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Always worrying

em728em728
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I need some advice or help please-

I just had my first daughter 12 days ago. Things are going well, she's healthy and beautiful...but I just can't stop worrying. Worrying that I'm doing something wrong, worrying that she's going to get sick, worrying about SIDS, worrying that I'm not a good mom. When I'm home by myself during the day I'm ok, not upset, I just go about my day with my daughter. However, when my husband comes home from work I get very upset and cry a lot in the evenings. I feel awful that he has to deal with work all day and then come home and deal with worrying, crying me. :( I don't feel like this is debilitating me...I just feel like there has to be a way to turn off the worrying so I can really enjoy my time with my daughter. How do I get past the constant fear and worry? 

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Re: Always worrying

  • mlampingmlamping member

    First of all Congrats on your DD. 

     

    Second of all, I am sorry you feel this way, but I was in your shoes two years ago. I will definatelly try to seek some help. Also try to get some help if possible and some rest.

    Best of luck and try to enjoy your little miracle.!  

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  • terri1024terri1024

    I haven't posted much here, but felt compelled, I have been where you are!  My son is now 5 months old, but I struggled a lot the first few months in particular.  I was diagnosed with postpartum depression about a month ago - if you think this might be something you are going through, please just seek help, don't over-think it or hesitate.  I was so glad when I finally saw my doctor and addressed it.  I wish I had done it sooner.  

    Aside from that, my advice would be to remember this phase is VERY temporary.  I felt like I would never come out of the newborn phase, like this was my new life and how was I going to get through each day like this... but it really does pass quickly.  I know it sounds far away, but by 6-8 weeks things really get easier, and even more progressively after that.  I wish I had known to tell myself htat and just go with the flow during the hard times, and TRY to enjoy it... it can be hard.  

    Good luck to you!

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  • em728em728
    Thank you to both of you for responding to my message. It really does help to know that other people feel (have felt) this same way. Yesterday was a pretty good day, hopefully today will be too. :) I'm getting a little closer to talking to my doctor about it, but I really don't want to be put on medication. Thank you again.
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  • brandi6102brandi6102
    I could have written this myself with DD1. I would worry ALL the time! I'm not going to add all the worries I obsessed about bc I don't want to add to yours! And I would cry mostly when DH was home. It was like seeing him was the straw that broke the camels back! I would sob when he was getting ready to leave for work and then when he got home. I didn't have it as bad with DD 2 but there were still times I'd start crying for absolutely no reason!and I seriously mean no reason! I felt a bit crazy! But it does getter better! I guess between my hormones leveling out with time talking a little with DH, it just started to go away. That and when I do start to obsess and worry now I force myself to think about something else. I hope things will get better for you very soon!
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  • lawa306lawa306 member
    I'm in your boat. My LO 2 is 4 wks old and I've had postpartum anxiety since his birth. I find something new to worry about daily and I hate the newborn phase because they seem so fragile. And I've done this before with my 3 year old. I have anxiety normally but I guess the hormone etc make this worse. Am seeing a therapist who specializes in postpartum anxiety which has been helping. Just hopingbit gets better!
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