH she'd say no pics. Now she knows K is prego but doesn't want to tell her because she's afraid of a miscarriage and all that.
I don't know. I just hate doubting someone but when there have been so many medical questions about her it makes me wonder. The doubt in my own mind that she isn't lying this time is because no one else was pregnant that she was aware of when she told me.
Obviously the only thing to do is wait and see what happens. I just feel like a bad friend. And it kills me not to be able to talk with it to anyone. I did tell DH because I know he won't say anything, and he straight up thinks she's lying. Won't we feel stupid later if she has a baby.
Ok so that's that. I know it sounds so horrible for me to have such doubts and I hope I'm wrong--DD playmates with Mommy's friends would be great! We'll see what happens I guess. But if she says she had a miscarriage in a few weeks...I'll be at the point I don't know when I can trust her 
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Re: Drama, drama, drama...
Oh yeah, TI could've been right on track and she claims she went to the dr...but I can't tell if she did or not.
It is lame. Especially when one tells you "don't tell so and so" and the other says the same thing. It's like seriously, how old are we? But I'm trying so hard to just keep my mouth shut between all parties lol.
Do you think she might be a pathological liar? I have an ex friend who was really, really terrible. During the time that we were friends, she had two miscarriages, a major illness, surgery, and she was raped twice. She is also very obese. I honestly believed everything she said until she forgot whom she told what, and we eventually learned that she had a problem with lying. It's a real disease, and they don't really know what's true and what's not after a certain point.
It was maddening because I actually listened and talked through things with her when all of these "things" happened to her. I still think she has a lying problem to this day, but I don't know for sure. Time will tell. GL!