Confessions, anyone?

missyishere · May 2013

It's been crickets around her, ladies, so let's hear 'em.

missyishere · May 2013

Tomorrow is SD's dance recital. She has a solo this year! I will have to take Nora, because anyone capable of watching her will be at the recital too. I am not looking forward to keeping her happy during the duration of the recital, and I am worried I will miss SDs big moment due to chasing around a toddler.

wilsontl19191 · May 2013

These canines are turning Preston into a major azzhole. All he does is whine, throw sh!t, hit us, and crank. ugh!!
He hasn't brushed his teeth in nearly a week and when Dh tried to wipe his teeth, P took a chunk out of his finger. F!ck that. And, sadly, he has watched more tv in the last week than I'd like to admit. With the high fever and snotty nose, it's all he wanted to do. I think I take Moty this week hands down.

missyishere · May 2013

wilsontl19191:
These canines are turning Preston into a major azzhole. All he does is whine, throw sh!t, hit us, and crank. ugh!!
He hasn't brushed his teeth in nearly a week and when Dh tried to wipe his teeth, P took a chunk out of his finger. F!ck that. And, sadly, he has watched more tv in the last week than I'd like to admit. With the high fever and snotty nose, it's all he wanted to do. I think I take Moty this week hands down.

N is still breaking in her bottom molars. She just broke through her top molars after 8 months of not breaking any teeth. She's been a nightmare and a half. She's currently sitting on my lap watching Super Why to keep her from whining. If you're a terrible Mom, then so am I.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

My boss is working from home today it is supposed to get up to 80. I have very little intention of getting much work done will likely take a long lunch leave early.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

Ugh stupid bump mobile not letting me use ampersands!

HappyAardvark · May 2013

I'm going for the DILLIGAF mom merit badge today:
1. Wes found the old basket of dog toys, that the dogs don't play with. He's obsessed with this little kangaroo stuffed toy and has been carrying it around with him and kissing it. IDGAF.

2. He's obsessed with eating ice cube chips that fall on the kitchen floor from our over zealous ice dispenser. If he hears it come on, he comes running and tries to grab all the pieces off of the floor before I can get them. Again, IDGAF.

rubysue267 · May 2013

I feel like the ultimate terrible person/daughter for this, but I'm just going to put it out there.

My family tends to dominate every holiday, birthday, special occasion, etc. I don't think it's intentional - of the three of us, I'm the only kid who's married and has a child, so I think it just doesn't dawn on my family that we need to split our time between them and DH's family. So each holiday they just assume that we'll be available and will only spend it with them. On Monday, I got an email from my dad asking for us to come home on Sunday and celebrate Mother's Day for my mom. Maybe it was the way it was worded or maybe it's because this has happened every single holiday/birthday/occasion before, but it always starts with "let's get together" and then it's up to ME to determine what we eat and to make it all. We don't live far away by any means (it's a little over an hour to drive there) but we live the furthest and I selfishly don't want to spend my mother's day in the car, trying to keep my parent's untrained dog from being aggressive and biting DS (that's a whole other issue in itself), preparing and cooking the meal, then driving back home late Sunday night just to hit the hay and get back to work. I don't want to sound like a mommy martyr, but Monday - Friday I see DS for about 45 mins before work and then 1.5-2 hours after work before he goes to bed. All I really want for Mother's Day is to spend a full, stress-free day with my kid.

I feel really guilty about this and feel like a complete jerk for wanting to stay home, but my family hardly ever makes an effort to visit us and sometimes it feels one-sided. I don't want to make Mother's Day a battle over principle but I do think it's unfair that my family continually expects us to prioritize them over my ILs (it's my MIL's mother's day, too).

morsey2011 · May 2013

I am already pissed about something to do with DD's birthday party. Which is 5 and half months away. MIL told us they can't come and wants us to drive up the weekend before and have a party at their house or have our party a different day. Umm no. Her birthday is on a Saturday this year and her party will be that day.

missyishere · May 2013

morsey2011:
I am already pissed about something to do with DD's birthday party. Which is 5 and half months away. MIL told us they can't come and wants us to drive up the weekend before and have a party at their house or have our party a different day. Umm no. Her birthday is on a Saturday this year and her party will be that day.

What's wrong with you? You're totes supposed to schedule your child's birthday around someone else's needs. You're so selfish. /sarcasm

Can you all just do a lunch with your in-laws, so they shut up and still celebrate the following Saturday?

morsey2011 · May 2013

missyishere:
morsey2011:
I am already pissed about something to do with DD's birthday party. Which is 5 and half months away. MIL told us they can't come and wants us to drive up the weekend before and have a party at their house or have our party a different day. Umm no. Her birthday is on a Saturday this year and her party will be that day.
What's wrong with you?  You're totes supposed to schedule your child's birthday around someone else's needs.  You're so selfish.  /sarcasm
Can you all just do a lunch with your in-laws, so they shut up and still celebrate the following Saturday?

I am sure we will do something because I usually give in. I am not in the mood today to be polite. We are traveling with them and my FIL drives me BSC. When she told me, I didn't hide my annoyance.

Chunstad · May 2013

rubysue267:
I feel like the ultimate terrible person/daughter for this, but I'm just going to put it out there.
My family tends to dominate every holiday, birthday, special occasion, etc. I don't think it's intentional - of the three of us, I'm the only kid who's married and has a child, so I think it just doesn't dawn on my family that we need to split our time between them and DH's family. So each holiday they just assume that we'll be available and will only spend it with them. On Monday, I got an email from my dad asking for us to come home on Sunday and celebrate Mother's Day for my mom. Maybe it was the way it was worded or maybe it's because this has happened every single holiday/birthday/occasion before, but it always starts with "let's get together" and then it's up to ME to determine what we eat and to make it all. We don't live far away by any means (it's a little over an hour to drive there) but we live the furthest and I selfishly don't want to spend my mother's day in the car, trying to keep my parent's untrained dog from being aggressive and biting DS (that's a whole other issue in itself), preparing and cooking the meal, then driving back home late Sunday night just to hit the hay and get back to work. I don't want to sound like a mommy martyr, but Monday - Friday I see DS for about 45 mins before work and then 1.5-2 hours after work before he goes to bed. All I really want for Mother's Day is to spend a full, stress-free day with my kid.
I feel really guilty about this and feel like a complete jerk for wanting to stay home, but my family hardly ever makes an effort to visit us and sometimes it feels one-sided. I don't want to make Mother's Day a battle over principle but I do think it's unfair that my family continually expects us to prioritize them over my ILs (it's my MIL's mother's day, too).

Oh my goodness, Rubysue, I'm so sorry about your situation. In my opinion, they obviously need a come-to-Jesus. Your time is precious, and for you to drive all the way there, MAKE the effing dinner, and drive back? Wow. They sure are expecting a lot of you. Maybe this year you could meet in the middle at a restaurant? It might be a bit too late to tell them you'll be skipping Mothers Day festivities, but maybe it could be a good time to talk about next year.

I keep on thinking your husband and baby are your priority now. I'm surprised that they don't see that.

amyc216 · May 2013

I bought the special "Bachelor" edition of People magazine yesterday. I just noticed on my receipt that bastard was $5.20!

Elsa1984 · May 2013

rubysue267:
I feel like the ultimate terrible person/daughter for this, but I'm just going to put it out there. My family tends to dominate every holiday, birthday, special occasion, etc. I don't think it's intentional of the three of us, I'm the only kid who's married and has a child, so I think it just doesn't dawn on my family that we need to split our time between them and DH's family. So each holiday they just assume that we'll be available and will only spend it with them. On Monday, I got an email from my dad asking for us to come home on Sunday and celebrate Mother's Day for my mom. Maybe it was the way it was worded or maybe it's because this has happened every single holiday/birthday/occasion before, but it always starts with "let's get together" and then it's up to ME to determine what we eat and to make it all. We don't live far away by any means it's a little over an hour to drive there but we live the furthest and I selfishly don't want to spend my mother's day in the car, trying to keep my parent's untrained dog from being aggressive and biting DS that's a whole other issue in itself, preparing and cooking the meal, then driving back home late Sunday night just to hit the hay and get back to work. I don't want to sound like a mommy martyr, but Monday Friday I see DS for about 45 mins before work and then 1.52 hours after work before he goes to bed. All I really want for Mother's Day is to spend a full, stressfree day with my kid. I feel really guilty about this and feel like a complete jerk for wanting to stay home, but my family hardly ever makes an effort to visit us and sometimes it feels onesided. I don't want to make Mother's Day a battle over principle but I do think it's unfair that my family continually expects us to prioritize them over my ILs it's my MIL's mother's day, too.

Do not feel guilty about thinking this at all! My family is the same way for every holiday. My IL's always schedule around my family's get togethers, are very easy going, and aren't phased if we cannot make it to a get together. My family is the opposite. I think it is because Gator is the first grandkid for my parents, first baby born in 16 years, and there are no other babies planned unless SO and I have another. So they want Gator there. Except they fail to realize that we have a life too. On Christmas, we got 30min with Gator in the morning to open her gifts before having to race to IL's so we could be at my parents by 1:30pm. Then my family was annoyed we didn't spend all day with them. This Mother's Day, my mom wants to have a BBQ and is all bent out of shape because I asked if we could do it Saturday night instead because I wanted to go to the beach for Mother's Day. She said okay and then the next day asked if we could do it on Sunday after we went to the beach because it would be "easier". Easier for who? you think after a long day at the beach i am going to want to take a cranky toddler to a bbq? No. Heaven for forbid I don't celebrate on the ACTUAL day with them.

Elsa1984 · May 2013

Packerfan79:
I'm getting a shoulder tattoo tomorrow as part of my mother's day gift from DH.nbsp; This is what I am getting except the name is Shane for my DS.nbsp; Its my second one.nbsp; The first tat I got was a tramp stamp.nbsp; I know, you're all shocked.

That looks cool! I always wanted to get my kids birthday in Roman numerals on the inside of my wrist. That is....until I had Gator and noticed it would be
"X XXX MMXI"

And it looks funny to me with so many X's

rubysue267 · May 2013

Chunstad:
rubysue267:
I feel like the ultimate terrible person/daughter for this, but I'm just going to put it out there.
My family tends to dominate every holiday, birthday, special occasion, etc. I don't think it's intentional - of the three of us, I'm the only kid who's married and has a child, so I think it just doesn't dawn on my family that we need to split our time between them and DH's family. So each holiday they just assume that we'll be available and will only spend it with them. On Monday, I got an email from my dad asking for us to come home on Sunday and celebrate Mother's Day for my mom. Maybe it was the way it was worded or maybe it's because this has happened every single holiday/birthday/occasion before, but it always starts with "let's get together" and then it's up to ME to determine what we eat and to make it all. We don't live far away by any means (it's a little over an hour to drive there) but we live the furthest and I selfishly don't want to spend my mother's day in the car, trying to keep my parent's untrained dog from being aggressive and biting DS (that's a whole other issue in itself), preparing and cooking the meal, then driving back home late Sunday night just to hit the hay and get back to work. I don't want to sound like a mommy martyr, but Monday - Friday I see DS for about 45 mins before work and then 1.5-2 hours after work before he goes to bed. All I really want for Mother's Day is to spend a full, stress-free day with my kid.
I feel really guilty about this and feel like a complete jerk for wanting to stay home, but my family hardly ever makes an effort to visit us and sometimes it feels one-sided. I don't want to make Mother's Day a battle over principle but I do think it's unfair that my family continually expects us to prioritize them over my ILs (it's my MIL's mother's day, too).
Oh my goodness, Rubysue, I'm so sorry about your situation. In my opinion, they obviously need a come-to-Jesus. Your time is precious, and for you to drive all the way there, MAKE the effing dinner, and drive back? Wow. They sure are expecting a lot of you. Maybe this year you could meet in the middle at a restaurant? It might be a bit too late to tell them you'll be skipping Mothers Day festivities, but maybe it could be a good time to talk about next year.
I keep on thinking your husband and baby are your priority now. I'm surprised that they don't see that.

Thanks Chunstad and Papps! I agree that I just need to say no and try not to feel guilty about it. My family is great and I love them to death, but I hate that my automatic reaction is to feel like I'm being incredibly selfish to want to have my *own* mother's day. I'm trying to maintain boundaries in a gentle and consistent way without falling into the emotional booby traps, but my mom can be emotionally reactionary and easily insulted. I've sorting through a lot of feelings on this in general so I guess I'm already on-edge when it comes to my family. I know that I can't reasonably make everyone happy and I need to really accept that fact and quit wringing my hands over it.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

Packerfan79:
I'm getting a shoulder tattoo tomorrow as part of my mother's day gift from DH.nbsp; This is what I am getting except the name is Shane for my DS.nbsp; Its my second one.nbsp; The first tat I got was a tramp stamp.nbsp; I know, you're all shocked.

I have a tramp stamp too but it's one of 11 so I don't feel so bad about it. I want to get tattoos of my DDs' footprints on my feet Em on the left and DD2 on the right. Maybe next year for Mother's Day.

rubysue267 · May 2013

Elsa1984:
rubysue267:
I feel like the ultimate terrible person/daughter for this, but I'm just going to put it out there. My family tends to dominate every holiday, birthday, special occasion, etc. I don't think it's intentional of the three of us, I'm the only kid who's married and has a child, so I think it just doesn't dawn on my family that we need to split our time between them and DH's family. So each holiday they just assume that we'll be available and will only spend it with them. On Monday, I got an email from my dad asking for us to come home on Sunday and celebrate Mother's Day for my mom. Maybe it was the way it was worded or maybe it's because this has happened every single holiday/birthday/occasion before, but it always starts with "let's get together" and then it's up to ME to determine what we eat and to make it all. We don't live far away by any means it's a little over an hour to drive there but we live the furthest and I selfishly don't want to spend my mother's day in the car, trying to keep my parent's untrained dog from being aggressive and biting DS that's a whole other issue in itself, preparing and cooking the meal, then driving back home late Sunday night just to hit the hay and get back to work. I don't want to sound like a mommy martyr, but Monday Friday I see DS for about 45 mins before work and then 1.52 hours after work before he goes to bed. All I really want for Mother's Day is to spend a full, stressfree day with my kid. I feel really guilty about this and feel like a complete jerk for wanting to stay home, but my family hardly ever makes an effort to visit us and sometimes it feels onesided. I don't want to make Mother's Day a battle over principle but I do think it's unfair that my family continually expects us to prioritize them over my ILs it's my MIL's mother's day, too.
Do not feel guilty about thinking this at all! My family is the same way for every holiday. My IL's always schedule around my family's get togethers, are very easy going, and aren't phased if we cannot make it to a get together. My family is the opposite. I think it is because Gator is the first grandkid for my parents, first baby born in 16 years, and there are no other babies planned unless SO and I have another. So they want Gator there. Except they fail to realize that we have a life too. On Christmas, we got 30min with Gator in the morning to open her gifts before having to race to IL's so we could be at my parents by 1:30pm. Then my family was annoyed we didn't spend all day with them. This Mother's Day, my mom wants to have a BBQ and is all bent out of shape because I asked if we could do it Saturday night instead because I wanted to go to the beach for Mother's Day. She said okay and then the next day asked if we could do it on Sunday after we went to the beach because it would be "easier". Easier for who? you think after a long day at the beach i am going to want to take a cranky toddler to a bbq? No. Heaven for forbid I don't celebrate on the ACTUAL day with them.

YES. I'm so sorry you have to deal with the same thing - it is really stressful and takes a lot of the fun out of the holidays. My ILs are always getting the shaft and it's not fair that they're consistently priority #2 just because they're easy going. And the "it's just easier" line: I SO understand. It always just feels like they're saying, "it's just easier for you to drop everything for us than to recognize your priorities outside of this family". I had a boundaries "come to Jesus" with them a couple years ago (pre-kids, pre-marriage) and they didn't speak to me for about 6 weeks. I just want to find a balance between being completely honest (alienating my family) and faking it (alienating myself). It's hard.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

I came back from lunch at 1 and I'm really struggling. I told myself I had to stay until 3 but now I'm not so sure I can.

Shannon526 · May 2013

I have a few I guess...

1. Since having H, I've realized that the saying, "it takes a village to raise a child" is pretty true. I know MH and I could do this on our own if we had to, but honestly, having the extra set(s) of hands around to just hold/occupy one LO is a huuuuge help. It's been making me think twice about moving further away from my family. I still haven't told MH that I'd prefer to look closer to where we live currently, he still thinks I'm cool with moving 30-40 minutes north (more w/ traffic of course).. but I'm scared to tell him I changed my mind. He's been having a tough go of it here recently, and I totally understand. Who really wants to live with their MIL? No one haha.

2. L's molars are coming in. Almost all at the same time. It's been hell. Up until recently, she's only had 8 teeth, 4 on top, 4 on bottom. I brought her to the doctor's today because she has conjunctivitis and puked a couple days ago. Apparently the molars are causing all of that?? Nuts, I tell ya. I've pretty much done anything I could think of to keep her from whining.. so Wilson, I'm right there with you on the MOTY haha I've given her chocolate pudding pops, chocolate milk, anything frozen/cold/not good for you.. she's had it lol.

3. I'm seriously considering not picking up anything L throws on the ground for one day just to see how much of a mess she can make.. just so MH (and other family members) can see how much of a Tasmanian devil she is. It's a full time job trying to keep this house even halfway clean!

karinothing · May 2013

My confession is I am glad that DS has had his molars and canines since 15 months or so. Three months with no teething has been awesomesauce!

Scramblersmom · May 2013

I am feeling really overwhelmed this week with everything going on and I am feeling unappreciated. DH does a lot of domestic duties, but no matter what, I am still carrying at least 75% of the load including all of the organizing and planning. Right now we are in the middle of getting our house refinanced, new windows installed, my Mom is coming to visit today for the weekend, my brother and his family and MIL are coming tomorrow for dinner, and we are getting ready to leave for a week to attend a conference. It is also Provider Appreciation Day at daycare today so I had to arrange for food delivery, buy gifts for the teachers and pick up plates, cups, etc. at the store this morning. When DH told me he didn't want to commute in together this morning I broke down in tears because I had a ton of errands to run with DS before I could drop him off at daycare. I was hoping DH and I would go in together so he could stay with DS in the car while I ran into the store, etc. This is on top of working full-time. I really feel like DH doesn't "get it" about how much work has to be done to make everything happen.

Anyway, I guess this ended up being more of a vent than a confession but I am just having a hard time handling everything this last week. I know these are all great things that are happening but I am exhausted. I want to go home early to take a nap so I am not a crab when my Mom arrives but the contractor is drilling and sawing at our home right now. Huh?

Elsa1984 · May 2013

My confession is that Gator has a allergic reaction to something since Tues and I had no Benadryl in the house. I was trying to figure out what she was reacting too. She was breathing fine and everything, just breaking out in random spots in a bumpy red rash. Last night the grocery store didnt have any Benadryl. This morning I got her up and the entire area where her jammies were was all rash and she was pissed as hell. Of course it's a day where I have to work 10hrs. So I run to Walgreens for Benadryl and they are closed. I race to Safeway, finally find Children's Benadryl and give her some once I get to work and it went away within an hour. Then it dawned on me....we had switched laundry detergent. Ugh. MOTY.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

I left work at 2:30.

Elsa1984 · May 2013

lisamonkee11:
I left work at 2:30.

Hahahaha! At least it is 2:30 over there....it's only 12:30 here. I have been at work now for 4.5 hours and still have another 5.5 hours to go. Yawn.

Scramblersmom · May 2013

lisamonkee11:
I left work at 2:30.

I am right behind you...although I am on Pacific time. Embarrassed

Elsa1984 · May 2013

Oh I have another and I will probably get flamed hardcore for it:

I am sick of people bitching about how Michelle Obama should stay out of their business and the way they feed their kids. Funny thing, is all of the people I know what complain about it, have kids that are extremely overweight and they feed them nothing but crappy food. Sometimes I just want to say "I am sorry that Michelle Obama is trying to help kids like your son see the benefits of exercising and eating healthy. It's not his fault what you, the parent, are buying at the store. You are the person to blame. Your getting defensive because you know that you are ruining your child's body......"

Scramblersmom · May 2013

Elsa1984:
Oh I have another and I will probably get flamed hardcore for it: I am sick of people bitching about how Michelle Obama should stay out of their business and the way they feed their kids. Funny thing, is all of the people I know what complain about it, have kids that are extremely overweight and they feed them nothing but crappy food. Sometimes I just want to say "I am sorry that Michelle Obama is trying to help kids like your son see the benefits of exercising and eating healthy. It's not his fault what you, the parent, are buying at the store. You are the person to blame. Your getting defensive because you know that you are ruining your child's body......"

We can get flamed together since I agree with you on this 100%. I don't mind paying taxes to support the school lunch program, especially for poor kids, but I do mind if that money is going to buy sh*t food. Lunch is probably the best meal some of these kids will have all day and it should be healthy food rather than process, fried, fatty crap.

Ms.Jade · May 2013

My confession is that E does some amazing things but I refuse to tell anyone because some of the moms I know will think that I'm bragging and or won't believe me. It doesn't help that she's basically the Warner Bros. frog (bonus points if you're old like me and remember that cartoon) and won't do some of the things when other people are looking. Luckily, my sis who watches her for me has started recording her and it's awesome. I still won't post it on FB though.

pennysuedog · May 2013

Elsa1984:
Oh I have another and I will probably get flamed hardcore for it: I am sick of people bitching about how Michelle Obama should stay out of their business and the way they feed their kids. Funny thing, is all of the people I know what complain about it, have kids that are extremely overweight and they feed them nothing but crappy food. Sometimes I just want to say "I am sorry that Michelle Obama is trying to help kids like your son see the benefits of exercising and eating healthy. It's not his fault what you, the parent, are buying at the store. You are the person to blame. Your getting defensive because you know that you are ruining your child's body......"

Well, I have a problem with the new lunch program especially portion sizes. My skinny kids are starving. Plus, it is really hard for kids who have loose teeth to eat raw veggies, can we offer cooked ones too? I'm all for eating healthier but I hate having to pack extra food so my son doesn't suffer hunger pangs during the day. I buy school lunch because we are not organized enough to make lunches here, yet I'm still making lunches. What a waste of nearly 1k a year!

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