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MeatandBand a question

The FFFC got pretty long, so was not sure if you would see a response from me, so I figured I would ask you in a new thread. Promise it is not a call out or anything. I would do a PM, but it does not really work on the iPad, for me at least. Any how I am genuinely curious as to why you thought my confession was depressing? Does it sound sad? Do depressed people read magazines in their car alone? Would it be less depressing if I went to Barnes & Noble instead? But they would frown upon the smoking part :( is it because you would not think a mom would need to do that and the fact that she does depresses you? So what makes it depressing? Give it to me straight, don't hold out, I can take it!
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Re: MeatandBand a question

  • imageLadyofshallott86:
    I just wanted to say I don't think it was depressing at all. I thought it was a great way to get some uninterrupted time to yourself. Sometimes it's just nice to be alone with your thoughts and catch up on some smut Wink I totally get it. My DH and I have it worked out to where we are both allowed nights out periodically to do whatever we want...hang out with friends and drink or whatever, it's great to just be able to get away for a few hours or a night every now and then! 
    I am really glad you responded because I wanted to ask about your daughter in your siggy. She is so flippin cute! I was wondering though, is she wearing casts on her legs or are her thighs that chunky, which is adorable if they are because who does not love chunky baby thighs But my good friend had to do casts on her 10 month old to correct and issue with her feet and it kind of looked similar. If this seems like a rude question I am really sorry. And if her thighs are just that chunky all the better! Thanks also for the response, glad I am not alone in needing me time :)
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  • imagejefa621:
    I know you didn't ask me but here's what I think. nbsp;I don't think it's bad at all to want that alone time away from the house and kids. nbsp;What I think is depressing is that you have to lie to your husband to get it. nbsp;Why can't you just say you're going out to read magazines? nbsp;Will he forbid you from going if he knows what you're actually doing? nbsp;Going to the gym or reading magazines...they're both "me time" activities so why should it matter?nbsp;


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  • imagejefa621:

    I know you didn't ask me but here's what I think.  I don't think it's bad at all to want that alone time away from the house and kids.  What I think is depressing is that you have to lie to your husband to get it.  Why can't you just say you're going out to read magazines?  Will he forbid you from going if he knows what you're actually doing?  Going to the gym or reading magazines...they're both "me time" activities so why should it matter? 

    He does not forbid me from doing anything, well he would prefer I did not smoke ever, but he does not keep me from doing it. It is just when there is crazy chaos all the time having him think I go to an actual scheduled Yoga class every week makes it easier to peace out when things are crazy. I would feel bad leaving in the midst of bath time to say hey I am going to go read for 90 minutes, you cool with that? Just like if he did that to me and said hey I am going to go shoot guns right now. Instead he has a scheduled day every Wednesday that he shoots with his Skeet League so I know no matter what that is what he is doing on Wednesday evenings and he knows no matter what that Thursdays I go to yoga, I just don't go to yoga. What I really want is uninterrupted time to read and surf the Internet and have an occassional cigarette. And my weekly yoga class allows that! I could tell the truth and he would be fine with it, but it makes me feel a little less selfish by having him think I am working to become more Zen rather than pissing a way 90 minutes reading US Weekly ya know?
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  • I don't think it's bad if it works for you guys. I think this is one of those things that people don't get because it wouldn't work for them, and that's okay too. As a couple you just need to find out what works for you, and not worry if someone doesn't get it.

    I personally read my magazines in the hot tub with wine. I am sure if I had kids it would be harder to get this time alone. I totally get the alone time thing!

  • imageChancieMark:
    imageLadyofshallott86:
    imageChancieMark:

    Sometimes I turn the fan on in the bathroom and pretend like I'm taking a dump so I can sit on the floor and read Buzzfeed and play Candy Crush to regain my sanity.

    Go on haters, hate. 

    I will cut anyone that hates this....too amazing to hate. 

    I even flush the toilet and wash my hands. I'm a committed performer!

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  • imageChancieMark:

    Sometimes I turn the fan on in the bathroom and pretend like I'm taking a dump so I can sit on the floor and read Buzzfeed and play Candy Crush to regain my sanity.

    Go on haters, hate. 

    That's a good one! Another thing I have done when I am desperate is I will sneak a loaf of bread out to my car and then say oh shiit we are out of bread and I need it to make lunches for school tomorrow, I will just head to the store real quick to get some. And since I have the bread and don't need to go into the store I just bought myself about 30 minutes of free time! Then I walk in with the bread, proclaim how much I hate the grocery store because it takes forever and then life carries on!
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  • imageLuckbeababy:
    imageChancieMark:

    Sometimes I turn the fan on in the bathroom and pretend like I'm taking a dump so I can sit on the floor and read Buzzfeed and play Candy Crush to regain my sanity.

    Go on haters, hate.&nbsp;



    That's a good one! Another thing I have done when I am desperate is I will sneak a loaf of bread out to my car and then say oh shiit we are out of bread and I need it to make lunches for school tomorrow, I will just head to the store real quick to get some. And since I have the bread and don't need to go into the store I just bought myself about 30 minutes of free time! Then I walk in with the bread, proclaim how much I hate the grocery store because it takes forever and then life carries on!

    I think that is hysterical! I am jealous because I could never pull a fast one like that past DH. He always knows what's in the fridge. I have one question how do you explain that you're not paying for yoga class? I think your DH may be a really understanding guy and he may be onto your tricks.
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  • imageJulianneJacks:
    imageLuckbeababy:
    imageChancieMark:

    Sometimes I turn the fan on in the bathroom and pretend like I'm taking a dump so I can sit on the floor and read Buzzfeed and play Candy Crush to regain my sanity.

    Go on haters, hate.&nbsp;



    That's a good one! Another thing I have done when I am desperate is I will sneak a loaf of bread out to my car and then say oh shiit we are out of bread and I need it to make lunches for school tomorrow, I will just head to the store real quick to get some. And since I have the bread and don't need to go into the store I just bought myself about 30 minutes of free time! Then I walk in with the bread, proclaim how much I hate the grocery store because it takes forever and then life carries on!

    I think that is hysterical! I am jealous because I could never pull a fast one like that past DH. He always knows what's in the fridge. I have one question how do you explain that you're not paying for yoga class? I think your DH may be a really understanding guy and he may be onto your tricks.


    Good question, but I covered my bases. Thursday nights is when the studio offers a free yoga class! That is why I only go on that day because yoga is expensive! Truthfully though he may know and just let's me carry on with my charade, which makes me love him more :
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    Lying to your husband is never a good idea. 
  • imageMzBecky:
    Lying to your husband is never a good idea. 
    It may not be for everyone, but my weekly yoga class has made me a better mom so I am totally okay with it. Now if my yoga class was actually code word for 90 minutes of sex in the back of the car with the hot yoga instructor than yeah that might be a bad idea. But really, you have never lied to your husband like ever? I doubt that. I bet he has lied to you if you have ever asked him " do these jeans make me look fat?" because what woman has not asked the question? And how many husbands say yeah you look fat?
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  • imageGhostMonkey:

    imageLuckbeababy:
    imageMzBecky:
    Lying to your husband is never a good idea. 
    It may not be for everyone, but my weekly yoga class has made me a better mom so I am totally okay with it. Now if my yoga class was actually code word for 90 minutes of sex in the back of the car with the hot yoga instructor than yeah that might be a bad idea. But really, you have never lied to your husband like ever? I doubt that. I bet he has lied to you if you have ever asked him " do these jeans make me look fat?" because what woman has not asked the question? And how many husbands say yeah you look fat?

    Over major things like this? No, I have not lied to mine. You are naive if you think shiit won't hit the fan when you get caught.

    And if I look like shiit in something, my husband tells me so I don't leave the house in something people will gossip about behind my back. He's considerate like that.

     

    Here you go again assuming you know everyone's life by a few posts on the internet. I am very confident shiit will not hit the fan if I get caught reading an US Weekly when I should be doing a downward dog pose instead. Thank you for your concern though. That is wonderful that your husband is so considerate, mine is to and when my self esteem is low after just having a baby two months ago and I am sad about still carrying some of the weight and I ask my husband if I look fat, which I know I do and he says not at all, I kmow he is lying but he made me feel better. So I guess it can go both ways. I will make an assumption about your life now since you like to do it to others, sad that you have friends that will gossip behind your back about what you are wearing. You should get new friends.
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  • imageGhostMonkey:
    imageLuckbeababy:
    imageGhostMonkey:

    imageLuckbeababy:
    imageMzBecky:
    Lying to your husband is never a good idea. 
    It may not be for everyone, but my weekly yoga class has made me a better mom so I am totally okay with it. Now if my yoga class was actually code word for 90 minutes of sex in the back of the car with the hot yoga instructor than yeah that might be a bad idea. But really, you have never lied to your husband like ever? I doubt that. I bet he has lied to you if you have ever asked him " do these jeans make me look fat?" because what woman has not asked the question? And how many husbands say yeah you look fat?

    Over major things like this? No, I have not lied to mine. You are naive if you think shiit won't hit the fan when you get caught.

    And if I look like shiit in something, my husband tells me so I don't leave the house in something people will gossip about behind my back. He's considerate like that.

     

    Here you go again assuming you know everyone's life by a few posts on the internet. I am very confident shiit will not hit the fan if I get caught reading an US Weekly when I should be doing a downward dog pose instead. Thank you for your concern though. That is wonderful that your husband is so considerate, mine is to and when my self esteem is low after just having a baby two months ago and I am sad about still carrying some of the weight and I ask my husband if I look fat, which I know I do and he says not at all, I kmow he is lying but he made me feel better. So I guess it can go both ways. I will make an assumption about your life now since you like to do it to others, sad that you have friends that will gossip behind your back about what you are wearing. You should get new friends.

    LOL. 

    Butthurt much?

     

    GM please, please tell me where in my response you assume the fact that I am butthurt? My guess is anyone that challenges you and proves your theories incorrect becomes an automatic target for you to reach in to your little bag of insults and start throwing them out there rather than admitting that hey, she is right I don't know her life I have know idea now her husband will react, maybe I will just stay out of this one. But since we know you won't do that and since you have already offered your words of wisdom, please do tell why you think I am butthurt? Probably though you will just respond with another insult, like your over used duchecanoe & kduchenozzle or maybe you can call me a biitch and tell me to eat shiit, that one worked out great for you last time!
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  • imageGhostMonkey:

    Hey LBAB, maybe it's time for you to go do some yoga.

    ETA: Real or your version. Either would be good for you right about now.

    And I'm sure you'll go off on yet another diatribe about nothingness instead.

     

    Typical GM, avoiding the question. And duh, Yoga is on Thursdays, you should know that. Thanks though for adding so much to this post, now go ask your husband what looks good on you tonight so no one gossips about you behind your back.
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  • imageGhostMonkey:
    imageLuckbeababy:
    imageGhostMonkey:

    imageLuckbeababy:
    imageMzBecky:
    Lying to your husband is never a good idea. 
    It may not be for everyone, but my weekly yoga class has made me a better mom so I am totally okay with it. Now if my yoga class was actually code word for 90 minutes of sex in the back of the car with the hot yoga instructor than yeah that might be a bad idea. But really, you have never lied to your husband like ever? I doubt that. I bet he has lied to you if you have ever asked him " do these jeans make me look fat?" because what woman has not asked the question? And how many husbands say yeah you look fat?

    Over major things like this? No, I have not lied to mine. You are naive if you think shiit won't hit the fan when you get caught.

    And if I look like shiit in something, my husband tells me so I don't leave the house in something people will gossip about behind my back. He's considerate like that.

     

    Here you go again assuming you know everyone's life by a few posts on the internet. I am very confident shiit will not hit the fan if I get caught reading an US Weekly when I should be doing a downward dog pose instead. Thank you for your concern though. That is wonderful that your husband is so considerate, mine is to and when my self esteem is low after just having a baby two months ago and I am sad about still carrying some of the weight and I ask my husband if I look fat, which I know I do and he says not at all, I kmow he is lying but he made me feel better. So I guess it can go both ways. I will make an assumption about your life now since you like to do it to others, sad that you have friends that will gossip behind your back about what you are wearing. You should get new friends.

    LOL. 

    Butthurt much?

    ETA: LOL. Talk about assumptions. Who said anything about my friends saying anything? Strangers can see me too. Unlike you, I am quite aware of that.

    If your husband doesn't care, why do you lie to him? Hmmm?

     

    What does your ETA even mean? I am unaware that strangers can't see me? GM you are not making any sense. Stick with the posts about someone going to the doctor before the year mark, you are better at those ones. This was a funny thread, I don't think you can do funny. Now if you will my husband thinks I am out picking up milk so it is getting close to having to be back home so I gotta go. Always a pleasure.
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