16 month old hits me and thinks its funny

Re: 16 month old hits me and thinks its funny

• aboynamedbarry member

  May 2013

  I feel ya! I've tried several things as well and the thing that seems to offend her the most lol is when I plain stand up or put her down and walk away. Inevitably there is a tantrum but when she's done I go back and say OK we can play again now. Or something like that

  

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• Brit's Luna154 member

  May 2013

  aboynamedbarry:

  I feel ya! I've tried several things as well and the thing that seems to offend her the most lol is when I plain stand up or put her down and walk away. Inevitably there is a tantrum but when she's done I go back and say OK we can play again now. Or something like that

  I did the walk away thing during one her her hitting episodes last night. It made her really upset, which is guess is the goal in some twisted way. I guess I will continue that approach as much as possible. Sometimes it just isn't realistic to do that, like if she is in the bath tub (like she was during one of her outbursts last night) or when we are trying to leave for work/daycare.

  Ugh. I hate that I have to deal with this.

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• bugsmami member

  May 2013

  I script DS with "hitting hurts. please use gentle touches" and then show him gentle touches. He will do the gentle touch and then will get progressively harder. It's really just a phase (one of many that they will go through over the next few years). They need the stimulation (so offer plenty of appropriate things for hitting... like wooden spoons on pots) and keep practicing gentle hands. They don't really start to gain good impulse control until around age 5, so if they decide to do it (hit, bite, etc), they generally will. Also, try to keep any reaction to a minimum, and remember.. This, too, shall pass...and will most likely be replaced with biting (so then it's time to increase their oral stimulation with frozen foods, sour foods, chewy (age appropriate) foods. If they get the stimulation that they are seeking with something similar, but appropriate and it might lessen the offensive act if that makes sense!

  

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• vindaloo member

  May 2013

  DS used to hit me and bite me at that age. I used to say No hit Mama in a stern voice, and say Gentle, Gentle, Nice, while demonstrating a gentle touch. That usually stopped it.
  
  However when he was doing it willfully and laughing about it, I got more serious. It only happened twice, and both times we were sitting on the bed together and playing. Both times when the hitting escalated and he wouldn't stop, I picked him up and put him on the floor, away from me while I stayed up on the bed. I said sternly No, no hit mama. Both times he started crying. I think it was the physical removal that made him realize I was serious. After a minute I gently explained that we don't hit and that it gives mama ouch. DS is almost 2 now and we haven't had a problem since.

  

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• emnoahmom member

  May 2013

  Yup, we are going through this too. I just try to redirect him and show him gentle ways to touch. If he continues I will turn away from him and that usually works, he stops and then we find something else to focus attention on.
  

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• melissa0726 member

  May 2013

  For us, both "ouch" and a stern "no" elicit more laughing.  So I know how you are feeling!

  I give her one chance by saying "gentle touch," and showing her that she can touch my face gently and nicely.  If she hits me again, I get up and walk away and remove myself from the situation.  This seems to work best for us.  
  

   

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