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baby daddy! blahh : /

katy121432katy121432
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So i did file the child support. but i guess he and his new girlfriend or whatever she is went out and bought a crib for my son but he hasnt called or seen him in 3 months and just expects to get him whenever he wants so he can play house with his new girlfriend... um not happening and he didnt even sign the birth certificate. he didnt do any of this stuff when were together just makes me mad. should i not be mad? iam just so confused. i wish i honestly didnt have to deal with him. or his girlfriend i dont want my son around another woman like that. baby daddy has only changed 4 dipars on his own. ugh. what to do ?? Advice? its stressing me out bad.
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  • tiaras09tiaras09
    I have a friend that is the same way. The way I look at it is.....that's your child. Making sure that your son is around the right people is very important. If he wants to now start being there for you then let him.....that is still his dad at the end of the day but I think you should at least talk to the girlfriend so that you feel more comfortable letting your son around her.
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  • Runaway22Runaway22 member

    Honestly, if my LO's BD wanted to spend time with LO as well as a new girlfriend, I would be on fire with all kinds of negative emotions: jealousy, indignation, worry that my son would somehow prefer this new woman over me, etc. These feelings are valid, but shouldn't interfere with my decision-making in regard to LO. The fact of the matter is that your LO has two parents who are no longer in a romantic/familial-type relationship. He deserves to have contact with both parents, and whomever each parent has brought into their respective lives, provided all parties are safe and loving. YOU are your LO's momma, and nothing can ever change that, not even your LO receiving love from another female figure. It may not be ideal, but don't you think your LO deserves all the love he can get? 

    I agree with PP, maybe try to talk to the girlfriend so you'll feel more comfortable with her being around your LO. As long as you're civil - especially in front of LO - it's perfectly ok to not be 100% comfortable with the arrangement, perhaps ever. I think parenthood generally involves doing things that make us uncomfortable, but we grin and bear it for the sake of our LOs. 

    That being said, I am sorry you're dealing with this. While it's a great sign that the BD bought a crib, I would be pretty upset about the whole thing myself.   (((creepy internet hugs)))

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  • barbielovesluisbarbielovesluis member
    Honestly, that would seriously upset me. I would be fuming but you also don't want your child to miss out on time with his dad. And you never want your ex to be able to say that your the reason he's never been around. Believe me I'm definitely not on his side. I wish I didn't have to deal with my ex either :
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  • katy121432katy121432
    Yeah hes already telling the whole town that iam the reason he doesnt see him but thats not the case at all he NEVER calls. hes ALWAYS at the bar. doesnt have a steady job. its just frustrating. i know hes going to want our son when our son can do things and that pisses me off too! You cant just pick and chose when you wanna play daddy. not cool. 
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  • clairedavid12clairedavid12 member
    I had it put in the CO that no female other then family could be around my son. Not sure how your state is. And since he's not on the birth cert, he has no rights. He'd have to take you to court to get a paternity test done and file for visitation.
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