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jkob8 · May 2013

I started my TTC about 2.5 yrs ago. Our 1st year was naturally, and when we were getting no where after quite some time we sought out professional help. The testing lead us to a male factor and right into our first round of IVF. Everything went great we had 20 eggs and several that fertilized, but doctors insisted only placing one in. We went ahead and followed professional advice, and ended in a chemical pregnancy about 4 weeks later. We then did round two of IVF, and put two eggs in, made it to our 6th week ultrasound and the UT couldn't find a heartbeat and didn't notice much growth from week 5, she said the dr will call later. The doctor called and said I'd need a D&C or wait to miscarry. I ended up miscarrying the day after Christmas. We went ahead with round 3 but took the advice of the doctors again and decided to do CGH and have DS on top of my DH. We only had one normal embryo (DH sperm). Ended up with BFN on Monday. So as if the BFN wasn't enough on Monday, but yesterday I emailed my doctor some questions for the follow-up appointment in 2 weeks. She got back to me instantly, which I wasn't expecting it was just to give her an idea where our heads were at prior to the appointment. She informed us that not only do we still have a male factor but the CGH testing is showing a severe female issue as well. I have diminished ovarian reserve manifesting along with a very high rate of aneuploidy. So pretty much my chances of reproducing are very slim. She said we will discuss egg donation in great depth at our next appointment, and to keep an open mind to it. I am not against ED and welcome the idea, but was just shocked. This whole time my body was reacting the beds great, my lining was always good, and I created SEVERAL mature eggs. But regardless none of that matters because the egg quality is too poor. So now I am scared out of my mind because this last round cost soooo much money, and from what I see ED isn't the cheapest either. However, it looks like we are running out of options and are at the end of the road. Its either ED or adoption.......

LittleLady77 · May 2013

Hi and welcome.

I'm so sorry your journey has been a difficult one so far. Infertility sucks!

I also have an egg quality issue and it was beyond heartbreaking for me to learn I would never be able to have a biological child. I cried nonstop for months. I had to go through the process of mourning the loss of the biological link before we felt comfortable moving forward.

After I became okay with the idea of egg donation I started in my research phase. When I found several articles on epigenetics in egg donation I knew we had made the right choice. Today I'm completely comfortable and excited to be moving forward.

As far as the cost goes, it is steep. You can start by looking into fresh vs. frozen cycles. If you are going to do fresh then you might consider doing a shared cycle vs having your own donor. If you are planning on using donor sperm as well you might want to look into embryo adoption as well. Ultimately there are a lot of different options out there for you that might bring down the cost a bit.

Best of luck.

ladyrader0227 · May 2013

I am sorry you are dealing with this. I have diminished reserve as well - it was pretty hard to accept that I wouldn't have a biological child. I agree with the previous post - check out epigenetics. Pretty neat stuff! I hope your next consult with the RE goes well. Big hugs!

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