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Question about Mothers Day...

AmeliaKrisAmeliaKris member
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So BM has not contacted us about mother's day...in reality, we haven't heard from her in 4 weeks. Also, her phone was shut off 4 weeks ago when we last had contact. I feel bad that its mother's day and the kids probably wont see her. Normally, I would have them call her to atleast wish her a happy mother's day but this year she has no phone...also no computer either. So, my question is, do I ask the kids if they want to talk about it? Not bring it up at all? The kids have a mothers day church program so I know they will be thinking about it. WWYD? I don't want to neglect their feelings. I thought of maybe offering them to make her a card for when they see her next. I'm just not sure what the right thing to do is. This is the first year she has ignored the day completely.

Edit : the kids are 13 and 10.
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  • MommyEllenSueMommyEllenSue member
    Unless you see that it is causing them stress or they start talking about it then I would just let it go. It doesn't sound like she wants to be around right now and there's just not a lot you can do about that. Have fun enjoy the day
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  • AmeliaKrisAmeliaKris member
    Thanks. I wasn't sure what the appropriate thing to do was. I was leaning toward that but wasn't sure if I was off base.
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  • twister22twister22 member
    If the kids bring it up, I would offer to let them make her a card. If not, just let it go. And Happy almost Mother's Day to you! :)
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  • hopankahopanka member
    I would try to come up with something fun for them and show them and tell them they are loved by you and their dad. Honestly, even if they dont bring it up, tomorrow will certainly be a painful day for them. They will be vulnerable and sad inside, even if they act tough. It must sting deeply, their mom doesnt care too much. They may be in a bad mood tomorrow. I am sorry they and you have to go through that. Try to muscle through it and reassure them that they very special and they are loved.
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  • AmeliaKrisAmeliaKris member
    The younger one really latched onto me. She was 7 when I met her dad. She seems more adjusted to the situation. The older one has more issues of abandonment. He goes to counseling every other week. I see him struggling more. They will be spending a good chunk of the day with grandma and her dog...which the older one loves. I'm hoping a little pet therapy will help. I wish in my heart I could make bm different but I cant. We always say yes when she calls for visiting time as we never know when the next visit will be. I hope next year will be better for them. No summer schedule yet. I'm hoping she wants to see them some.
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