FB Group who's in?

mlebates · May 2013

I'm creating a FB group for the January mommies, let me know if you want to join, and I'll add you!!

ChuggingWater · May 2013

I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

agunnet · May 2013

I think you can join a fb group without sharing your profile or "friending" everyone

forevergraceful · May 2013

This has been discussed before and, I think many have agreed, it is too early. Personally, I would like to wait a little before exposing myself on facebook to a bunch of internet strangers.

ChuggingWater · May 2013

agunnet:
I think you can join a fb group without sharing your profile or "friending" everyone

You realize people would know your name and could find out lots of information about you? You know, say there was drama or say someone went well of the deep end?

Those of us who have been around the bump for years have seen it happened. Well, at least I have seen it numerous times in the past 5+ years.

mlebates · May 2013

I was a part of a group before my daughter was born, and we still over a year later actively talk to one another. It was just an idea. Plus you aren't "friends" with anyone on FB unless you want to. Also it would be a secret group. Plus the amount of info you share on here would be the same amount as you share on the FB group... so it would be no different.

mlebates · May 2013

Also... it's just an idea... if it isn't a good one... consider it later!! (maybe... lol)

Kathy4678 · May 2013

Yep this has already been discussed. I will pass. Thanks.

aessary03 · May 2013

I know you mean well ... and please don't take offense. But I just find it uninviting to join a FB group that a member who just joined the BMB today creates. It makes me a little nervous.

LittleMommaBlueHen · May 2013

Probably not a good idea so early on. My BMB for DD had massive fallout and drama. I was so glad I never joined after seeing the mess it created.

mlebates · May 2013

Nope! Not offensive at all. I was part of the November group, but lost my baby. So I wasn't sure where people were on the fb group. Plus I was involved in another group when I was pregnant with my daughter, and I loved it! So I just wanted to see where people stood on the subject.

aessary03 · May 2013

mlebates:
Nope! Not offensive at all. I was part of the November group, but lost my baby. So I wasn't sure where people were on the fb group. Plus I was involved in another group when I was pregnant with my daughter, and I loved it! So I just wanted to see where people stood on the subject.

I was on the August group and then had a m/c as well. I want to wait til my u/s on the 20th before I get really immersed because I don't want to have to bow out again .... it's heartbreaking!

folkfemme · May 2013

ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.

Dishylo · May 2013

lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.

Agreed.

LatteLady5 · May 2013

I can't imagine why anyone ever thinks this is a good idea. You are giving your personal information out to complete strangers. Information like your name, where you live, who you're married to, where you work, who your family members are etc.

There are going to be threads filled with discussion, drama, debate and disagreement about circumcision, natural birth, CIO, vaccinations, spanking, FF vs. RF, etc. People are going to get pissed and then guess what, your information is out there and could end up posted here. Yeah it's a TOS violations but it's happened before.

If you were considering joining a facebook group, wouldn't it to make sense to at least wait a few months? Get a feel for the board and the active posters. The only think you know right now is the people in this group are expecting babies in January, and really, you don't even know that. I mean come on, you could be a creepy old man for all we know. Wink

Sorry OP but this is just a really terrible idea.

kschref · May 2013

So I don't really have an opinion on a Facebook group either way, but if we are all in a group, that doesn't mean we can automatically see all of everyone's info unless we friend each other, right? My account has high privacy settings, and I just checked and the only thing you can see is my profile picture, my timeline picture, and the friend request button. If I were to join a group, would that give people more access than what other people who aren't officially added as friends have access to? Just a little confused on this part of the issue.

Kathy4678 · May 2013

kschref:
So I don't really have an opinion on a Facebook group either way, but if we are all in a group, that doesn't mean we can automatically see all of everyone's info unless we friend each other, right? My account has high privacy settings, and I just checked and the only thing you can see is my profile picture, my timeline picture, and the friend request button. If I were to join a group, would that give people more access than what other people who aren't officially added as friends have access to? Just a little confused on this part of the issue.

I just don't even want my full name out there. Bishes be cray on the interwebz.

jldubb0626 · May 2013

kschref:
So I don't really have an opinion on a Facebook group either way, but if we are all in a group, that doesn't mean we can automatically see all of everyone's info unless we friend each other, right? My account has high privacy settings, and I just checked and the only thing you can see is my profile picture, my timeline picture, and the friend request button. If I were to join a group, would that give people more access than what other people who aren't officially added as friends have access to? Just a little confused on this part of the issue.

No - that's all anyone would be able to see, but if it's a secret group, you have to be friends with at least 1 person who's in the group to be added. If it's not a secret group, then anyone can search for it on FB and join - opening yourself up to random people joining.

OP- I love my FB group for my last BMB, but we didn't start joining together until a few months after our LO's were born and we really got to "know" each other first. I'm open to another FB group, just not this soon.

runnergrl6675 · May 2013

I never joined on my old BMB and I won't this time around either. I just don't trust having my name out there. A gal I went to high school with is being stalked via FB by some lunatic. Not risking my privacy.

LexGator · May 2013

runnergrl6675:
I never joined on my old BMB and I won't this time around either. I just don't trust having my name out there. A gal I went to high school with is being stalked via FB by some lunatic. Not risking my privacy.

Same here (we might have been on the same BMB looking at your LO's age). I like the sense of community these boards offer, and it gives a unique opportunity to share with mamas going through the same experience. That said, I don't share my name, and I don't post any pictures on the board or include anything in my signature. Even if you have a locked-down FB profile, like I do, you're posting in the group with your full name and profile picture (mine usually includes my DD in it).

I know a lot of the boards make FB groups, but I don't really get it. It's a more personal way to communicate, sure, but do you really want that with women who are effectively strangers? I don't.

jasnem · May 2013

I'm in the minority I guess and am for it. I was part of the Nov 13 fb for the short time and it was a great group of girls. The format on fb is so much easier to follow instead of opening every single post. Plus, you can't see anyone's information except for people's names. I wasn't "friends" with any one on the board and it was a secret group. Waiting a bit probably isn't a terrible idea though.

FormerlyKrista555 · May 2013

jasnem:
I'm in the minority I guess and am for it. I was part of the Nov 13 fb for the short time and it was a great group of girls. The format on fb is so much easier to follow instead of opening every single post. Plus, you can't see anyone's information except for people's names. I wasn't "friends" with any one on the board and it was a secret group. Waiting a bit probably isn't a terrible idea though.

I'm with you, but then, I also don't share crazy personal stuff on Facebook either. I don't mind anyone seeing my pics....I really don't care if people know my last name (I introduce myself to people every day and give them my full name), I avoid drama so I seriously doubt anyone would get mad at me enough to want to hunt me down, and if a person turned crazy, I would just block them and move along.

I understand completely other people's concerns, I just don't hold them myself.

sugarland726 · May 2013

lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.

Except this is the third time in a week this has been discussed. There are only 8 pages of posts. Search and see. Excuse us for being frustrated for answering the same question over and over again. I wish there was a way to make this sticky at the top so we don't have to rehash this again on Tuesday.

And for the record (yet again) I am part of a FB group for my BMB with DD and it's fantastic. Because we went our entire pregnancies and 6 months after their birth we migrated. So we knew each other for 15 months before moving.

kschref · May 2013

jasnem:
I'm in the minority I guess and am for it. I was part of the Nov 13 fb for the short time and it was a great group of girls. The format on fb is so much easier to follow instead of opening every single post. Plus, you can't see anyone's information except for people's names. I wasn't "friends" with any one on the board and it was a secret group. Waiting a bit probably isn't a terrible idea though.

I feel the same way about it. I'm a violinist and taught orchestra in public school for eight years. My name is published in symphony programs and on websites. My name and phone number is listed on flyers in music stores and websites of private teachers for anyone to find and call me for lessons. For years, hundreds of students and parents had my name and personal cell phone number so they could reach me on field trips and at performances. (and believe me, in teaching middle school, you come across some craaaazy parents sometimes, lol).

I also don't publish anything I don't want people to see on Facebook. I don't tag myself at locations, and the place in which I'm listed in living is not accurate. I was part of the Facebook group for August '13, and it was nice to have their support when I had my second loss. That being said, I'm not pushing for a group now or anything if the general consensus is to wait. I'm just game for it whenever.

folkfemme · May 2013

sugarland726:
lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.
Except this is the third time in a week this has been discussed. There are only 8 pages of posts. Search and see. Excuse us for being frustrated for answering the same question over and over again. I wish there was a way to make this sticky at the top so we don't have to rehash this again on Tuesday.
And for the record (yet again) I am part of a FB group for my BMB with DD and it's fantastic. Because we went our entire pregnancies and 6 months after their birth we migrated. So we knew each other for 15 months before moving.

I've been around for a long time. I know how to use the search function. I was simply stating that there's no need to be snarky when responding to others questions. There are much better ways to decline. Or, better yet, if you don't like it, or it's a repeat post, keep scrolling.

The bump fames itself on being snarky. I've never played into it, and I find it highly unattractive. I'm here to get to know and support other women who are experiencing similar things. I'm not here to make others feel bad for suggesting things, even if it has been suggested before.

sugarland726 · May 2013

lovelovelovelovelove:
sugarland726:
lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.
Except this is the third time in a week this has been discussed. There are only 8 pages of posts. Search and see. Excuse us for being frustrated for answering the same question over and over again. I wish there was a way to make this sticky at the top so we don't have to rehash this again on Tuesday.
And for the record (yet again) I am part of a FB group for my BMB with DD and it's fantastic. Because we went our entire pregnancies and 6 months after their birth we migrated. So we knew each other for 15 months before moving.

I've been around for a long time. I know how to use the search function. I was simply stating that there's no need to be snarky when responding to others questions. There are much better ways to decline. Or, better yet, if you don't like it, or it's a repeat post, keep scrolling.

The bump fames itself on being snarky. I've never played into it, and I find it highly unattractive. I'm here to get to know and support other women who are experiencing similar things. I'm not here to make others feel bad for suggesting things, even if it has been suggested before.

I'm surprised you're still around the bump when you admit don't like snark. Obviously the search comment wasn't directed at you given that you are not the OP. No one was snarky the first time the questions was asked. No one was snarky the second time it was asked. But having the same question asked a third time in a week makes people eye roll.

If you want to make a Facebook group, be my guest. We have just repeatedly tried to suggest that people wait if they want a higher turn out.

And LOL at you finding snark highly unattractive. I so care that some internet stranger is trying to chastise and judge me for snark.

genaruthp · May 2013

The one I am in from my DD started when we were about 5 months pregnant. In the past 2 years we have had to weed out a bunch of crazies. I really think it is just too early to jump in on one yet.

ChuggingWater · May 2013

lovelovelovelovelove:
sugarland726:
lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.
Except this is the third time in a week this has been discussed. There are only 8 pages of posts. Search and see. Excuse us for being frustrated for answering the same question over and over again. I wish there was a way to make this sticky at the top so we don't have to rehash this again on Tuesday.
And for the record (yet again) I am part of a FB group for my BMB with DD and it's fantastic. Because we went our entire pregnancies and 6 months after their birth we migrated. So we knew each other for 15 months before moving.

I've been around for a long time. I know how to use the search function. I was simply stating that there's no need to be snarky when responding to others questions. There are much better ways to decline. Or, better yet, if you don't like it, or it's a repeat post, keep scrolling.

The bump fames itself on being snarky. I've never played into it, and I find it highly unattractive. I'm here to get to know and support other women who are experiencing similar things. I'm not here to make others feel bad for suggesting things, even if it has been suggested before.

Sorry. I am not big into puppies and rainbows.

How about the P&R ladies just go ahead and make that facebook page?

jes43 · May 2013

ChuggingWater:
lovelovelovelovelove:
sugarland726:
lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met.  They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed. 
Except this is the third time in a week this has been discussed. There are only 8 pages of posts. Search and see. Excuse us for being frustrated for answering the same question over and over again. I wish there was a way to make this sticky at the top so we don't have to rehash this again on Tuesday.
And for the record (yet again) I am part of a FB group for my BMB with DD and it's fantastic. Because we went our entire pregnancies and 6 months after their birth we migrated. So we knew each other for 15 months before moving.

I've been around for a long time. I know how to use the search function. I was simply stating that there's no need to be snarky when responding to others questions. There are much better ways to decline. Or, better yet, if you don't like it, or it's a repeat post, keep scrolling. 

The bump fames itself on being snarky. I've never played into it, and I find it highly unattractive. I'm here to get to know and support other women who are experiencing similar things. I'm not here to make others feel bad for suggesting things, even if it has been suggested before.

Sorry.  I am not big into puppies and rainbows.   

How about the P&R ladies just go ahead and make that facebook page?

I was the first to suggest the FB page last week.... If you look through my comments/posts you will see I am certainly not "PR".... Elaborate? It's a flipping suggestion, no need for BS regarding a flipping FB page.... Save it for something a little more fun interesting like..... Oh I dunno, circs or breast feeding, vbacs or gender reveal parties.... There was a post earlier this week about how boring this BMB was.... If we're gonna start the "excitement", for the love.... Please let it be over something more entertaining than a FB page....

mlebates · May 2013

jes43:
ChuggingWater:
lovelovelovelovelove:
sugarland726:
lovelovelovelovelove:
ChuggingWater:
I think there are quite a few of us who are smart enough not to share our entire lives with people we just met. They cray cray hasn't even been weeded out.

Good luck with that.

Sigh. A simple "Not for me." would have sufficed.
Except this is the third time in a week this has been discussed. There are only 8 pages of posts. Search and see. Excuse us for being frustrated for answering the same question over and over again. I wish there was a way to make this sticky at the top so we don't have to rehash this again on Tuesday.
And for the record (yet again) I am part of a FB group for my BMB with DD and it's fantastic. Because we went our entire pregnancies and 6 months after their birth we migrated. So we knew each other for 15 months before moving.

I've been around for a long time. I know how to use the search function. I was simply stating that there's no need to be snarky when responding to others questions. There are much better ways to decline. Or, better yet, if you don't like it, or it's a repeat post, keep scrolling.

The bump fames itself on being snarky. I've never played into it, and I find it highly unattractive. I'm here to get to know and support other women who are experiencing similar things. I'm not here to make others feel bad for suggesting things, even if it has been suggested before.

Sorry. I am not big into puppies and rainbows.

How about the P&R ladies just go ahead and make that facebook page?
I was the first to suggest the FB page last week.... If you look through my comments/posts you will see I am certainly not "PR".... Elaborate? It's a flipping suggestion, no need for BS regarding a flipping FB page.... Save it for something a little more fun interesting like..... Oh I dunno, circs or breast feeding, vbacs or gender reveal parties.... There was a post earlier this week about how boring this BMB was.... If we're gonna start the "excitement", for the love.... Please let it be over something more entertaining than a FB page....

this made me giggle... Only because its SO TRUE!

katyms7 · May 2013

jasnem:
I'm in the minority I guess and am for it. I was part of the Nov 13 fb for the short time and it was a great group of girls. The format on fb is so much easier to follow instead of opening every single post. Plus, you can't see anyone's information except for people's names. I wasn't "friends" with any one on the board and it was a secret group. Waiting a bit probably isn't a terrible idea though.nbsp;

Agree with this on all points!

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