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Dh is an ahole

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in October 2012 Moms

So my dh asks me if we can go to his brothers house Sunday morning.

me: it's Mother's Day 

him: yes well my mom will be there

me: if its nice I was thinking of going to the zoo 

him: are u kidding me, u want to go there, ugh 

REALLY dh? It's my first Mother's Day. I'm sorry I forgot that the day is all about u and what you want to do/not do. (Just to clarify I was going to see if his mom wanted to meet us at the zoo. DHs parents live far enough that we wouldn't be able to go to the zoo and his brothers unless we wanted to spend the day driving in the car.)

 I understand him wanting to see his mom but come on! Is he not being a selfish jerk about this or is it just me?! 

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  • Petunia844Petunia844 member
    I can see if he's a mama's boy that he wants to see his mom on mother's day....but once you have a wife who's a mother I think she comes first.  If you can fit both in that's perfect.  
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  • Starry AgainStarry Again member

    I bet the zoo will be really crowded.

    I am not really into Mothers Day. But, if you are into it, I wouldn't go to your MIL's house. 

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  • stephcarterstephcarter member

    imagePetunia844:
    I can see if he's a mama's boy that he wants to see his mom on mother's day....but once you have a wife who's a mother I think she comes first.  If you can fit both in that's perfect.  

    I agree!! I'm pretty sure MIL and my mom don't though. We've both got whiney moms who guilt trip... 


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  • PixelPosyPixelPosy member

    I'd tell my DH that if he didn't want to go to the zoo we could go shoe shopping at the mall instead. hahaha

    Good thing Father's day is after Mother's day. ;)

    Since we got married we have invited our mothers to our home and cook them brunch. We're doing the same this year. I don't know if DH will do anything special for me beyond that, haven't asked.  

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  • nealblnealbl member
    I don't think he is an ahole for wanting to go to his brothers but his response to going to the zoo I think is rude. Dh and I rarely spend Mother's Day together. My mom and i have spent every Mother's Day either at the zoo or a baseball game. Now we do the Zoo with my girls. Dh does something with his mom and we usually meet up with them later in the day. Can you go to the zoo without him?
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  • nealblnealbl member
    I disagree that your wife comes first on Mother's Day. Our moms and mils should still be honored on that day and get to spend it with their children. They have been mothers way longer than we have.
    Think down the road I am sure you will want your children to be with you on Mother's Day when they are older
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  • LorMorLorMor member

    I think you need to have the conversation about what Mother's Day and Father's Day mean to you. 

    In my family, it's just a phone call, and I thought that's how it would be for us, but then I realized my first MD is significant and I want to acknowledge that. So we'll do something big this year, but probably not after this.

    DH was so glad that I told him this - otherwise he would have thought it's not a biggie and just ignored it. 

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