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And the roller coaster saga continues - update
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers. Just noticed this morning that the EM sent a text yesterday that her phone was turned off but that we could text a message to the number she used and "they will get her the message". I swear if this is a scam I am not going to be happy. She wanted to know when we were coming down. Since we don't have medical records, not sure which hospital she is even going to be delivering in and have zero confirmation about anything, we have made NO plans. Is it me or doesn't this seem strange that the EM will only text us and yet provides no information about stuff when asked. I am not sure she knows we can't do anything without the agency, its not like we can go to TX and just "pick up a baby". I guess there is a glimmer of hope, but at this moment, my heart is turned off. Will keep you all posted.
Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
Moved on to gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15
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Re: And the roller coaster saga continues - update
Glad there is a glimmer of hope--- here's what I'd do (and take it with a grain of salt)
1. Text her at whatever number she said and say something like "EM, Thanks for reaching out to us. I'm not sure you know, but we are not legally able to make any plans or placements without the participation of the adoption agency. Since you didn't make your appointment with them last week, they don't have any information they need to make this placement possible. Perhaps it would be best to have a conference call with them. Why don't you call us and we'll patch you through to the agency, and then get off the phone so that they can discuss what they need to discuss with you privately"
2. When you get confirmation from her about that idea, Call Agency. Tell them that you are planning to do this. Make sure someone can take your call when it comes in.
3. See what happens from there.
I know you probably don't want advice---so I'm just offering it anyway (mostly 'cause having a plan makes me less stressed!) I hope this happens for you. So much love.
Ditto what Maryoosa said. She needs to know you can't move forward without the agency....
Stay strong, lady. We are here for you.
5 Angels
IRR, I'm praying for you. Praying that if this is going to work out, it erases the memory of all this anguish and uncertainty. And praying that if this isn't going to work out, it passes soon, and you find peace relatively quickly. And that then, just when you least expect it, your true baby finds you.
Hugs, and lots and lots of prayers.
TTC #2, Operative hysteroscopy March 2011; IVF #1 long lupron protocol April 2011-cancelled due to poor response; IVF #2 flare protocol May 2011=hospitalization due to abdominal hemorrhage during ER and no fert due to MFI issues. Moving onto international adoption from Moldova January 2013!
I'm just a lurker but have been praying for you.
Absolutely this. Keeping good thoughts and prayers for you.