Am I wrong?

wilsontl19191 · May 2013

P has had a high fever, snotty nose and congestion since Saturday. We were scheduled to attend a baptism on Sunday, but decided not to go for two reasons: other children were going to be there and P was miserable and all he wanted to do was sleep. I talked to the mom today who never let me know she got my message about not attending and she made sure to tell me her son had a cold and another couple brought their child who was under the weather. Was that a dig? Am I being overly sensitive? Here I thought I was doing everyone a favor. I know the reception was at an expensive venue and I sent a check in the mail today. Were we wrong to stay home?

CMonkey515 · May 2013

You were right. That mom is an idiot. I would appreciate if someone declined attending an event I was hosting because their kid was sick. I wouldn't want those germs. Plus why make your LO suffer when he could stay in his pjs all day and work on getting better.

lisamonkee11 · May 2013

I agree with everyone else. You were right to stay away. It's not your fault she didn't get the message.
Plus you've gone above and beyond by covering the cost. She's a jerk.

LatteLady5 · May 2013

crystaladult:
You're right. Your mom is wrong and being a snatch. You're not being overly sensitive. I hate when people bring their sick kids to events.

+1

It drives me nuts when sick kids are forced to participate in events especially around other kids. It's not fun for the sick kid, it's not fun for the parents and it's definitely not fun for the kids who get sick because of the sick kid.

You are not wrong.

mrs.lizzieb · May 2013

I agree that it was a dig, but you were 100% right to stay home, especially since he was running a fever.

jwls84 · May 2013

You were right to stay home! Why would you purposefully pass on germs if It can be prevented! And you guys would not have enjoyed yourself! That mom is probably trying to make herself feel better about bringing her sick kid, by justifying it with the fact other sick kids were there.

HappyAardvark · May 2013

Your mom needs to get her head on straight. Was she seriously going to make you defend your decision to keep your sick kid home? Just because some other asssclown moms brought their sick kids, you should've brought yours too? Uhhh, ok. Logic totally makes sense there.

Besides, it's not like the kid had just puked and you were going to daycare.

missyishere · May 2013

LatteLady5:
crystaladult:
You're right. Your mom is wrong and being a snatch. You're not being overly sensitive. I hate when people bring their sick kids to events.
+1
It drives me nuts when sick kids are forced to participate in events especially around other kids. It's not fun for the sick kid, it's not fun for the parents and it's definitely not fun for the kids who get sick because of the sick kid.
You are not wrong. 

Could not have said it better.

leahandbuck · May 2013

You were absolutely in the right here. People like that are never happy, and she probably would have b*tched if you had brought your sick kid and then hers got whatever yours had. If anyone wants to question my decisions as a parent they can just keep it moving.

pennysuedog · May 2013

Cold/sniffles we go otherwise we would never leave the house...fevers, Hershey squirts, barfing, sore throats, hacking, oozing...we stay home.

rubysue267 · May 2013

That sounds like a dig to me especially if she mentioned it without any context. It's actually really considerate, IMO, to decline a social event if you or your kid is sick. If I had been in your shoes, I wouldn't have gone either.

FabulousMrs.P · May 2013

You are right. I would have stayed home, too! Why spread disease and make everyone miserable?

Ignore the mom.

joolz17 · May 2013

I'm with everyone else - that mom is a loser for making a dig at you but you were totally in the right. I also think you went above and beyond for sending a cheque.

colliebabe · May 2013

Ya that was definitely a douchey comment but she is clearly wrong here.

Mrs. Mo · May 2013

I can't believe that the mom would actually WANT sick kids at the party. Even before I was a parent, I'd get upset if there was a sick kid around. 1) I'd feel bad for the poor kid who just wanted to snuggle with Mommy/Daddy and is being made to play with other kids & 2) I wouldn't want to get sick !

Ms.Jade · May 2013

If only other people thought this way...

DoctorWorm222 · May 2013

HappyAardvark:
Your mom needs to get her head on straight. Was she seriously going to make you defend your decision to keep your sick kid home? Just because some other asssclown moms brought their sick kids, you should've brought yours too? Uhhh, ok. Logic totally makes sense there. Besides, it's not like the kid had just puked and you were going to daycare.

Couldn't have said it better myself

I think a runny nose or a mild case of the sniffles (or even a single vomit due to a runny nose and a strong gag reflex) are totally different than a high fever that has lasted several days. You made the right choice.

wilsontl19191 · May 2013

Dh works with her husband and he confirmed she was all bent out of shape about it. He understood, but she didn't. Her DS is only 4 months old, I give her a few months and she will get it. That's life with kids, C!nt....

wilsontl19191 · May 2013

Packerfan79:
Wilsonn you could be the wrongest person ever to grace TB and I would still lub you girl:

But no you're not wrong here.

Lub u too, gurl!

emma&katiesmom · May 2013

Especially with a 4 month old you would think she'd be thankful you kept your sick kid at home. Fever = contagious, right?

I would have stayed home too!

pennysuedog · May 2013

Girl you got some balls. I just saw your FB post!

FabulousMrs.P · May 2013

emma&katiesmom:
Especially with a 4 month old you would think she'd be thankful you kept your sick kid at home. Fever = contagious, right?
I would have stayed home too!

Seriously...I wish my family and friends had enough common sense to keep a child with a fever AWAY from a 4 month old. Clearly this mom isn't thinking...I mean what can be something simple for an adult or an older child can send a 4 month old to the ER!

wilsontl19191 · May 2013

pennysuedog:
Girl you got some balls.nbsp; I just saw your FB post!nbsp;

Who? Me? Hee hee!

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