TTC After a Loss

And it's starting to hit home (pg. and birth warning)

So I was so proud of how I was handling everything since my latest loss last Friday. Today things are starting to crumble. My cousin just called to tell me that they just had their 2nd today. Happy for them, but it still stings. Then I got the bright idea to check   my FB (/palms forehead). A good friend of mine just announced they're pg and she's due one day before what was my EDD. That just sucks. Then another friend posted her first U/S and is also due in Jan.   I guess when it rains, it pours. 
 
But i guess to counter blance things, last Friday with my CP I broke down and ended up calling my mom bawling my eyes out (even though DH and I agreed to keep this one to ourselves). I guess later that day she ended up telling my dad about it. Anyways, I just picked up my mail and had a card from my parents. Opened it up and it was from my dad. He sent me a card to just 'check up' on me. I'm not sure how to feel. I know how sad he must be for DH and I and I think it was really sweet of him to do this. My heart breaks for him because I know how excited he was when we told him last time. He's not a 'lets talk about our feelings' kind of guy, so I guess this is just his way of saying he's thinking about us and loves us.
 
Im just a bag of emotions right now.  /sigh... 

Re: And it's starting to hit home (pg. and birth warning)

  • ((((Hugs)))) to you, and your wonderful dad. He sounds a lot like my dad. I'm sorry that you're having a bad day. I can definitely relate. I have been trying to stay off FB and away from social circles where I may hear pg news. I'm just not ready to be happy for anyone right now. Hopefully someday soon.
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  • Huge ((hugs)). Losses are so hard and breaking down is completely normal. I'm sorry that you checked FB and got bombarded with u/s pics and pg announcements. Not what you needed today.

    Stay away from FB and hang out with us. We will hold you up during this crappy time.

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  • How sweet of your dad to send the card. I'm sorry for all of the announcements coming your way. It blows big time. It was like that or me 2weeks ago. Hugs!
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  • (((hugs))) I stay away from FB now, I've found that it helps me.
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  • So sorry for all this!! Hugs!! Sounds like you have a wonderful dad! That is so sweet for him to send that! :D


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    Just ((((hugs)))) love. I'm so sorry.


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    It's not that I can't be happy for others and I don't think I'm 'bitter' per se but I just feel like I'm getting hit from all sides tonight. 3 different people, who have no relation to one another other than me.  

    It sucks there's no if, ands or buts about it. There also so reason for why it seems that some people have an "easier" time than others. Gigantic ((((((hugs)))))) for you tonight.

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  • What a stinky day! I hope something helps bring back your smile today!
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  • Nothing really helpful to say, except your dad sounds a lot like my dad... Very sweet of him to be so concerned about his little girl.  You were HIS baby once and it sounds like he loves you very much. 

    Hope your day is better tomorrow...

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    imageMadisonpenny:
    It's not that I can't be happy for others and I don't think I'm 'bitter' per se but I just feel like I'm getting hit from all sides tonight. 3 different people, who have no relation to one another other than me.  

    It sucks there's no if, ands or buts about it. There also so reason for why it seems that some people have an "easier" time than others. Gigantic ((((((hugs)))))) for you tonight.

    He makes me laugh...

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    Sometimes stupid helps.

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  • I'm sorry sweet Madison. I wish I could take away your pain. ::hugs:: to you. I'm so so sorry. Your dad is so sweet. It was kind of him to send you a card. You've got a good family.

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  • SerenlaSerenla member
    ::hugs:: I'm sorry you are getting the painful reminders, it really hurts. It is great that your dad is so caring, I hope your parents thoughtfulness helps you :)



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  • Huge hugs!!! How sweet of your dad! I think it means so much when a non feelings dad does something like this. It's so great to have your family here for you. Especially on such a crummy day, damn FB!!! Thinking of you.

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  • I'm sorry [[HUGS]]

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  • ((Huge hugs)) I love what your dad did in sending the card, what a sweet gesture! It's the little things like that that can mean so very much. 


         

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  • ((HUGS)) So sorry about the late hitting emotions. My m/c happened that way too. PTL for a loving Dad and DH! :)
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    Big hugs sweetie.
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    ((hugs)) to you.   None of this is fair or makes any sense.  I hope you know that I am here for you should you need anything. 


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  • I'm sorry you are going thru this. I think we can all relate for sure when hearing everyone and anyone is KU and how it stings a little each time even though you know it's not like they took something from you and then feeling bad for having felt that way in the first place! It's a nasty cycle...  That's really very sweet about your dad - we never told my dad either and I feel bad from hiding it sometimes but we didn't want anyone else to be sad over what had happened. It just made me smile to hear what a thoughtful thing he did. Just hang in there - one day at a time. (((Hugs)))

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  • Big hugs! I can totally relate... my sister had her 3rd just 2 weeks after our loss. My dad also sent me a very sweet card and kept emailing MH to check up on me, it was quite sweet for my dad who doesn't show a lot of emotion.

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. Thinking of you!

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  • imageMadisonpenny:
    It's not that I can't be happy for others and I don't think I'm 'bitter' per se but I just feel like I'm getting hit from all sides tonight. 3 different people, who have no relation to one another other than me.  

     

    It doesn't make you bitter at all. Even when you're happy for people, it's just hard to receive news like this. Don't beat yourself up about it.((Hugs)) 

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  • imageMadisonpenny:

    thx. He's pretty funny. He had my mom write my address on the envelope (I don't know if its because he doesn't  know it or because his writing is horrible) but he just signed the card from just him.  

    I tried to reply last night but was having issues with quoting on mobile.

    Your dad is adorable. I'm sure mine wouldn't know my address either. My mom probably doesn't either though. The picture I have in my mind of your dad standing in the card aisle looking for a card that says what he is unable warms my heart. He seems like a wonderful man.

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  • Oh Hun, I am so sorry. Some days just plain suck. That's why they make champagne . Sounds like a night for lots of hugs, drinks, and a good dinner.
  • Sending you lots of hugs!
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