Anyone else really upset this cycle/BFN?

kendra316 · December 2008

This cycle more then ever, I am SO upset, sad, discouraged, depressed. I think its a combination of going into cycle #5, I never thought it would take me this long and not getting my X-Mas BFP.....

I wanted more then anything in the world for a xmas BFP. I had tons of fun way to tell the family x-mas morning. And i'm just heart broken over it this month.

Anyone else at this point? Sad How do you stay positive?

KLResq · December 2008

I am trying to focus all of my positive energy on making it happen on my next cycle: how to improve my timing, how to be better about drinking green tea. I'm not thinking about the "failure" of this month as much as I'm trying to build myself up for having a new chance in my next cycle.

Link41208 · December 2008

I was disappointed that I didn't get my BFP in time for Christmas but I had to make a list of postitives about not getting it to make myself feel better. I know that it can take up to a year so I am fully prepared for that but hoping that it will not take that long.

kendra316 · December 2008

That's how i've always thought about it too, but this month is different for some reason. It hurts more.

I'd love to find out about green tea, but i'm hesitant to ask b/c im sure its been asked a million times already. Any chance you can direct me somewhere I can read up on it.?? I googled it and just get this fertiltea stuff. TIA

MoonBaby123 · December 2008

I got my very first BFN today. It's only 12dpo and can tell AF is on her way.

It's only my first cycle but still sucks!

traceandrob · December 2008

kendra316:

That's how i've always thought about it too, but this month is different for some reason. It hurts more.

I'd love to find out about green tea, but i'm hesitant to ask b/c im sure its been asked a million times already. Any chance you can direct me somewhere I can read up on it.?? I googled it and just get this fertiltea stuff. TIA

Green tea is supposed to increase egg white cervical mucus. Which helps the sperm to last longer in order to meet the egg.

mrs. sage · December 2008

You're not alone. I know I'm going to feel the same way this month when she shows her ugly mug. Mostly because I have the perfect game plan to tell DH on Christmas morning. The build up really kills you when the horrible let down hits.

GL next cycle!

irishgirlmd · December 2008

I haven't been trying for very long but I was super bummed this month with the BFN. ?It would have been so nice to have a xmas BFP! Plus, it seems like everyone I know is suddenly pg and everyone keeps asking me "when are you getting pg??" ?

?I think the other posters are right...best just to focus on ways to improve your chances next month!! ?A new year or Vday BFP!!?

ChrisNBobby · December 2008

I'm still in denial...willing AF away.

Lizard2022 · December 2008

I was really upset this month too. I was really hoping I could tell my mom in person, she lives 1,000 miles away, while she was here visiting for Christmas. I would also be due around her birthday and that would be extra sweet.

I cried last night for the first time. I felt really stupid afterwords because we have only been trying for a few months and I know it can take while.

I just keep telling myself at least I won't be hugely pregnant during the hottest month of the year, I can drink to help me survive my ILs this holiday season, and I can go out and have a great New Years. Good luck in 2009.

gidge · December 2008

I don't think this cycle will be so bad (looks like it will end either today or tomorrow...I have a better time dealing with it when I am destracted by work.

I think next cycle will be harder if I get a BFN, because it will be a year of trying. Crying

kendra316 · December 2008

I cried too yesterday.....making it even worse b/c that just means AF should be here tomorrow sometime. I know it takes time, but I HATE when people tell me "relax" and "let it happen" errr, STFU.....No one knows how it feels to want something so badly unless you too are trying.

I'm becoming that peson who is bitter and get jealous when other people announce there PG. I dont want to be like that. Maybe after the holidays pass, I'll be better.

Thanks for all good ideas, I'm definitely going to have some wine tonight and make a list of positives.

KellyLouise... · December 2008

Keep your head up. One thing I have learned is to not go overboard with the obsessing (charts, temps, "symptoms") - and seriously, it's not as hard as we would like to think. I don't chart at all - I think it helps me to deal with BFN because I can chalk it up to "must not have timed it right." It doesn't sting as bad that way....

kendra316 · December 2008

I haven't started charting yet. I think I am going to start this cycle. Maybe I wont waste so many HPT's if I can keep track of my temps. I wasted 6 so far this week. I'm POAS crazy, ekkk.

eileenm21 · December 2008

I am not thrilled - mostly because my chart reads like a roller coaster and I can't figure out why. It shows a clear thermal shift, but its still all over the place in each half. Plus this was my last month to get PG and be able to still student teach in the fall (grad school) so it really screws the whole thinng unless i don't get pg for another 4 months ish

jdeats12 · December 2008

I am RIGHT there with you. I haven't even O'd yet and it is so depressing. I am guessing that I will have to get meds to induce AF:( I treally sucks, I know:(

lbeardslee · December 2008

I feel so much better knowing it's not just me feeling this way! I cry a lot right now (due to TTC and not having my antidepressants while TTC). It is awful not feeling happy for others, dealing with people asking if we're pregnant yet, etc. I have to think about what I can do this month to increase our odds. I am going to buy some Mucinex tonight to increase the CM to see if that helps. Thank goodness for this board-it helps me keep my sanity.

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