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Waiting suuuuuucccks! (Vent)

sgb721sgb721 member
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Let me start by stating that we have not been waiting all that long, but it still sucks big time. (hopefully you can use the word suck on here LOL). 

This is just a vent, as I really only talk with you ladies about the adoption process. 

My best friend is pregnant with her 1st baby, a little girl, due in August. While I'm insanely happy for her, and I'm excited to be a psuedo Aunt, it hurts a lot at times. Like, I was watching her 12 & 19 week ultrasound dvd and while It is soo awesome to see the little princess wiggling around, its hard because my last pregnancy ended at 17 weeks.

I know that its my own thing, and it isn't against her (I haven't told her any of this either) but this waiting business hurt. For someone whose a type A personality like me- the planning, or the lacking of the ability to plan, is hard. I just wish I knew when we would become parents- it honestly has been my dream since I was a little girl (cheesy I know).

Pregnancy is hard. Adoption is hard. I know the end result is a miracle and patience is a virtue but its tough! 

TTC since June 2010
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  • sgb721sgb721 member
    Pinkie- as I'm pretty sure we're using the same agency that gives me a little reassurance, thanks!
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  • lala7868lala7868 member
    We haven't been waiting long but it does suck. You think, hope, and pray it will be fast like they tell you the stories in the beginning. It's still hard for me to see some family pregnant and think how old mine would be. It's a sad and kind of desperate feeling that unless you go through it, it's difficult to understand. My prayers are with you and wishing you a short wait.
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  • KirstybabyKirstybaby member
    We haven't officially gotten to our waiting season yet, but we are almost there. I can imagine that it is INCREDIBLY DIFFICULT.  My husby and I plan to enjoy ever minute of the waiting season...when we can just be footloose and fancy free before our lives are changed by a child. Smile  Try to soak up every moment of this waiting season because it is an integral part of your journey!  Hugs! 
    I'm a dance studio owner, writer, cat mommy, and adventuress who is married to the man of her dreams. My husband and I have had a long-time dream to adopt and it's happening in a way that we didn't quite anticipate. But, like any move of God, it's turning out way better than we expected. We'd love for you to follow our story at www.kirstenkline.com!
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  • orange1414orange1414 member
    Yup. It sucks. We have recently hit the year mark and it is really, really hard. I'm a planner, too, so I've allowed myself, very, very slowly, to work on the nursery. When it hurts to much I close the door, but at least I feel a little bit ready and some part of this insane process is under my control. Good luck!
    Trying to grow our family with both fertility treatments and adoption since March 2009 
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  • penguincrazypenguincrazy member

    I can certainly relate.  We've been waiting for a referral (IA) for 14 months, and nothing yet. Sad 

    Hang in there!  Adoption is hard, but worth it!

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  • kfourcatkfourcat member
    I could have written this myself. It looks like we were TTC the same time as well, we started May 2010, just hit 3 years. Waiting is so difficult, I thought it would be the easy part. I also have a best friend due in August, its hard. I just went on vacation with my sisters and their infants, I almost burst out in tears several times. I just want to have good news for once!
    Domestic Adoption-Activated January 29th, 2013. Trying to be patient. The journey: http://perpetuallyupsidedown.tumblr.com/
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