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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Stillbirth / Late Loss / Infant Loss Check-in
This is a weekly check-in for women who have experienced a Stillbirth / Late Loss / or Infant Loss. Hopefully this will be a chance for us to connect and provide additional support on our losses with other women who understand. Anyone who has experienced this type of loss is welcome to join no matter if they are taking a break, TTC, currently PG, or have delivered a healthy baby. We sadly accept new member every week. 
Nest Name: kxland
Angel Info: Brook Aubrey, November 22, 2006, 22weeks. My daughter had Turners Syndrome. M/C in March 2008
Nest Name: AB&TB (formerly tinablatchford while pg with my first)
Real Name: Tina
Angel Info: Our son was confirmed missed M/C at 18w2d. He passed due to a ringed 18th chromosome.
Successful Pregnancy Info: Lincoln Christopher, born July 19, 2008.
Nest Name: banbear2
Real Name: Brandy
Angel Info: Raymond Bradley went to heaven on January 24, 2007 at 20 weeks.
Nest Name: stacey2005
Real Name: Stacey
Angel Info: Spencer Allen, March 8, 2007, at 17w5d. We believe it was a cord accident.
Nest Name: STLBride_2_Be
Real Name: Amanda
Angle Info: Addison was stillborn on March 21, 2007 at 24w5d. We also had a M/C in July 2007 and October 2007.
Nest Name: bride2003
Real Name: Sheila
Angel Info: Steven Joseph delivered at home at 19 weeks on April 10, 2007 due to cervical problems unknown until day of delivery. August 2007 I traveled to Chicago to have TAC (transabdominal cerclage) permanently placed around my cervix to fix the problem. M/C February 10, 2008 at 6.5 weeks.
Nest Name: Mommy2anangel (formerly amykbride)
Real Name: Amy
Angel Info: Nathaniel Martin born still at 21w5d on June 22, 2007. He was diagnosed at our 20 week U/S with Giant Omphalocele (abdominal wall defect) and a heart defect. M/C at 7w4d in 2008.
Nest Name: YukonC
Real Name: Jen
Angel Info: Delivered DD at 19 weeks on June 29, 2007 due to sever pre-eclampsia. M/C July 2008.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: mmsgal
Real Name: Nicole
Angel Info: Abigail Rose was born July 19, 2007 and lived 20 hours on complete life support before passing away July 20. She had HLPS (hypoplastic left heart syndrome) and many other small defects.
Successful Pregnancy: Oliver born June 2008.
Nest Name: cpsocal
Real Name: Christa
Angel Info: Leilani was lost August 14, 2007 at 18w3d due to Turners Syndrome.
Nest Name: ToraDales
Real Name: Victoria
Angel Info: Stryker was born on October 9, 2007 at 37 weeks, his kidneys weren?t working and they were 3 times the size they should have been, because of that his lungs did not have the room they needed to grow.
Nest Name: BabyLoveBug
Angel Info: My daughter passed away while I was 41w3d (2 days shy of induction) November 11, 2007.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG with a baby girl and expecting in December 2008.
Nest Name: Georgia-Peach
Angel Info: Matthew, born an angel on November 22, 2007 at 19 weeks.
Nest Name: AmberL
Real Name: Amber
Angel Info: Joshua Nicholas was born at 18w3d on December 25, 2007 due to a placental abruption. M/C 5-19-2004 at 6 weeks. M/C 5/2008.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG and expecting in March 2009.
Nest Name: julesverne
Real Name: Julia
Angel Info: Jack Steward was born at 34 weeks January 16, 2008. He died January 25 due to complications of having Ebstein?s Anomaly (heart defect).
Nest Name: Dontblink
Real Name: Jessica
Angel Info: Cameron Douglas, January 11, 2008, 21 weeks, reason for loss still unknown at this time. M/C 4/2008 and 6/2008
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: HTB
Real Name: Hilary
Angel Info: Dalton was born on January 17, 2008 at 25w2d.
Nest Name: ocean75106 (formerly kroach34)
Angel Info: We lost Ava to triploidy at 19 ? weeks on January 25, 2008.
Nest Name: ChelM1216
Real Name: Michele
Angel Info: Gwyniviere Emlyn and Onara Casidhe, miscarriage was discovered on February 2, 2008 and our girls were delivered on February 7, 2008. Unknown cause for M/C.
Nest Name: Loops925
Real Name: Lupe
Angel Info: Our baby boy?s name was Jordan, at 41w4d I was induced. Dr. broke my water and discovered meconium. I had an emergency C/S 10 hrs later when my baby?s H/B stopped. He was born still at 8:40 am on February 17, 2008. Autopsy results confirmed that his lungs were full of meconium which caused him to not be able to breath.
Nest Name: Tams148
Real Name: Tammy
Angel Info: Grace Elizabeth, born at 21 weeks, February 27, 2008, suspected Turners Syndrome, but testing results still aren?t back. She was diagnosed at our 18 week U/S with hydrops, and died at 19 weeks.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG with a boy and expecting in March 2009.
Nest Name: Baby McCloghry
Real Name: Jilly
Angel Info: Max Kingston McCloghry ? born 23w5d at 12:05 pm and lived until 10:25 pm on February 27, 2008.
Nest Name: KristysRedBarn
Real Name: Kristy
Angel Info: Miller was born on February 29, 2008, at 17 weeks.
Nest Name: Nikki731
Real Name: Nicole
Angel Info: I delivered my baby girl on March 2, 2008 at 18w5d. I had placenta previa at 9 weeks.
Nest Name: emdaly
Real Name: Elisa
Angel Info: Caroline Rose, heart stopped on March 3, 2008. I had a D&E on March 5, 2008. She was 26 weeks but measured 23 weeks due to placental insufficiency.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: 450bnb
Real Name: Beth
Angel Info: Makenna Grace was born on March 5, 2008 and went to heaven on March 6, 2008. She had hydrops brought on by Turner Syndrome that had to be identified through and autopsy.
Nest Name: lauracg (formerly lmwVA)
Real Name: Laura
Angel Info: Baby angel Mary was born on March 8, 2007 ~ 22 weeks due to blood clot and placental abruption. M/C February 16, 2008 ~ 9 weeks. Baby angel Richard was born September 27, 2008 ~ 20 weeks as a result of an incompetent cervix.
Nest Name: Timmylulu
Real Name: Cindy
Angel Info: I delivered our son at 21w2d on March 10, 2008. We don?t know why, but I went into pre-term labor, hopefully doctors will get us some answers with the tests they will be running.
Nest Name: Schmoodle
Real Name: Kathy
Angel Info: We lost our twin Doodles at 23w3d. They were born premature due to a placental abruption on March 25, 2008.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG and expecting in July 2009.
Nest Name: outofcntrl82
Real Name: Rhonda
Angel Info: Baby boy had a very rare chromosomal disorder ? a partial deletion on chromosome 21 as well as a partial trisomy of chromosome 4 attached to chromosome 21. Our baby died on March 24, 2008 and was delivered on March 26.
Nest Name: mmcrocker
Real Name: Amanda
Angel Info: Discovered M/C of Baby Crocker at 18w1d due to Protein S Deficiency.
Pregnancy Info: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: travelbug
Real Name: Bridget
Angel Info: Ciara Grace ? D&E on April 12, 2007. She had passed due to complications of Spina Bifida.
Successful Pregnancy Info: Siobhan, born September 2008.
Nest Name: here4u
Angel Info: Twin B lost at 21w3d.
Nest Name: A&J06
Angel Info: Her heart stopped beating at 23 weeks May 6th, 2008. She was diagnosed with down syndrome, echogenic heart, lungs, and bowel.
Nest Name: BeachBride72106
Real Name: Sarah
Angel Info: Wyatt George was stillborn May 11, 2008 at 32 weeks. We think it was a cord accident. We have since learned that I am heterozygous Factor V Leiden.
Nest Name: vml14
Real Name: Vicki
Angel Info: Valerie Ann was born too early at 21 weeks on May 28, 2008. She had Trisomy 18.
Nest Name: Hemb
Real Name: Kara
Angel Info: Our daughter, Hailee Eileen was born on July 8, 2008 @ 21w3d due to bilateral renal agenisis.
Nest Name: irishmama13
Real Name: Kelli
Angel Info: Erickson Thomas Gunner born on July 23, 2008 at 31 weeks. Stillborn due to placental abruption / pre-elcampsia.
Nest Name: baughnfire
Real Name: Carrie
Angel Info: I had a D&E on August 8, 2008. I was 19w4d along, baby died around 18 weeks. Baby had Down Syndrome and we chose not to find our the sex.
Nest Name: Delta_Diva
Angel Info: Joshua was stillborn on August 17, 2008 due to me having severe pre-elcampsia and HELLP syndrome. He was almost 22 weeks.
Nest Name: JEOZ
Real Name: Julia
Angel Info: Mia Elizabeth was born on August 19, 2008 at 36 weeks. She died 31 hours later on August 20. She died from lung complications which was due to Polycystic Kidney Disease. We are still trying to find our if it was autosommal recessive or autosommal dominate PKD.
Nest Name: tpetters
Real Name: Trisha
Angel Info: Missed M/C discovered at 19w2d at big U/S. Delivered baby boy Nathan Mitchell on August 20, 2008 at 20w. No cause known.
Nest Name: September 2006
Real Name: Shelly
Angel Info: William was born August 25, 2008 at 24w3d.
Nest Name: imyanda21
Real Name: Louann
Angel Info: Gabrielle was 20w4d, she became and angel because of an incompetent cervix.
Nest Name: MRSBELLALEE
Real Name: Debbie
Angel Info: Chloe Eva was born on September 12, 2008 at 31w4d.
Nest Name: boghill
Angel Info: Baby girl was born at 20 weeks; autopsy showed she had Turners Syndrome, found at our 20 week U/S that something was wrong.
Nest Name: Coolteacher79
Real Name: Stacy
Angel Info: Isaac Timothy was born at 36w2d on October 7, 2008. He lived for 16 minutes before doing home to be with Jesus. His diagnosis is a rare sequence of giant omphalocele, kyphoscoliosis, and hypoplastic lungs. M/C in October 2007.
Nest Name: LV2006
Angel Info: Audrey Lee became an angel on October 17, 2008 at 19w6d. She is missed every single day?
Nest Name: GenesisStar
Real Name: Paticia
Angel Info: I gave birth to a handsome little boy named Christian James. I had a placental abruption at 15w2d. Christian was born alive and healthy for about 1-2 mins. They think the reason for the abruption was I have PCOS and it can cause the egg to drop to low and he implanted in a weak/thin area of my uterus. We had been TTC for 6 years before I got pg and I so proud to be his mommy even though he is in heaven. I know he is always by my side protecting me and giving me angel kisses.
Nest Name: shellyrmmi
Angel Info: M/C at 17w6d discovered at survey U/S. Delivered October 17, 2008. M/C at 8 weeks 5/2000.
Nest Name: str8ota
Real Name: Terri
Angel Info: Patrick Henry was born on November 14, 2008 at 17w. M/C in December 2006 and ectopic in March 2007.
Nest Name: sGuitaristsGirl
Real Name: Beth
Angel Info: I developed sever HELLP Syndrome, and delivered twins, a boy and a girl, on November 12, 2008 at 19w4d.
Nest Name: beckastar
Angel Info: Gabriella Marie, born at 27 weeks on October 12, 2008 weighing 1lb 1oz due to placental insufficiency and IUGR, passed away on November 27, 2008.
1. Please feel free to give a general update.
2. PG related QOTD: How have relationships with friends/family changed? (Thanks vml14)
3. Non-PG related QOTD: Do you have any family traditions this holiday season?
4. Any suggestion of either QOTD?
Link to last weeks check-in:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/6853358.aspx
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Re: Stillbirth / Late Loss / Infant Loss Check-in
Sorry for the late check-in today. I have been super busy at work and then I was out of the office yesterday and part of Monday for a funeral (my great uncle). I am now worried about by grandma since it was her brother and she was already kind of depressed this year. Hopefully, we can help her during this sad time. I am also trying to get lose ends tied up at work because I am on vacation next week and the following week. We are headed to South Carolina to visit my in-laws. We haven't been down there in two years and I am really looking forward to some time off. It could mean the check-in's are weird the next couple of weeks but I will still try and get them posted.
Well, I can honestly say I have had some good outcomes because of our loss. I have actually reconnected with a friend because she reached out to us when everything happened. I have also had a couple of friendships kind of wain because of everything but I am trying to forgive and move on this holiday season. I have been really optimistic here lately and I am really loving it.
Some of our interesting family traditions are oyster stew and chili soup for Christmas Eve dinner before opening gifts. This was torture for me as a child because I do not like soup and we had to eat in order to open gifts. We would also get lucky some years and while we were at Christmas Eve service Santa would sometimes visit our house "to save himself time later in the evening". I always thought that was awesome. My parents did it so we could get up and get going to celebrate Christmas on the other side of the family the next day.
Please help with questions of the day, my lists are starting to get short and I am running out of ideas. Thanks for your help. (=
I had to go back to work this week, for the first time in 10 weeks. It's been rough...I think mostly because everything is so normal, and yet it all feels so completely wrong. It's been 2 weeks since we lost Gabi - I'm still having some good days, but the past few have been really hard for me.
I've learned to value my friends and family so much more. So many people have come forward with warmth and thoughts and prayers - people we considered really good friends as well as people we only "know" It warms my heart to see how much Gabi is loved.
We have a "traditional" Italian Christmas Eve with fish (and lots of pasta, which is good since I hate fish). We all go to my grandmother's house for dinner and open some presents. My family doesn't do anything special on Christmas day, just open the rest of the presents.
1. Just the update on the chromosone results, waiting for the rest of the results and have an appointment with Maternal Fetal Medicine in January.
2. There are a few people I am keeping my distance from, like one of my closest friends is due 5 days before me, so it is hard to hear about her pregnancy milestones because I know they should have been mine also.
3. We actually our not doing our normal family tradition which is a family Christmas card of me, DH and our dogs, I just am not up to doing a family thing.
1. AF showed up this week, so it is onto cycle #5 of TTC after our loss. It is hard each month, but especially this month since I was hoping to end 2008 on some good news. I guess it's onto 2009 for us.
2. I think I feel closer to my family after all of this. We aren't one of those "huggy-kissy-I-love-you" families, but I saw how much love was there through this. I do think my relationship with my mom is a little wierd right now. I think she doesn't know what to say, or what not to say... I'm actually planning on talking to her about it soon because it feels a bit like we're both walking on eggshells. I lost one friend who was like a 2nd mother to me. She didn't contact me at all after our loss. I was so surprised I was sure she didn't get my email telling her about the loss, so I re-sent it. At that point, she responded saying she didn't know how to respond or what to say. She tried to contact me a few times a week or two later and left messages that said all the wrong things (ie "I know you'll have a healthy pregnancy again soon" and "everything happens for a reason"), but it was too little too late, so I never answered or called back.
3. This holiday will be different for us. We usually go to my inlaws for a day or so, and then to my parents house on Christmas afternoon with my brothers and their families. I decided this year I can't really do the big happy family thing. It's just too hard with my 2 month old niece who will be totally fussed over. I'm glad she'll be fussed over, but I don't want to be there for it. I think we will stay home, just the 2 of us, for Christmas Day and then go visit with just my parents the day after, and my inlaws a day or two after that. I feel a little bit bad for not wanting to see my brothers and their kids, but I just hope everyone will understand. Maybe this will be our new Christmas tradition.... we have always said that we'd stay home on Christmas once we have kids....
1. Had ANA screen drawn last week along with Thyroid panel....Thyroid is finally back to normal.....and, unexpectedly, the ANA titer was positive. I will have further work up on Monday for Lupus, Sjogren's Syndrome, Rheumatoid Arthritis and Connective Tissue Disease. All of which would be a huge issues in future pregnancies.
2. I am truly blessed by my family, friends and co-workers/employer. I was amazed by them all!!!
3. We actually are planning on going to our friends for Christmas this year...but I am sure there will be family drama from DH daughters getting upset about it. With the mood I have been in this last week I don't give a damn!!1. Please feel free to give a general update. No update
2. PG related QOTD: How have relationships with friends/family changed? (Thanks vml14) I think my relationship with Dh is strained. Right after Jack died, he decided he wanted to go back to school (the first semester ends tomorrow). And now everything he does is for school...no time for "us"..must study. I am proud of him, etc. But the dynamic between us is different. My goal in life is to be a mommy...his goal is to become a doctor. I support his goal..he doesn't have time to even discuss mine..I could go on and on about this..but you get the jist. The relationship with my in-laws (mainly the bils and sils) is rather uncomfy. Not that I was ever real close with the sils, but ever since Jack...I'm lucky to get a hello when we get together for holidays/special occassions. I know they don't know what to say, but saying nothing makes things worse.
3. Non-PG related QOTD: Do you have any family traditions this holiday season? We have a ton..or they are more childhood related..briefly..we use to always read "twas the night before christmas" every xmas eve...we would always yell down the stairs to make sure santa wasn't there, before thundering down to open all the present...Dh and I buy ourselves a tree ornament every year (we intend to buy one for jack this year too)
4. Any suggestion of either QOTD can't think of any
1. Please feel free to give a general update. I am doing pretty poorly. Just found out anothe rco-worker with whom I work very closely is pregnant and that is just so hard. EVERYONE we know is pregnant... literally. And as much as I am happy for them, it makes me miss my Isaac so, so much...
2. PG related QOTD: How have relationships with friends/family changed? (Thanks vml14) I think that there are just some people who I am aroudn more, and some I am around less. We are fortunate to have really supportive friends and family for the most part, so I just choose to spend my time with the supportive people who feel "safe."
3. Non-PG related QOTD: Do you have any family traditions this holiday season? Yes, but we're not doing many of them. We're not putting up a tree or anything like that. It's just too hard. I am doign Christmas cards because I always send a photocard and really didn't want to miss my chance to send one with Isaac on it. But other than that, we're laying low... and going to Jamaica for a week two days after Christmas instead.
4. Any suggestion of either QOTD? Maybe something along the lines of "How has your loss affected your marriage, either positively or negatively?
1. Well, I am just over 7 weeks pregnant. I am trying my hardest not to worry or think of what could/might happen. Still there are days that it feels like we just lost our little one. Overall, I am happy with how my life is right now. I still wish we didn't go through all that we went through, but it happened and there is nothing I can do to change it.
2. PG related QOTD: How have relationships with friends/family changed? (Thanks vml14) My relationship with Dh is great. Most family and friends have been very supportive. There are a couple that have said some inappropriate thoughtless things to me. I still haven't let those go yet.
3. Non-PG related QOTD: Do you have any family traditions this holiday season? Yes, but I am working on Christmas. I had planned on still being on maternity leave, but that obviously can't happen. We did put up our tree this year and I am so glad we did. Last year we did not decorate or anything (we had to put our dog to sleep).
4. Any suggestion of either QOTD?