UO Thursday

amyc216 · May 2013

Nita2603 · May 2013

I am sick of the 'everybody wins' mindset we have these days. Not everybody needs to get a trophy, people win and lose and kids have to get used to that.
It is a hard lesson, but there is only one first place. I really don't see why it cannot be like that.

Also the 'we don't hit' mentality is something that bugs me. Now, I don't want him to start shiit, but I will make sure that he is the one who ends it. The parent who tells me that my son cannot push back when their spawn of Satan pushes him, is in for a surprise.

cantalopes24 · May 2013

Woodsie:
I judge a childhood family friend who sent very expensive looking, trifold, double sided save the dates, including several engagement photos, both of their life stories, the story of how they met, and sent almost a year in advance. The wedding is about a 2 hour drive away. We just got the invite in the mail, and they were very obviously slapped together, crooked, and didn't even include the date of the wedding [ I tossed the STD long ago]. And the kicker is that we are only invited to the dance AND registry info was included in the invite. I also just got a Facebook invite from the bride for her own bridal shower. Really? You want me to save a date for almost a year, drive 4 hours round trip, arrange child care and accommodations, and buy you a shower and a wedding gift, when I'm only good enough to come after everyone has had dinner? I judge the tackiness, entitlement, and apparent inability to budget properly.

That kind of sh!t drive me insane. I don't care what anyone says, a wedding and reception is about the guests. You're just as married whether you go to a courthouse of if you have a $300 a plate dinner. I don't want to sit in an ugly room with terrible food so you can wear 2 different dresses and have an ice sculpture. No one thinks you're fancy when there's not enough booze and they can't cut their steak.

colliebabe · May 2013

On the topic of weddings, I hate the phrase "no ring, no bring." I understand people not wanting someone to bring a random guest that they are not dating. To exclude a couple who has been together a long time and/or lives together, maybe even has a child together, but is not engaged, is just plain dumb.

Ms.Jade · May 2013

Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!

https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/

I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.

missyishere · May 2013

Ms.Jade:
Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!
https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/
I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.

I love my reusable Brita water bottle. It goes with me everywhere.

colliebabe · May 2013

Ms.Jade:
Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!
https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/
I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.

OMG I was looking for this the other day! I wanted to show it in my classroom but couldn't remember what it was called. Thanks Ms. Jade!

missyishere · May 2013

colleenb262:
On the topic of weddings, I hate the phrase "no ring, no bring." I understand people not wanting someone to bring a random guest that they are not dating. To exclude a couple who has been together a long time and/or lives together, maybe even has a child together, but is not engaged, is just plain dumb.

I have never heard of that phrase. I find it ridiculous, for real. And I wouldn't even care about a close friend or family bringing whomever they choose, because (from my memory) I didn't have time to pay attention to a good portion of my guests anyways.

amyc216 · May 2013

Ms.Jade:

Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!

https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/

I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.

The movie "Tapped" changed me!

jwls84 · May 2013

Ms.Jade:
Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap.nbsp;I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!nbsp;https://www.storyofstuff.org/moviesall/storyofbottledwater/I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.nbsp;

Yep fully agree! We are lucky to have safe drinking water and we take it for granted! I only drink tap water I love it and think it tastes better than bottled water, which is pretty much tap water anyway!

missyishere · May 2013

wishful thinkin:
Lopes, you should have came to my wedding. I paid 250 a plate, had ice sculptures, wore one dress, had PLENTY of booze and you were able to cut your steak. Seriously Woodsie that is tacky. I think we might know the same person. Is it possible for there to be more then one tacky couple out there? I received the fancy save a date over a year ago. It was so fans I was excited to see the invite. I open the invite and it looks like my 5yo niece put them together. The party is 2hrs away and there was a separate RSVP for the church. I declined with OUT regret.

HFS $250 a plate? I had amazing food at a fraction of that cost. I guess this is when living in a small town has its advantage. I did have a ton of booze, too. Dry weddings are the pits, yo.

CMonkey515 · May 2013

Ms.Jade:
Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!
https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/
I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.

I agree with this generally, but I live in a town that had one of the largest childhood cancer clusters in US history about 20 years ago. The cause was secretly dumped chemical waste that had leaked into the water system. It has since been cleaned up, but it still makes me leery of having my son drink the tap water here.

To be honest I wouldn't even live here, but DH bought this house before we met. Due to the horrible market we havent been able to sell without taking a huge loss. When we do eventually move to somewhere where I'm more comfortable with the water supply we will no longer purchase bottled water.

cantalopes24 · May 2013

wishful thinkin:
cantalopes24:
Woodsie:
I judge a childhood family friend who sent very expensive looking, trifold, double sided save the dates, including several engagement photos, both of their life stories, the story of how they met, and sent almost a year in advance. The wedding is about a 2 hour drive away. We just got the invite in the mail, and they were very obviously slapped together, crooked, and didn't even include the date of the wedding [ I tossed the STD long ago]. And the kicker is that we are only invited to the dance AND registry info was included in the invite. I also just got a Facebook invite from the bride for her own bridal shower. Really? You want me to save a date for almost a year, drive 4 hours round trip, arrange child care and accommodations, and buy you a shower and a wedding gift, when I'm only good enough to come after everyone has had dinner? I judge the tackiness, entitlement, and apparent inability to budget properly.
That kind of sh!t drive me insane. I don't care what anyone says, a wedding and reception is about the guests. You're just as married whether you go to a courthouse of if you have a $300 a plate dinner. I don't want to sit in an ugly room with terrible food so you can wear 2 different dresses and have an ice sculpture. No one thinks you're fancy when there's not enough booze and they can't cut their steak.

Lopes, you should have came to my wedding. I paid 250 a plate, had ice sculptures, wore one dress, had PLENTY of booze and you were able to cut your steak.

Lol my wedding was the same way. I never got to see our ice sculpture though since I never went to down the cocktail hour where the guests were. I know there are people who can afford expensive weddings. I'm talking about the people who pay a ton for stupid stuff no one cares about and skimp on the good stuff.

Fianschneid · May 2013

I don't really have one of my own this week, but I'll comment on others.

I'm all for having the wedding you can afford. If you can handle $250 a plate and that's what you want, go for it. If you can only afford KFC in the backyard, don't go broke doing something fancier. If you're a great couple, your friends and loved ones will be happy to support you, no matter how you celebrate. Get married for the marriage, not the wedding, if you want it to last. (Duh.)

Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?

cantalopes24 · May 2013

missyishere:
wishful thinkin:
Lopes, you should have came to my wedding. I paid 250 a plate, had ice sculptures, wore one dress, had PLENTY of booze and you were able to cut your steak. Seriously Woodsie that is tacky. I think we might know the same person. Is it possible for there to be more then one tacky couple out there? I received the fancy save a date over a year ago. It was so fans I was excited to see the invite. I open the invite and it looks like my 5yo niece put them together. The party is 2hrs away and there was a separate RSVP for the church. I declined with OUT regret.
HFS $250 a plate? I had amazing food at a fraction of that cost. I guess this is when living in a small town has its advantage. I did have a ton of booze, too. Dry weddings are the pits, yo.

This is probably regional. I think we were right around 230 a plate before 6% sales tax, 20% grat and the couple things we upgraded.

jwls84 · May 2013

cantalopes24:
missyishere:
wishful thinkin:

Lopes, you should have came to my wedding. I paid 250 a plate, had ice sculptures, wore one dress, had PLENTY of booze and you were able to cut your steak.

Seriously Woodsie that is tacky. I think we might know the same person. Is it possible for there to be more then one tacky couple out there? I received the fancy save a date over a year ago. It was so fans I was excited to see the invite. I open the invite and it looks like my 5yo niece put them together. The party is 2hrs away and there was a separate RSVP for the church. I declined with OUT regret.
HFS $250 a plate?  I had amazing food at a fraction of that cost.  I guess this is when living in a small town has its advantage.  I did have a ton of booze, too.  Dry weddings are the pits, yo. 
This is probably regional. I think we were right around 230 a plate before 6% sales tax, 20% grat and the couple things we upgraded.
 

It must vary from region and country to country! The highest priced plate we could've even opted for was maybe 40 a plate! So I am with missy 250 a plate is mind blowing.
There is a new fad for weddings here right now which is just a cocktail wedding, no sit down dinner at all. My friend keeps dropping hints that it is still expensive to do this, almost like she is saying "hey, I expect you to still give me the same amount as a gift you would a sit down reception" I don't know how I feel about this.

Elsa1984 · May 2013

Nita2603:
I am sick of the 'everybody wins' mindset we have these days. Not everybody needs to get a trophy, people win and lose and kids have to get used to that.
It is a hard lesson, but there is only one first place. I really don't see why it cannot be like that.

I completely agree with this 100 percent.

Fianschneid · May 2013

Okay, I have one.

I judge my friend who emailed me to sum up a recent trip she took to visit family. She complained to me that after a two hour outing with her 5 year old niece and 20 month old nephew, where there were two other adults present, she was exhausted. She also keeps mentioning how disgusting it was that the 20 month old only wanted to eat ketchup.

This friend is currently TTC and it is taking everything I have to bite my tongue and not pull a, "Just you wait".

Ms.Jade · May 2013

missyishere:
wishful thinkin:
Lopes, you should have came to my wedding. I paid 250 a plate, had ice sculptures, wore one dress, had PLENTY of booze and you were able to cut your steak. Seriously Woodsie that is tacky. I think we might know the same person. Is it possible for there to be more then one tacky couple out there? I received the fancy save a date over a year ago. It was so fans I was excited to see the invite. I open the invite and it looks like my 5yo niece put them together. The party is 2hrs away and there was a separate RSVP for the church. I declined with OUT regret.
HFS $250 a plate? I had amazing food at a fraction of that cost. I guess this is when living in a small town has its advantage. I did have a ton of booze, too. Dry weddings are the pits, yo.

I thought the same thing. My reception was aboard the freakin Queen Mary here in LA and I only paid about $80/plate!

wilsontl19191 · May 2013

Packerfan79:

My UO is that I read the homemade play doh thread and thought, we need to make play doh now? Really? All the power to you guys to make the time to do this homemade stuff. I just don't and can't and will be buying that crap from TRU.

Omg! I was thinking the same thing. Ain't nobody got time for that!

Chunstad · May 2013

Packerfan79:
Our wedding was 400 people, black tie optional, at 300 a plate. Its not what I wanted really, but Persians typically have crazy azz, expensive weddings and since my dad insisted on it, we were like whatevs. Still had a great time! My UO is that I read the homemade play doh thread and thought, we need to make play doh now? Really? All the power to you guys to make the time to do this homemade stuff. I just don't and can't and will be buying that crap from TRU.

I am looking at making it since we are only one income, and money is tight. Got the time, but low on money.

ETA: I'm also excited to see if it works well because I would like to use it in my classroom when I go back to teaching.

Ms.Jade · May 2013

CMonkey515:
Ms.Jade:
Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!
https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/
I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.
I agree with this generally, but I live in a town that had one of the largest childhood cancer clusters in US history about 20 years ago. The cause was secretly dumped chemical waste that had leaked into the water system. It has since been cleaned up, but it still makes me leery of having my son drink the tap water here.
To be honest I wouldn't even live here, but DH bought this house before we met. Due to the horrible market we havent been able to sell without taking a huge loss. When we do eventually move to somewhere where I'm more comfortable with the water supply we will no longer purchase bottled water.

There are certainly exceptions, and this sounds like it's one of them. I did some lobbying a few years ago in Sacramento and met a woman who lives a few cites away from where we live now who was walking around talking to representatives about the quality of the drinking water in her city. She had several bottles of what comes out of her taps and it was deeply disturbing. I begrudge no one who lives in such conditions bottled water.

I do and will continue to give the side eye to people who buy pallets of bottled water because they actually believe it's better than tap water (hello, it is freakin' tap water) or because they can't be bothered to fill a reusable bottle. You should see the looks on the faces of the people I tell that Los Angeles tap water has actually won first place in international taste tests. Makes my day!

Elsa1984 · May 2013

Mine is a confession instead:

I had posted in here about the different types of weddings SO and I were thinking of, and most agreed the lake one sounded like more fun. In the end, SO said it was too dusty/dirty and didnt "feel" like a wedding. That's fine. I didnt want to give up the local reception, or destination wedding....he didnt want to give up inviting certain people. We compromised and decided on Hawaii for week, getting married one day, and having the local reception. Our Save the Dates are going out a year before, so those that want to come, have time to save. We also still haven't told people. We are just sending out the Save the Dates. I am sure people will be shocked, but we aren't doing it for the shock value. We are doing it that way so WE are able to pick the guests and we don't have to hear "well you have to invite so and so because I went to their kids wedding!" We are paying for it, it's going to be very casual, but we don't want everyone's input on the guest list. Since my mom likes to micromanage everything she is mostly the person I'm trying to avoid when it comes to the guest list and planning. She would want to invite everyone under the sun. There was no huge proposal or anything like that, we just started talking about it and decided that we were going to get married next summer. We have been together almost 7.5 years, so I am sure most people are just going to say "it's about time!"

However, in addition to the wedding UO's mentioned, I won't be inviting people via FB....or hosting my own bridal shower.

Fianschneid · May 2013

Elsa1984:
Mine is a confession instead: I had posted in here about the different types of weddings SO and I were thinking of, and most agreed the lake one sounded like more fun. In the end, SO said it was too dusty/dirty and didnt "feel" like a wedding. That's fine. I didnt want to give up the local reception, or destination wedding....he didnt want to give up inviting certain people. We compromised and decided on Hawaii for week, getting married one day, and having the local reception. Our Save the Dates are going out a year before, so those that want to come, have time to save. We also still haven't told people. We are just sending out the Save the Dates. I am sure people will be shocked, but we aren't doing it for the shock value. We are doing it that way so WE are able to pick the guests and we don't have to hear "well you have to invite so and so because I went to their kids wedding!" We are paying for it, it's going to be very casual, but we don't want everyone's input on the guest list. Since my mom likes to micromanage everything she is mostly the person I'm trying to avoid when it comes to the guest list and planning. She would want to invite everyone under the sun. There was no huge proposal or anything like that, we just started talking about it and decided that we were going to get married next summer. We have been together almost 7.5 years, so I am sure most people are just going to say "it's about time!" However, in addition to the wedding UO's mentioned, I won't be inviting people via FB....or hosting my own bridal shower.

I love that you are doing it your way and not giving people a chance to mircromanage. That's the dream, sister.

Scramblersmom · May 2013

Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?

I have a few Nalgene water bottles that I use. They are a bit expensive but they last for years. Mine are at least 3+ years old and I carry one with me everyday and we use them when we are camping. They have different sizes (I use the 1L) and you can get them with a wide or narrow mouth. The lids are replaceable if one of them gets damaged. You can run them through the dishwasher too and they are BPA free.

Today I am judging the parents of the kids in DS's daycare. The director asked the parents to let her know if they can bring in food, beverage or flowers for the teachers tomorrow for Provider Appreciation Day. As of last night she had only heard from a few parents. It makes me so pissed that these parents can't take the time to do something nice for their children's "teachers" one damn day out of the year. I was so upset about it last night that I was tearing up. These women bust their arse taking care of our kids everyday for near minimum wage. The least the parents can do is get a damn card and box of cookies!

Fianschneid · May 2013

smit5009:
Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?

I have a few Nalgene water bottles that I use. They are a bit expensive but they last for years. Mine are at least 3+ years old and I carry one with me everyday and we use them when we are camping. They have different sizes (I use the 1L) and you can get them with a wide or narrow mouth. The lids are replaceable if one of them gets damaged. You can run them through the dishwasher too and they are BPA free.
Today I am judging the parents of the kids in DS's daycare. The director asked the parents to let her know if they can bring in food, beverage or flowers for the teachers tomorrow for Provider Appreciation Day. As of last night she had only heard from a few parents. It makes me so pissed that these parents can't take the time to do something nice for their children's "teachers" one damn day out of the year. I was so upset about it last night that I was tearing up. These women bust their arse taking care of our kids everyday for near minimum wage. The least the parents can do is get a damn card and box of cookies!

Thanks for the tip.

Also, totally agree about taking care of the providers. None of the other parents seem to be doing anything at DD's DCP. These are the people who care for your children. Why wouldn't you want to do something for them?

Per everyone's suggestions earlier this week, I went with a cute reusable iced drink cup full of Hershey's Kisses and a Starbucks gift card.

missyishere · May 2013

MrsSMJD:
My UO? I get so tired of some of the moms and grandmothers who were in our baby play group who used to get up on their high horses and have this parenting competition:
Mom 1: 'I don't let Nancy drink juice'
Grandma 2: 'Well Jayden only drinks whole milk or water!'
Mom 3: 'We only watch 1 hour of TV a week in our house.'
Mom 4: 'Rosie never watches TV!'
Grandma 5: 'Well we eat all three meals around the table and the kids know not to get up until everyone is done eating.'
My poor friend got crucified for admitting that she gives her daughter fruit juice to drink. But then, the baby centre where we take the kids for this group is really uppity about their healthy eating. Sure, I agree with fostering healthy eating habits, but they talk out of both sides of their face about it. They're strict with this 'no fruit juice' policy, and then 2 weeks in a row we had cupcakes and gummi candy for the kids' snack time!

Where's Sanctimommy? She would just all over this.

Scramblersmom · May 2013

Fianschneid:
smit5009:
Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?

I have a few Nalgene water bottles that I use. They are a bit expensive but they last for years. Mine are at least 3+ years old and I carry one with me everyday and we use them when we are camping. They have different sizes (I use the 1L) and you can get them with a wide or narrow mouth. The lids are replaceable if one of them gets damaged. You can run them through the dishwasher too and they are BPA free.
Today I am judging the parents of the kids in DS's daycare. The director asked the parents to let her know if they can bring in food, beverage or flowers for the teachers tomorrow for Provider Appreciation Day. As of last night she had only heard from a few parents. It makes me so pissed that these parents can't take the time to do something nice for their children's "teachers" one damn day out of the year. I was so upset about it last night that I was tearing up. These women bust their arse taking care of our kids everyday for near minimum wage. The least the parents can do is get a damn card and box of cookies!

Thanks for the tip.
Also, totally agree about taking care of the providers. None of the other parents seem to be doing anything at DD's DCP. These are the people who care for your children. Why wouldn't you want to do something for them?
Per everyone's suggestions earlier this week, I went with a cute reusable iced drink cup full of Hershey's Kisses and a Starbucks gift card.

This is a great idea and I might have to steal it! We were discussing last night what to do for DS's teachers in the toddler room. We are going to get his teachers in the baby room gift cards but DH thought we should get the teachers in the toddler room something too since he will be in that room full time next week (half time this week). I didn't want to devalue the baby room teachers taking care of him all year by getting all 4 teachers the same gift (and same value) but thought we should get the toddler teachers at least something. This would work perfect for the toddler room teachers (probably sans the gift card).

Elsa1984 · May 2013

Fianschneid:
smit5009:
Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?
 
I have a few Nalgene water bottles that I use. They are a bit expensive but they last for years. Mine are at least 3+ years old and I carry one with me everyday and we use them when we are camping. They have different sizes (I use the 1L) and you can get them with a wide or narrow mouth. The lids are replaceable if one of them gets damaged. You can run them through the dishwasher too and they are BPA free.
Today I am judging the parents of the kids in DS's daycare. The director asked the parents to let her know if they can bring in food, beverage or flowers for the teachers tomorrow for Provider Appreciation Day. As of last night she had only heard from a few parents. It makes me so pissed that these parents can't take the time to do something nice for their children's "teachers" one damn day out of the year. I was so upset about it last night that I was tearing up. These women bust their arse taking care of our kids everyday for near minimum wage. The least the parents can do is get a damn card and box of cookies! 
 
Thanks for the tip.
Also, totally agree about taking care of the providers. None of the other parents seem to be doing anything at DD's DCP. These are the people who care for your children. Why wouldn't you want to do something for them?
Per everyone's suggestions earlier this week, I went with a cute reusable iced drink cup full of Hershey's Kisses and a Starbucks gift card.

That's a great gift! I think I had posted about this last year, how parents were to me and the rest of the child care providers when I worked at a daycare. I know sometimes money is hard for parents, but even a handwritten note thanking the teachers for everything they did was extremely appreciated by the teachers. It's not like they are asking for a gold medal or 100 dollars.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

Elsa that's what we did. Though we didn't do save the dates. We sent personal messages to the few friends and family members we wanted to join us for the ceremony in St. Lucia only DHs parents, brother, SIL my father came. We sent the messages a year in advance originally hoped to have a wedding party, but the friends we asked couldn't afford the trip.
We had a smallish reception party a couple weeks after we returned and were able to splurge on food and booze since we saved so much by not having a big wedding.

All said and done we spent about 10k on our wedding, 10day honeymoon in St. Lucia all inclusive at sandals and our reception.

Elsa1984 · May 2013

MrsSMJD:
My UO?nbsp;nbsp;I get so tired of some of the moms and grandmothers who were in our baby play group who used to get up on their high horses and have this parenting competition:Mom 1: 'I don't let Nancy drink juice'Grandma 2: 'Well Jayden only drinks whole milk or water!'Mom 3: 'We only watch 1 hour of TV a week in our house.'Mom 4: 'Rosie nevernbsp;watches TV!'Grandma 5: 'Well we eat all three meals around the table and the kids know not to get up until everyone is done eating.'My poor friend got crucified for admitting that she gives her daughter fruit juice to drink. But then, the baby centre where we take the kids for this group isnbsp;really uppity about their healthy eating. Sure, I agree with fostering healthy eating habits, but they talk out of both sides of their face about it. They're strict with this 'no fruit juice' policy, and then 2 weeks in a row we had cupcakes and gummi candy for the kids' snack time!

Am i missing the whole anti fruit juice reasoning? i always thought it was because of the sugar. but I think it's funny when people are so uptight about fruit juice, but then give their kids, daily might I add, 24oz of whole milk....equaling 288 grams of sugar.

Elsa1984 · May 2013

lisamonkee11:
Elsa that's what we did. Though we didn't do save the dates. We sent personal messages to the few friends and family members we wanted to join us for the ceremony in St. Lucia only DHs parents, brother, SIL my father came. We sent the messages a year in advance originally hoped to have a wedding party, but the friends we asked couldn't afford the trip.
We had a smallish reception party a couple weeks after we returned and were able to splurge on food and booze since we saved so much by not having a big wedding.

All said and done we spent about 10k on our wedding, 10day honeymoon in St. Lucia all inclusive at sandals and our reception.

We are kind of doing the same. Neither of us have been to Hawaii and we have always wanted to go. So we are going for a week and one day we are just happening to get married in a very casual beach wedding. We aren't having anyone stand up with us because we didnt want to make our bridal party feel awkward if they couldn't afford to go. If we change our mind, bridal party wise, we will ask some of the people that are there with us already. Then I think we're going to treat everyone that is down there to a luau dinner after the wedding. But the rest of the week will just be a big vacation. If anyone needs me, I'll be by the pool!

Ms.Jade · May 2013

smit5009:
Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?

I have a few Nalgene water bottles that I use. They are a bit expensive but they last for years. Mine are at least 3+ years old and I carry one with me everyday and we use them when we are camping. They have different sizes (I use the 1L) and you can get them with a wide or narrow mouth. The lids are replaceable if one of them gets damaged. You can run them through the dishwasher too and they are BPA free.

Nalgene bottles are great and I used one all through college. Then I had a love affair with my SIGG. I have the blue one.

Now I'm totally in love with my Lifefactory. I have the pearl one.

Elsa1984 · May 2013

Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?

I have three of these Camelbak ones and love them! I have had them for several years, run all of the parts on the dishwasher, and they are still kickin'

Fianschneid · May 2013

Elsa1984:
Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?
I have three of these Camelbak ones and love them! I have had them for several years, run all of the parts on the dishwasher, and they are still kickin'

Thanks to everyone who gave suggestions. Dishwasher safe is key Smile

LCass · May 2013

Ms.Jade:
smit5009:
Fianschneid:
Agreed with the bottle water hype but I understand if you live somewhere crummy and are concerned about the water. I asked DH for a reusable and easily washed bottle for Mother's Day. Any suggestions?
I have a few Nalgene water bottles that I use. They are a bit expensive but they last for years. Mine are at least 3+ years old and I carry one with me everyday and we use them when we are camping. They have different sizes (I use the 1L) and you can get them with a wide or narrow mouth. The lids are replaceable if one of them gets damaged. You can run them through the dishwasher too and they are BPA free.
Nalgene bottles are great and I used one all through college. Then I had a love affair with my SIGG. I have the blue one.
Now I'm totally in love with my Lifefactory. I have the pearl one.

I loved my Nalgene in university (although it was before the whole BPA thing, so it probably rotted me), and now I love my SIGGs. And ITA about the bottled water thing. DH and I were just talking about it, because he was hearing on the radio again about how we all should have some bottled water in case of emergencies, but I was saying I'm reluctant to get it for that because once it's around people end up just drinking it out of convenience.

I'm judging MIL, who is apparently completely unable to NOT clean up/organize my house when she watches Lily. I don't know if she thinks we're just being polite when we ask her not to do things, but we're not. Don't stuff the diapers, you do it wrong and it takes me longer to check and re-do it than to just do it in the first place. Don't reorganize the mess on my kitchen counter, it's in a mess because I still need to find homes for things since we just moved. Don't feed the cats, we already fed them and they're overweight and certainly don't need extra. And yes, we've politely told her these things (and she and FIL have even said how rude/intrusive it is for somebody to come into your home and clean/organize your sh!t), but one of these days I think it's going to require an impolite reminder to actually get my point across.

stardust317 · May 2013

missyishere:
wishful thinkin:

Lopes, you should have came to my wedding. I paid 250 a plate, had ice sculptures, wore one dress, had PLENTY of booze and you were able to cut your steak.

Seriously Woodsie that is tacky. I think we might know the same person. Is it possible for there to be more then one tacky couple out there? I received the fancy save a date over a year ago. It was so fans I was excited to see the invite. I open the invite and it looks like my 5yo niece put them together. The party is 2hrs away and there was a separate RSVP for the church. I declined with OUT regret.
HFS $250 a plate?  I had amazing food at a fraction of that cost.  I guess this is when living in a small town has its advantage.  I did have a ton of booze, too.  Dry weddings are the pits, yo. 

I paid like 10/plate and 250 on the venue

morsey2011 · May 2013

Ms.Jade:
Put down the motherfluffing bottled water people! You are all idiots. This isn't Mexico. Buy a Britta and live your life. And don't give me your BS, "But I recycle," crap. I am beyond sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!
https://www.storyofstuff.org/movies-all/story-of-bottled-water/
I will step down off of my soapbox now. Sorry. Professional rant.

The last time we visited my IL's, we purchase them a Brita pitcher because I was tired of seeing all the water bottles at their house.

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