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What would you do?

StephenW4StephenW4
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My BIL is planning a surprise bday party for his wife next Fri, but he mentioned it starting around 7:30pm.   THe problem: DD goes to bed at 8:00pm

So we are trying to decide what the best option is for what to do with LO that night.  Which do you think is the lesser of the evils?

1) Take her out to dinner and screw up her bedtime/possibly have a fussy baby at dinner or have to hold a sleeping baby for an hour

2) Have my mom try to put her to bed that night (she's not very used to my mom yet, so that could be a disaster)

3) Let DH go to dinner (it's his sister's bday) and I skip out and stay home with DD.

Thanks!!

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Re: What would you do?

  • Katie829Katie829 member
    Can your DH go, you put the baby to bed, have your mother watch her from there and you meet your husband at the party?

    I wouldn't take the baby. Keeping my DD up past her bed time just makes her a grump the next day.
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  • Starbear06Starbear06 member
    If I were in this situation I would give baby later second nap and take her to dinner. That's just what we normally do if we need to go to a later dinner during the weekend and also depends on where dinner is at and who it's with. If its with friends at a nice restaurant then I would leave baby at home and either one of us would stay home. If its family and casual then we take baby.
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  • Starbear06Starbear06 member
    I was going to add that this might be a good opportunity to have your mom get used to putting LO down so you and H would be able to get out more?
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  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member

    Honestly I would hire a babysitter! Put DD down before you leave OR do as much bedtime routine as you can and then give the sitter instructions on how to put DD down. Maybe it won't go as smoothly as if mom were there but believe me, baby AND sitter will survive!

    You really need adult time. Maybe it isn't as important to you as it is to some moms (i.e. me), but I'd rather get DD to sleep, then go out with DH alone and leave DD with a sitter then drag a tired crank baby to any restaurant be it a casual or fancy meal. NO ONE wants to hear a cranky crying baby at a restaurant. Not me, not our family, and certainly not the other patrons.

    And no, I don't think you should stay home. You are DH's wife and unless he doesn't like being around you (which I'm assming isn't the case) he would really appreciate having his wife WITH him at social functions, be it his family or otherwise.

    Now, I take DD to restaurants on a regular basis but not at night when she needs to be in bed. During the day we'll flex her naps - no problem - she isn't a fussy baby (knock on wood). Her nighttime sleep, however, is sacred and ensuring a routine that maximizes the chances of her STTN is top priority. Hence no dinners at restaurants unless they start at 5 PM.

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  • allardrallardr member
    I would take LO and all go. It's going to happen more than once while LOs are little that you'll have to switch up the schedule. Be a family and enjoy. (You can even have LO take an extra later nap right before the party) However, I say this knowing my LO is laid back and would be chill there and crash when we got home. If your LO doesn't 'go with the flow' well this may not work for you.
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  • JENandJEHJENandJEH member
    I would leave LO with your mom or another sitter and go.  My DS  does not do well flexing his naps and I prefer to not mess with sleep because it usually ends up in a disaster that I have to deal with.  LO and your mom will survive...she am not do it like you do but she will be LO to bed and you will get a night out with DH.  
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  • stemms8810stemms8810 member

    Since it sounds like your mom is willing to babysit I would put my baby to bed and then leave once she's asleep.  I wouldn't take my LO out at that time mainly because he wants to be in bed by 7.  We have had LO out past his bedtime before but it was because something we were doing ran into his bedtime.  I wouldn't take him somewhere after his bedtime because he would be so cranky.

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  • tjkdlhbtjkdlhb member
    We've got a relatively easy-going baby as well... she pretty much goes where we do.



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  • PaMommy02PaMommy02 member
    I would ask your mom to babysit while you and DH go to the party. Don't miss out on your SIL party, it's important that you be there especially if you guys are close. If your mom can't and you can't find another sitter I would just take LO. Good luck!
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  • nikkks84nikkks84 member
    i would take the baby ...i believe in flexible routines 
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  • joleinejoleine member
    I would have my mom babysit and see if I couldn't adjust nap times to get the baby to go to bed early, or do as another poster said and have your husband go early, you put the baby to bed and show up late :) 
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