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IL rant long

stardust317stardust317 member
in October 2011 Moms
I'm sorry to unload, but my ILs are driving me BSC. My MIL and SIL have been fighting for several weeks because my step FIL is a controlling asshoIe. He won't let my MIL do anything and SIL called her out on it.

Now MIL is telling DH that SIL is trying to sabotage their marriage. Yesterday, I was with SIL and DD1. MIL came in and wanted to take DD1 home for the 15 minutes we were going to be finishing what we were doing. Her house is about 10 minutes in the opposite direction of where I was going to pick up DD2. I told her no. She left.

She then told DH that I was trying to sabotage her relationship with DD1. And now DH tells me I should be more respectful and not always have a bad attitude towards his family.

I felt kind of bad for telling her no yesterday, but now I just want to rant.

First of all, MIL has a very entitled attitude with the kids. She always feels like when she calls, we should drop everything and bring her grand kids to her.

Secondly, I don't feel like I should have to justify what I do and don't want my
Kids doing.

Third, every time DD goes over there, they feed her ice cream and cookies.

Fourth, I don't want either DD to have too much exposure to controlling jerk face step FIL. I don't want the girls to develop a thinking that its ok for men to treat them that way.

The girls spent the night at their house Sunday night and they pick them up every Wednesday.

I'm just sick of them fighting, blowing things out of proportion, and there entitled attitude.

I'm very sorry for the length of this rant.
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  • morsey2011morsey2011 member
    I am sorry you're having to deal with all of this. I don't know everything about the entire situation, but I think your DH needs to back you up. I completely get the FIl thing. Mine is controlling and can be a major jerk.
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  • Ms.JadeMs.Jade member
    I am a firm believer that you each person should deal with his/her own family. Everything you listed above sounds reasonable to me. Is you DH reasonable? Can you talk to him and get him to talk to his mom? Or do you even want to bother (if not, I totally understand).
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  • cantalopes24cantalopes24 member
    Ugh my mom and MIL do stuff like what she did to you at the park. It's not a favor to me if I want my kid with me and have to waste time driving to pick them up and fighting to get them back into shoes and out the door!
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  • stardust317stardust317 member
    Usually, when I get super fed up, I tell DH he needs to talk to them or I will.
    When he kind of sided with her today, I was totally blind sided.

    I'm just over it now. I'm going to take the my kids, my rules approach from here on out.
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