Loss CheckIn

Mrs Nice · May 2013

Hello Ladies!

Welcome to our Friday checkin!

I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: How will you be spending Mother's Day? Do you hope that others will recognize you as a Mother or do you hope for solitude on this difficult day?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

shandorfml2 · May 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I don't know. Kind of status quo right now, but I did make it through work without breaking down

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Get through Mother's day. Then, get through Ana's burial on the 18th. THEN get through my bday. I will be happy when June comes!

QOTW: How will you be spending Mother's Day? Do you hope that others will recognize you as a Mother or do you hope for solitude on this difficult day? I hope people recognize me. I'll be with my parents. If people don't recognize me, that would be hurtful.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?Miss my baby girl. Dreading burying her because it will be so emotional. But looking forward to laying her to rest and being able to visit her.

SaltyDonut · May 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
Not really. I did allow myself to be visibly upset at home though, well really I couldn't hide it, the feeling/thoughts of how "life goes on" really hit me hard this week.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
My goals for next week are to finally update my resume and to get into a workout routine. I don't really have a plan to make that happen beyond just getting my behind up to do it.

QOTW: How will you be spending Mother's Day? Do you hope that others will recognize you as a Mother or do you hope for solitude on this difficult day?
I'm struggling with figuring out how to spend Mother's Day but my SO has already "reserved" my day. While I don't want to not acknowledge my mother who really has been a rock for me throughout my pregnancy, all I can think of doing is staying in bed with the shades down. It doesn't help that on Sunday it will be 4months since I said good-bye to Scottie. I don't know how I feel about being acknowledged on the day, I do not have any other children, so my first reaction makes me want to gut punch though..

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
This week I my mind has been full of the "should haves"... I should have been 39wks... I should have been prepping to go on maternity leave... I should have been in a whole different place that I am now. You get the drift...

MAYashes86 · May 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I was able to discuss my pregnancy with Benjamin with my new doctor without breaking down, and was able to smile mentioning him.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? To go to group Monday, and especially to make it through my doctors appointment next Wednesday without freaking out or crying.

QOTW: How will you be spending Mother's Day? Do you hope that others will recognize you as a Mother or do you hope for solitude on this difficult day? We only really celebrate birthdays & religious holidays, so this year won?t be any different. My birthday was last week though, & I chose not to celebrate at all, b/c I don?t feel I should anymore since Benjamin will never have a birthday.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Missing my son, worries for my future. Hating that there are still people that I?m not really close to that manage to pop up & ask me how my son is doing & I have to explain his death to them.

angelsnight · May 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? Just dealing with having returned to work. I left at noon on Monday and I took today off to make it easier for myself.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Make it through Mother's Day. I am not doing anything I don't want to do, like going out for brunch with my inlaws...ordinarily I might feel guilty and go for them, but I am not hesitating to take care of myself and do what I need to do.

QOTW: How will you be spending Mother's Day? Do you hope that others will recognize you as a Mother or do you hope for solitude on this difficult day? We hope to have a picnic lunch at our daughters grave, then possibly head out to visit my mom's grave and my grandma's. We'll also stop by and see my MIL and give her her gift. Yes I really hope people acknowledge that it is a hard day for me and that I am a mother.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I am looking forward to my RE appointment on Tuesday. I just got my first PP period so maybe I won't need much help after all, I am hopeful anyway.

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