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20thirteen
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Ugh, BD's mom
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So, I posted not too long ago about how BD's mom has taken over everything with the baby shower she was only supposed to help out with. My parent has been completely in the dark about everything and they are just not communicating at all (BTW, BD's mom only has sons, no daughters which is why some people think she's getting a little crazed). Her diaper raffle prize is this thing she was planning on throwing away until she was like "i can give it to twenty- and thirty-somethings! they'll love my trash!". The other day, instead of calling my parent, she sent me a message on facebook asking me how many people were going because "last I heard it was 4". No one knew that the one task she decided to let my parent have would be to handle the RSVP's. But on top of that, why does she contact me? She's got all the contact info for the guests, she also has my parent's phone number, she can call her and find out for herself! Now I'm finding out that I guess I'm starting to be put in charge of a shower I don't even want to go to. She invited a ton of her friends and they're all just as nerve-wrecking as she is. I just need to relax but every time I see a text or facebook message from her, my stress levels go through the roof. I still haven't completely gotten over her ruining my vacation, the one I so desperately needed but couldn't get any moment alone from her. Not sure who all has a situation with their ex's parents but any kind of stress relief ideas are totally welcome. Right now, the only thing that is barely keeping me together is the fact that they're moving after the baby is born to another state far away and I won't have to deal with them nearly as much. She expects, did not ask but practically demanded, that I get skype so she can see the baby. There are other things she expects of me too which is also driving me nuts. This is my kid, her son walked out and he doesn't get a say in what goes on and that is not my problem.
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Re: Ugh, BD's mom
no worries, rant away.
My advice: As soon as the shower is over, or he baby comes you tell her straight " this is my child. your son walked away. I appreciate you wanting to be involved but it needs to be on MY terms. I am a NEW mother and a SINGLE mother. Those are my concerns, not you. Your demands/requests are stressing me out and I can't take that on right now."
It will suck and be uncomfortable, but texts and facebook and pushiness are not going to go away just because she moves. Many women I know wish they would have put their foot down sooner with their MIL and didn't b/c they didn't want to upset their husbands. Well, you don't have to worry about that.
good luck.