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Two Shower Etiquette Questions

GraceInCAGraceInCA member
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Hi ladies, hoping you can help with these two things.

 

1. Two of my very close friends are throwing my shower. It's a brunch. There will be 12 of us - just closest family and friends. Three of my guests seem to have ordered items from my registry, and they've already been shipped to my house. Should I take these things with me to the shower? One is a small item, one is one of those Skip Hop activity gyms, but the third is a stroller. That seems like a huge pain to drag to the shower. I don't know what the protocol is.  

 

2. A former co-worker found my registry, probably just searching Amazon. She bought me something off of it, and then emailed me asking if I wanted her to throw me a shower. I'm not all that close to her, but she does throw a ton of parties, so I guess that's why she offered. I really don't want to invite her to the shower for a few reasons. I don't really like socializing with her, my hostesses might be inconvenienced by having to make changes on such short notice, and I hadn't included any co-workers (present or past) on the guest list, and don't want to open to door to that. Should I just play dumb and thank her for the offer but decline? Should I let her know my friends have already planned a small, intimate shower?

 

Thanks in advance! 


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Re: Two Shower Etiquette Questions

  • Lelo2006Lelo2006 member
    I would just say thank you, that's so nice and generous of you, but no thanks! Then tell her thanks for the gift. I don't think you need to tell her you're already having a shower. If you're not that close with her, it's not really her business...
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  • Lelo2006Lelo2006 member
    Oh, sorry, on the first question, no, you don't need to bring the gifts to the shower.
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  • HappyMrsKHappyMrsK member

    1. I wouldn't bring the actual gifts to your shower location for things that have been shipped to you.

    2. I would thank your co-worker for the offer but decline a shower if you really don't want her to throw you one. I'm assuming this would be a work shower with just your co-workers?  I also wouldn't feel the need to invite her to your other shower since you had not planned to invite her previously. It was nice that she bought you a gift, so I would just send her a nice thank you card. That should be sufficient.

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  • GraceInCAGraceInCA member
    Thank you for the responses!

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  • KellyBensimonKellyBensimon

    Is that picture of Grace Kelly?  Yay.  Big fan here.

    #1  I would not lug the big gift to the shower.  I might mention them at the shower if there's a right moment. 

    #2 I would not have the shower.  Politely decline.

    now i know how Nancy Kerrigan felt. that's insight into SCARY ISLAND. you have no clue what really went down.
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