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twister22
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Planning things for BD
twister22
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Here's the background if you want it:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73768782.aspx
I am now calling BD's DD (DS's sister) E, because that makes things much easier. And I'm just calling XGF/BM2 XG.
So this is the first weekend BD has a weekend with E, and per the TO, it is down in XG's state. BD & I played phone tag today, and we finally talked a bit ago. I ask him what the plan for tomorrow is. He says he has no idea. He goes on to say that he thinks it will be too much for us to drive 3.5 down there and too much for him & E to drive 3 hours to a meeting place we initially talked about, because that's where XG will be going there with E on Sunday, and BD thinks that's too much driving in a short period of time for E. There's not a ton to do in between.
He says why don't we plan for the next weekend he is down there with E. I remind him, again, that we will be gone Memorial day weekend for my BIL's wedding. Which means 6/8 would be the next chance for them to see each other.
So now since I am the one with a computer I am looking up things to do in a middle ground area. Ugh. Why couldn't BD plan things? Why couldn't BD figure this out? Why do I have to hold his hand, and why am I the one encouraging the relationship between DS & E more than BD is?!
I know I should just tell him to figure things out on his own, but I just can't. DS(4.5) and E(almost 2) haven't seen each other since 12/23/12, and DS has been asking about her, and BD says E asks about DS. So I just can't do it to the kids. After this weekend, I will leave it up to BD. Things should get easier, since BD will be able to take his EOWE up here after the 6/8 weekend, and then they have their court date 9/10 so things should be CO'd soon.
Now, back to figuring out where the heck the kids are meeting and what the heck everyone's going to do.
Oh, and I almost forgot, I will be kind of down in the middle ground area anyway tomorrow because I have some stuff I'm picking up from my cousin.
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Re: Planning things for BD
I couldn't find anything halfway. I found something that was 1/3 for us and 2/3 for BD. I told him that's all I could find, and he just said he'll wait until June 22nd when he gets to bring E up here for the weekend.
And this is not my fault. It's sad that DS & E will have to wait another month and a half to see each other, but it's not my responsibility to foster the relationship between DS & E. Ugh. I hate this.