When was your moment?

CMBatiz13 · April 2013

Hey all. My hubby and I got married a few months ago after being together 4 years and I seriously can't stop thinking about babies. It seems like I think about having one the majority of the day everyday! We are both teachers with good job security and were talking about possibly trying to conceive this summer - July or August - but it's such a BIG DECISION. Maybe no matter when you go for it, it's a little scary but I'm so excited. When was your "Okay let's jump in and do this" moment? FYI we are financially good, live in a nice place, no serious debt, and I am 27. It seems like everyone is excited for us to have a baby (they talk about it ALL THE TIME) but on the other hand people say "enjoy being married" so I'm not sure what that means....It's hard to not let others influence you so I'm just wondering when THE moment was for you to officially start TTC.

Thanks!

hnid222 · April 2013

My husband started talking kids on our honeymoon and I'm not kidding. After we got married, I was having to drive an hour to and from work. I told him that if we could both live and work in the same area I'd start to think about really starting that next chapter. He applied for jobs where I was working and we ended up moving and buying a home. Now I finally feel like we have the big items crossed off our baby list.
We've started trying towards the end of 2012 but after the holidays we really started to make more of an effort.

I think for me I wanted that feeling of security with our jobs and having a home before I got really excited about things.

CMBatiz13 · April 2013

Thanks for the reply hnid222. Good luck!

ujocdeelovely · April 2013

::lurking:: Me and my FH are getting married this August. We've been together for almost 9 years and have lived together for about 3. We also have decided to TTC after the wedding (end of August). It's just easier since I'm also a teacher and I don't want to use any of my sick time unless its really necessary. Many people have told us that we should wait and enjoy married life but we've been together for so long and we already live together so being married is just adding a title for us.We just feel like whats the point in waiting. I honestly want the baby more than the wedding! LOL!

You and your husband do what makes you happy but like you said, deciding to have a baby is a big decision. Talk with your husband and if everything seems right, go for it!

Good Luck!

CMBatiz13 · April 2013

Thanks ujocdeelovely! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I'm glad to hear someone is in a similar situation. My husband and I both want 2-3 kids so like you said, "what's the point in waiting?" Maybe we will conceive around the same time

ujocdeelovely · April 2013

Lets keep our fingers crossed!! :

ricecakes1216 · April 2013

My H was ready as soon as we got married. I had just made a huge move and was looking for a job so that wasn't happening. Then we wanted to save money and get things paid off. He deployed so that delayed having kids longer. After he got home we went through a pretty tough part of our marriage. When we made it through that we decided that it was time. We both had stable jobs, saved up some money and were very stable in our relationship. I remember the day that we decided it was time.

BG09 · May 2013

My DH and I have been together for 6 1/2 years total and married for 3 1/2 of those years, and for the first few years of being married we didn't even really think about having children. We knew we wanted some eventually, but didn't feel the need to get started right away. About a year ago is when I really started to get babies on the brain, but I wanted to wait until the right time. Right now we own a smaller home, but we will be building a bigger home this summer, so we've decided to officially start trying in August! I'm also going to be 30 in October, so I've decided we need to get this show on the road! I want to have 4 kids so it's now or never!

dragossoul84 · May 2013

Dh and I were dating we got pregnant on bc but later lost the pregnancy. It made us look at what we really wanted and we decided it was to be a family. The loss brought us closer together and made us feel that we were strong enough as a couple to support a child. We got married and started trying that year

magdalina.h · May 2013

When we were engaged we decided that we were going to wait 2 years. When we had our 2 year anniversary we decided to wait a couple of more months.

Sarah52Beth · May 2013

Everything seems to have lined up well for the two of you to be in a good place to ttc. I know people will say "enjoy being married for a while", but at the same time you have to follow your heart. It would be different if you were in bad debt or something of the like.

Personally, my H and I started to ttc right after marriage (which is only going on 3 1/2 weeks). We have been together 9 years. Combined with being in a comfortable place financially, we decided that having children was the only thing we were missing.

daddygrl122 · May 2013

I think it depends on the person. If you are financially ready and you both want it go for it. My husband and I have been married for 2 years today and started trying just after our 1 year anniversary when we were finally in a house of our own. I had baby on the brain just like you and it only gets worse so if you really want to do it go for it.

Shopaholic30 · May 2013

I think the whole "enjoy being married" thing is a bit silly with your situation considering yall have been together more than 4 years...if yall were living together prior to that.

According to what you say, yall are pretty set in life...Id say go for it! Yall want a baby, thats what matters. Screw what others think you need. Its yalls life.

My moment of "lets jump into this" was when I found out I was preggo last week. Wasnt planned, but I am blessed to say I get pregnant if you sneeze on me.

Good luck and I pray yall concieve and have a happy and healthy pregnancy

CMBatiz13 · May 2013

Thank you so much everyone! All the replies mean a lot and are really helping to put things in perspective. :

Alexandra1513 · May 2013

We both knew we wanted kids right away since we both had older parent (both sets were over 35 when they had us) and we did not want that, we are both in our mid twenties now. We originally were going to wait a year after getting married to start TTC but my husband is an avid duck hunter and I realized that if we start trying in January the baby would be born at the begging of duck season. If on the other hand we move it up and start trying in June that would put the baby around March right after the season ends. Let?s just say it did not take a lot of convincing to change his mind on moving up the TTC lol.

SuperFluke · May 2013

Alexandra, this was us. We started trying in May to avoid a Nov or Dec baby. We are both avid hunters and were trying to avoid a duck/deer season baby. LO was born Nov 14, which happens to either be opening day or the day before. DH left for Mich on her 1st bday to go hunting and I left with her to go hunting in OH. I think it is kinda cool that she could actually havest a deer on her bday someday.

BriRic · May 2013

My husband and I will be married for 3 years this coming September. His younger brother got engaged shortly after us and got married a month after us. 2 months later they told us they were expecting and we both got depressed. That's another long story, but I got serious baby fever. We both wanted to wait for me to finish school and for us to be more financially stable. Ever since January of this year, I've had hardcore baby fever again. We kept thinking we would wait until I was done with school. This past March randomly one day I texted him and said "Let's make a baby." He said, "Ok." and I was shocked. We talked about it that night and decided it was the right time. I'll be done with school (hopefully) in December and we'll have a bit more debt paid off. I got off the pill that day and we are TTC. No luck yet, but I'm hoping I get the BFP soon!

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