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Annoyed...am I overreacting?

MsCrispyMsCrispy member
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Annoyed...am I overreacting?

We told our parents that I was pregnant on Easter, but decided to wait until Mother's Day to tell our grandparents and then open it up to everyone.

So we sent a cute Mother's Day card to our grandmothers with a picture of DD with a "Best Big Sis" t-shirt. I figured if they noticed, they would call, otherwise I would call, wish them a happy Mother's Day and ask if they got the hidden message.

I didn't tell the plan to my parents, but my mom's mom got it yesterday, figured it out, and called me. So my dad took it upon himself to call his parents. They hadn't received the card yet, so he told them to call him...not me...when they got the card. The didn't notice the shirt, but obviously he spilled the beans when they called.

My grandma then emails me with congratulations. I'm kind of annoyed that she didn't even call, but I'll let that one go, she probably didn't want to bug me at work.

But am I right to be annoyed...maybe a little more than annoyed right now at my dad? I didn't tell him my plan, but it seems pretty obvious that the news was not his to share. Seems kind of impersonal that they found out from him and not me.

So talk me off a ledge because I think I'm getting more pissed and emotional the longer I think about this.


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  • SusieBWSusieBW member
    I think you're overreacting.  If it was such an important thing for you to tell them yourself, I think you needed to either wait to tell everyone at the same time, or make it clear to your parents that they were not to share the news with anyone else.  Sorry.
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  • MsCrispyMsCrispy member

    imageSusieBW:
    I think you're overreacting.  If it was such an important thing for you to tell them yourself, I think you needed to either wait to tell everyone at the same time, or make it clear to your parents that they were not to share the news with anyone else.  Sorry.

    Thanks for the perspective, I'm probably just over-emotional. My parents did know we were telling them on Mother's Day, so they did know to keep it a secret until then. We did a similar lag with DD.


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  • jen4nyjen4ny member
    I would be annoyed too. But what is done is done so just try to enjoy the fact that everyone knows now and you can be open about the pregnancy. Try to think about it that your dad was so excited he wanted to tell his parents. 
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  • Amelia4Amelia4 member
    I agree that I would be annoyed, too.  But perhaps your dad has been waiting since Easter to spill the beans and patience ran out?  (yes, it's a stretch, but I'm giving a huge benefit of the doubt here.)  Remind yourself how excited everyone is and hopefully something awesome comes along soon that makes you forget or get past the irritation.
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  • solsburyhillsolsburyhill member

    We were VERY clear with our parents that they were NOT to share the news until we gave them the green light.  We told them a week after we found out with both pregnancies.  Our moms were not who we were concerned about, it's my FIL who has a very big mouth.

    With Aug we told him at like 5 weeks and when we said he needed to keep it a secret till 12 weeks he was like WHAT?!  I can't even tell so and so?!!!  But he was able to keep our secret.  Once we gave him the green light half our town knew in 10 minutes, lol.

    If he had told, yes, I would have been upset.  But we gave him clear instructions not to tell.

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  • manda26manda26 member

    well I wouldn't be upset but personally I would just want my MIL or parents (if my parents had parents) to tell the news. If I asked them not to tell until I did then of course I would be a little miffed but I would get over it. But this is coming from someone who doesn't have grandparents and it sounds like you have a good relationship with yours.

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