Back story: My RE is a doctor that works at the IVF institute I would be using, but he also has his own RE office separate. He will continue to be my IVF doctor when that time comes. I thought at my initial consult, that I would meet with the financial lady AND meet with some type of IVF coordinator/nurse/doctor, etc.
I had MH take off work early to go with me. The office manager/financial lady came and got us. We walked into the office, she gave us 2 pieces of paper (one with the cost of 1 cycle, the other with the cost of 2 cycles). She then asked if we had questions and was seemingly done with her appointment. WTF??
So I asked what my med protocol, further testing needed prior to starting the whole thing...she just said that all the clinical questions should be with my RE....grr...
Ive been doing some research regarding DQ alpha matching/NK cells testing because of our 2 losses. So I asked about that, and she scheduled us to come in next week for that test (thats another $1000
. But she wouldn't have, if I didn't ask. She didn't know our history or anything (despite the 8 page questionnaire I sent back to them).
I asked a little more about the results of the tests and the possible treatment, she then told me "Well if you are 100% matched, you need donor sperm because you two will never be able to have kids together". I pretty much sat there stunned for a moment...and then we left.
I love my doctor, and have heard nothing but great things from my friends that went through IVF at this center, but I pretty much wasted my afternooon receiving 2 papers that she couldve emailed to me.
The next step is to decide which cycle we want to go with, right now it's between August or September because my work schedule for July is already out. Who knows, I bought myself a bottle of wine on the way home and am going to enjoy it tonight.
If you got this far...you are awesome ![]()



Re: My IVF consult didn't go as I would have liked...(long, sorry)
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Age: Me 26, DH 27, Married Oct. 10, 2009 ,TTC since March 2012
Problem: Irregular menstruation, unexplained
Nov&Dec-Provera because of no period after 35+ days
First RE appt 1/10/2013
Tests: TSH (normal), Prolactin (normal), SA (abnormal)
Hysteroscopy (normal) and PCOS labs (negative/normal) 1/15/2013
2/1/13- HPT BFP but Beta Hcg was negative
Plan: Femara + Trigger + IUI in April if no real BFP before then Bloggy Blog!
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Me 32 :: DH 41
TTC since November, 2011
DH's SA : Excellent
Lap and Hysteroscopy June 2012
DX: PCOS, Stage III Endo, slight Adenomyosis, blocked tube, and probable LPD
Treatments: 6 Months Lupron Depot injections; 1500 mg metformin; 3 cycles of Clomid + TI = BFN
3 endometrial biopsies all were "out of phase"
September - December, 2013: Break to lose weight and get healthy
40 lb weight loss but still not ovulating "in phase"
February - March 2014: bcps + follistim + trigger + TI = BFP
Beta #1 (12dpo): 30; Beta #2 (18dpo): 500; Beta #3 (25dpo): 7,000!!!
1st u/s 4/16: One beautiful hb at 144 bmp
2nd u/s 4/29: hb at 166 bmp. Graduated from RE!!
TEAM PINK!
Baby girl arrived on Thanksgiving day weighing 7lbs 6oz and measuring 20 inches
That's so dumb...I understand the REs and offices are all busy, so sometimes we can feel rushed. But you'd think they would actually save time if they worked to schedule a good and thorough consult (including discussion on meds, etc.) with you all at once. And especially if it's something as important as IVF! At least you have a good doctor you're happy with. Enjoy the wine!
Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
No, at least I didnt have to pay...nobody was actually "consulted" during my visit though.
TTC since July 2011
BFP #1: 2/15/12-Ectopic/Mtx at 6 wks
BFP #2: 10/12/12-m/c at 5 wks.
Me: MTHFR, Low AMH (1.1), High NK cells and Antiphospholipid Antibodies.
IVF with ICSI in August 2013 brought us our babies. ER-9R, 7M, 4F w/ICSI ET of 2-Grade 2 blasts.
Dx shortened cervix, PTL, and preeclampsia during pregnancy. Lots of medications and 13 weeks of bedrest, babies were born healthy at 34w4d!
TTC since July 2011
BFP #1: 2/15/12-Ectopic/Mtx at 6 wks
BFP #2: 10/12/12-m/c at 5 wks.
Me: MTHFR, Low AMH (1.1), High NK cells and Antiphospholipid Antibodies.
IVF with ICSI in August 2013 brought us our babies. ER-9R, 7M, 4F w/ICSI ET of 2-Grade 2 blasts.
Dx shortened cervix, PTL, and preeclampsia during pregnancy. Lots of medications and 13 weeks of bedrest, babies were born healthy at 34w4d!
HSG = blocked tubes in March 2011
(Would have started work up sooner but husband deployed in 2010)
Tubes unblocked successfully in June 2011
TTC naturally no success (Husband deployed again in2011
Clomid IUI 3 rounds- Dec 2012, Jan. 2013, Feb. 2013 Failed
IUI # 4 Follistim/Ganirelix/Ovidrel/Progesterone Supp.- April 2013-Failed
IUI # 5 Follistim/Ganirelix/Ovidrel/Progesterone Supp - June 2013-Failed
Moscato is my grape of choice too - mmmmm. I detest it when people who work with the public show such utter disdain for their clients. They are in a place that was created specifically to assist people who are having a difficult time, and then to be brushed off and 'processed' is the height of rudeness. I'm sorry
Formerly buttercupaug 06 - and I was almost silver
PAIF/SAIF/PGAL/PAL ALL WELCOME!
Aug 16, 2013 - SA done - All good strong numbers
Apr 3, 2014 - Consult with OBGYN to get my testing started.
Mar 6, 2014 - Surprise BFP!!!! EDD Nov 9th. Consult with OBGYN changed to prenatal meet and greet!
May 2, 2014 - NT scan perfect! Can't wait to find out what team we're on.
June 11, 2014 - it's official, we're TEAM PINK!!!
Welcome Piper Laine!! November 10, 2014
Married October 2009. Me 29 H 28.
After 1 year of infertility, our little miracle was conceived via our 3rd IUI on May 5, 2013.
Holland Sophia was born Jan 24, 2014.
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Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old)
RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF
IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN
Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th! Egg Retrieval 9/20/13. 19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI
3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5 Beta #2 on 10/6/13 = negative
IVF#2 - Lupron plan (set to begin on 10/28/13) (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)
Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months
CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron. (Got my calendar today! IVF#2 is a go!)
ER = 1/14/14 (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized. Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized. At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing. Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)
ET = 1/19/14 (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred! (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze. =( )
Beta #1 = 1/28/14 (2 weeks after ER) BFP! 209 (9dp5dt) EDD 10/7/14
Beta #2 - 1/30/14 (11 dp5dt) 302
Beta #3 - 2/3/14 (15 dp5dt) 1222
Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS! Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm
Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.
PAIF/SAIF Welcome!
That does sound really annoying. Enjoy the wine!
TTC since Sept 2011, Unexplained IF
Oct 12 - Jan 14: 3 clomid/TI cycles, 2 hysteroscopies, 2 IUIs, 1 BFP (MMC @ 12w), 2 more IUIs
Feb 14: Gonal-f + IUI #5 = BFP! (EDD 11/4/14)
Baby boy arrived 11/13/14!
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Married 8/21/2010, Off BCP April 2011, Started TTC 10/2011
SA - Normal CD3 Bloodwork - Normal HSG- All clear!
July 2012 50mg Clomid CD3-7 Trigger+TI = BFN
August 2012 50mg Clomid CD3-7 Trigger+IUI = BFN
September 2012 50mg Clomid CD3-7 Trigger+IUI = BFN
October 4th LAP - Mild Endo - All Removed
Treatment Break 3 cycles = BFN
1st Treatment Cycle Post Lap --
February 2013 50mg Clomid CD3-7 Trigger+IUI = BFN
March 2013 50mg Clomid CD3-7 Trigger+IUI = BFN
April 2013 Break Cycle ~~~ May 2013 Meet with RE discuss next steps
July 2013 IVF ~ Stims start 6/28
ER 7/10 20R/14M/14F
Day 3 - 10 Embryos
ET 7/15 Transferred 1 Blast on day 5 - Froze 6
7/24 Beta 1 150 7/26 Beta 2 313 7/30 Beta 3 1,084 Beta 4 3,000 Beta 5 8,120 1st U/S 8/8
DX: Unexplained
BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121. US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE. EDD 12/28
I'm so sorry you had such a terrible appointment. Perhaps you could give some feedback to your RE about how it went, maybe it was just this particular person you met with who is bad?
I hope today is a little brighter!
Dx: Unexplained Infertility, probable endometriosis
Feb-April 2013: Femara + TI: BFN
May - September 2013: Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI#1-4 = BFN
IVF # 1 November 2013: transferred 1 perfect blast = BFN
IVF # 2 April 2014: Endo scrape, transferred 2 blasts = BFP!! (first ever!), CP
FET #1 June 2014: transferred 2 blasts = BFFN
New Dx: Repeat Implantation Failure
IVF # 3 November 2014 = BFP!! Beta #1 9dp5t 272 Beta # 2 11dp5dt 626
It's Twins!
*everyone welcome*
TTC since July 2011
BFP #1: 2/15/12-Ectopic/Mtx at 6 wks
BFP #2: 10/12/12-m/c at 5 wks.
Me: MTHFR, Low AMH (1.1), High NK cells and Antiphospholipid Antibodies.
IVF with ICSI in August 2013 brought us our babies. ER-9R, 7M, 4F w/ICSI ET of 2-Grade 2 blasts.
Dx shortened cervix, PTL, and preeclampsia during pregnancy. Lots of medications and 13 weeks of bedrest, babies were born healthy at 34w4d!
After almost 2 years of TTC and fertility treatments we got a surprise BFP in May 2013
Ugh, I woud've been super annoyed too. Especially if my husband took off from work early. Drink up!
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TTC #1 since March 2011
1 medicated TI cycle & 4 clomid IUIs = all BFNs
DS1 born 2/14
TTC #2 since December 2014
May 2015 unassisted BFP ended in m/c at 7wks
April 2016 FET #1 = BFN
June 2016 FET #2 = c/p
August 2016 FET #3 = BFP!
DS2 born 4/17
I'm sorry, hon. I can probably guess who your doctor is and the center you are using! Good luck with your testing. If you do end up with a partial or full match, there are other options. My husband and I had a partial match. We ended up getting additional treatment through a reproductive immunologist.
I hope you are not offended by me responding. I was a regular on this board a long time ago. I check in on a few people now and then but don't usually respond/post. Your post just made me feel the need to post. I'm not on here much but, Katib knows how to find me if you ever want to "talk".
~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~
Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
I really appreciate your response
Like I said, I love my doctor and those people in his office, but just a bad first impression of the IVF center. I spoke with my RE's office today, I'm gonna call on CD1 and then start testing, get a hysteroscopy, and start BCP. I feel better that I at least have a plan and we'll just have to see if anything additional is revealed in testing. I will definitely have more questions if we come up as a match....thanks!
TTC since July 2011
BFP #1: 2/15/12-Ectopic/Mtx at 6 wks
BFP #2: 10/12/12-m/c at 5 wks.
Me: MTHFR, Low AMH (1.1), High NK cells and Antiphospholipid Antibodies.
IVF with ICSI in August 2013 brought us our babies. ER-9R, 7M, 4F w/ICSI ET of 2-Grade 2 blasts.
Dx shortened cervix, PTL, and preeclampsia during pregnancy. Lots of medications and 13 weeks of bedrest, babies were born healthy at 34w4d!