Just reading this board out I curiosity, why do u ladies get so upset if someone is pregnant? Like, people having to put warnings in their titles, people unable to even read about someone having a 3year old son, or hiding away when you see a pregnant belly?
So, when I walk down the street pregnant, some women are looking the other way, going home to cry, or spiting me because I got pregnant?
I really am curious and just wonder why people here can't even handle to just SEE someone else pregnant. Any responses appreciated. TIA!
Re: Why do u guys get so upset?
My guess would be that you got pregnant quickly and couldn't even imagine trying for years like some of us.
This board is a place we can come and not be constantly bombarded with pregnant people....try being in our shoes and NOT crying at least once in a while.
ETA: I like how your first ever bump post was criticizing us...
TTC since July 2011
BFP #1: 2/15/12-Ectopic/Mtx at 6 wks
BFP #2: 10/12/12-m/c at 5 wks.
Me: MTHFR, Low AMH (1.1), High NK cells and Antiphospholipid Antibodies.
IVF with ICSI in August 2013 brought us our babies. ER-9R, 7M, 4F w/ICSI ET of 2-Grade 2 blasts.
Dx shortened cervix, PTL, and preeclampsia during pregnancy. Lots of medications and 13 weeks of bedrest, babies were born healthy at 34w4d!
Sorry ladies, tough day, but seriously....I think your kind of an idiot.
Little Man arrived 3/28/14 at 10:32pm
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yes. i have done this many times
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
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Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
OP, why are YOU so upset? No one is spiting you. We are dealing with our struggles as best as we can, which is easier when we can keep the pain of IF out of sight and out of mind.
Are you an idiot trying to stir up MUD or are you just an unsympathetic, judgmental b!tch?
TTC #1 since March 2011
1 medicated TI cycle & 4 clomid IUIs = all BFNs
DS1 born 2/14
TTC #2 since December 2014
May 2015 unassisted BFP ended in m/c at 7wks
April 2016 FET #1 = BFN
June 2016 FET #2 = c/p
August 2016 FET #3 = BFP!
DS2 born 4/17
My guess is that you were able to get pregnant easily. DH and I have been TTC for two years. Yes, sometimes I do see a pregnant woman and cry a bit. We are not spiting you because you are pregnant. How would you feel if you were in a group of people and everyone was given one million dollars except for you? It would suck, wouldn't it? You'd probably cry, wouldn't you? Be p!ssed off that everyone around you had something you wanted so badly, but you couldn't have it? Exactly.
Think twice before posting.
This.
seriously?! What in the world makes you come on a board for people fighting infertility and with your first post criticize how we choose to deal with our emotions. As others have said, this is OUR safe place. This is where we come to talk with others who understand our emotions. Your ignorance is not only unsympathetic but down right rude.
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DH's SA : Excellent
Lap and Hysteroscopy June 2012
DX: PCOS, Stage III Endo, slight Adenomyosis, blocked tube, and probable LPD
Treatments: 6 Months Lupron Depot injections; 1500 mg metformin; 3 cycles of Clomid + TI = BFN
3 endometrial biopsies all were "out of phase"
September - December, 2013: Break to lose weight and get healthy
40 lb weight loss but still not ovulating "in phase"
February - March 2014: bcps + follistim + trigger + TI = BFP
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This explains why my coworker who USED TO talk to me won't even look at me now that I'm pregnant. I mean, I want a nice house, a new car, what have you.. But I'm not going to be rude and biotchy to someone who has something I don't. That's called bitter jealousy and it looks ugly on each and every one of you.
Sorry you can't have something you want, but getting this crazy bitter and jealous is beyond... Just wow.
And all I can say is "WOW" right back at you. PPs stated it well and I don't think they are being bitter and jealous - they explained that this is a safe place where we can go without judgment for support and understanding. IF is something you can truly not understand unless you have gone through it. What you have just stated is one of THE MOST judgmental things I have read on this board. Please take a good look in the mirror before coming to a place like this and making such comments...
TTC #1 Since 7/2011
Me: 30, PCOS with anovulation
DH: 38, Low Morph & DE
Rx: Metformin 500mg
Cycle #1: Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
Cycle #2: Clomid 150mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
Cycle #3: Clomid 150mg + Follistim + Ovidrel = No response, Canceled
Cycle #4: Femara 7.5mg + Gonal-f + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP!!!!
~ EDD 03.26.14 ~
I know, right?
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Age: Me 26, DH 27, Married Oct. 10, 2009 ,TTC since March 2012
Problem: Irregular menstruation, unexplained
Nov&Dec-Provera because of no period after 35+ days
First RE appt 1/10/2013
Tests: TSH (normal), Prolactin (normal), SA (abnormal)
Hysteroscopy (normal) and PCOS labs (negative/normal) 1/15/2013
2/1/13- HPT BFP but Beta Hcg was negative
Plan: Femara + Trigger + IUI in April if no real BFP before then Bloggy Blog!
I did what you said. I looked in the mirror, but I don't think you'd be happy with what I saw... A pregnant tummy.
They should make a board or a post for women who are pregnant and get shunned by people who are jealous.
And bitter... It's hard enough being pregnant without some women treating you like you don't exist anymore... And you don't know my struggles... It actually took me over a year to get pregnant but I NEVER treated any pregnant woman differently or would ever come on a message board and berate people asking questions... Pregnancy isn't as easy physically as one would think, so until you know who someone is, maybe judgy wudgy was a bear... A bitter bear.
you are the one who came onto an infertility message board berating us. And we answered your question, if you don't like the answer then don't ask.
3TC March Siggy Challenge: Funny Internet Meme
Age: Me 26, DH 27, Married Oct. 10, 2009 ,TTC since March 2012
Problem: Irregular menstruation, unexplained
Nov&Dec-Provera because of no period after 35+ days
First RE appt 1/10/2013
Tests: TSH (normal), Prolactin (normal), SA (abnormal)
Hysteroscopy (normal) and PCOS labs (negative/normal) 1/15/2013
2/1/13- HPT BFP but Beta Hcg was negative
Plan: Femara + Trigger + IUI in April if no real BFP before then Bloggy Blog!
Firstly, I was not able to get pregnant easily. Secondly, I do see people around me with millions of dollars; I live in one of the largest cities in the country. I don't go home to my modest apartment and cry about it. Third, I did think before posting. It was an honest question... I guess I'm just a little hurt that a coworker that I was friends with wont even barely talk to me now that I'm pregnant. It makes me feel a bit angry that she can't get over it and be happy for me.
Some of the responses gave me perspective. Yours? Not so much. Some others? Even less since it was more rude judgmental crap.
Great! More crap!
Also, I didn't know that this was an IF board... I thought this was a trying to conceive board, or "trouble" doing so. I had "trouble" but I would never act this way and call people that I've never met pathetic.
Ps. I thought these boards were here, according to many women on TTGP, to make money for the Bump. Advertisements and such... From what I've seen over there, women are just as rude and belittling as here, except they go chomping at the bit if someone happens to ask what they think about possible pregnancy symptoms.
I guess I just don't get it, so away I go. You girls can stay here and wallow in your sorrows I guess...
I don't think you are going to get anyone to feel sorry for the fact that pregnancy isn't easily physically on you...I would love to be in your shoes and in pain everyday...boo freakin hoo.
BBTW...we can see that you are still online...waiting for responses..
TTC since July 2011
BFP #1: 2/15/12-Ectopic/Mtx at 6 wks
BFP #2: 10/12/12-m/c at 5 wks.
Me: MTHFR, Low AMH (1.1), High NK cells and Antiphospholipid Antibodies.
IVF with ICSI in August 2013 brought us our babies. ER-9R, 7M, 4F w/ICSI ET of 2-Grade 2 blasts.
Dx shortened cervix, PTL, and preeclampsia during pregnancy. Lots of medications and 13 weeks of bedrest, babies were born healthy at 34w4d!
From the observations I have made in the time I've been around this board, the women on 3T are nothing but compassionate, informative, and sincere. Your post is the first I have seen on this board that seems fabricated with the intent of sabotage. Take it somewhere else. We are dealing with a struggle that you can't begin to imagine let alone empathize. Not that we asked for any empathy from you in the first place. Reminder: YOU are the one who came around here looking for trouble. Buh bye.
Wow. Just wow. You claim you just posted this question while your husbad was in the shower, yet, everytime you respond you write 2 to 3 paragraphs.
You are sad,pathetic and a sad excuse for a women. You come to a board for women who are going through one of the most difficult time in they're lifes to stir some drama to get away from that sad pathetic life you must live.
And yes, they have every right to be upset. Do you understand how much money, time and emotional pain they are investing in order to get pregnant.
Altough I didn't have a problem TTC, I do know a few women who would give away everything they own to have a baby.
Pendeja! Cabrona!!
Our TTC Journy:
October 2009 - Started TTC
November 2009 - BFP M/C on November 23 @ 7 weeks
December 2009 - September 2010 - Actively TTC
October 2010 - BFP. Ectopic Pregnancy. Left Tube Removed.
November 2010 - BC 1 cycle
December 2010 - BFP
August 2011 - Sahara is born!
September 2011 - BC until ??? (2 years AT LEAST!)
This! This is why I suggested you look in a mirror! You are being childish and whining. Many of us, myself included would love to feel sick. I know pregnancy can be extremely hard on the body my SIL recently had her first child and was miserable during the last portion of her pregnancy. She actually developed eclampsia and it was super scary for her the difference between her and you though she didn't complain to me about how horrible she felt bc she knows how hard this journey is on me without having to ask. She was kind and sensitive. You just want attention. Get over yourself!
TTC #1 Since 7/2011
Me: 30, PCOS with anovulation
DH: 38, Low Morph & DE
Rx: Metformin 500mg
Cycle #1: Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
Cycle #2: Clomid 150mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
Cycle #3: Clomid 150mg + Follistim + Ovidrel = No response, Canceled
Cycle #4: Femara 7.5mg + Gonal-f + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP!!!!
~ EDD 03.26.14 ~
Yes. Some women are looking away or will go home and cry. I can't imagine anyone on this board SPITING you because you're pregnant. Bitter is a harsh word around these parts- and until you've been in our place- watch how you use it.
Did you ever stop to think that it is possible to be happy for someone else, but sad for yourself at the same time? Again- until you've been in our place it's impossible to understand.
I know you're trying to be helpful, but this is not the place for the picture of your daughter.
Maybe your friend doesn't talk to you anymore bc you were just as insensitive to her as you are to us.
No one was being rude to you, just giving honest answers and pointing out that you're being a jerk. It's bad enough to ask this question, but your question was full of judgement and insensitivity.
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
Once again, you have no idea what you're talking about... I never said I was special or unique for being pregnant... the things you come up with! I have no intention of even having a baby shower because I have always thought they were a tacky gift grab. Even at my own wedding, no electric slide or chicken dance or guarder belt tradition for me... I think this stuff is beyond corny and I don't have a Facebook. I'm a private person.
Again, for women who are trying to explain how one shouldn't judge unless you know someone or how they feel, you women are so obsessed with what you don't have that you can't even begin to wrap your head around someone else's situation. Self obsessed, rude, bitterly jealous of what you can't have. You don't know me, and it's funny how you peg me as someone who wants unicorn farts blown up my vag just because I'm pregnant. Couldn't be further from the truth. I know that no one here is EVER going to agree with my opinion, but I didn't come here looking for that. I came here to ask a question, then offer my perspective when I figured out how rude and spiteful most of you are... If you don't like it, don't read and respond to it. I have free speech and am entitled to my own opinion whether you, and your high and mighty horse, agree with me or not. Maybe if you could actually be happy for someone else your lives wouldn't feel as burdensome...
Just proof that you can't even get out of your self absorbed heads to even consider what someone else is going through if it isn't related to IF. So sad.
This response was amazing! Understanding, thoughtful, and helped me realize a bit more about what happens to women as they do through IF. Lets's face it... It IS a jealousy thing. I personally feel extremely weird having someone that I liked and respected now not even speaking to me. We were not close, but were getting close and beginning a friendship. I know she has been trying, and now she will not even talk to me.
This response helped me to put things in perspective... Thank you!
I think this was the kind of reaction you were looking for and wanted. You asked for our response, and you got our response. Nobody asked for yours... BOTTOM LINE!
Reading your post didn't upset me, in all honesty, I actually sympathise for you. It's clear that you were looking for some sort of attention, and in my opinion (because you asked for it in your original post) the attention you decided to seek out is pathetic!
You said you didn't know this was an IF board, well how would you know that individuals on this board get upset when someone mentions they are pregnant, or posts a picture of their child without reading the posts? By reading the posts, you would clearly realize this is and IF board. So I'm not sure if I believe you when you say you didn't know what kind of board this was...
You came on a board for women having trouble trying to conceive, and asked why we get so upset when someone is pregnant or post a picture of their child. You are now stereotyping. You act like every single individual that posts in the TTTC board can't stand looking at pregnant people & kids. You think we're all going to run home and cry or spit on them (because thats what grown adults do, right). Seeing pregnant people, babies, children, that doesn't bother me or half of the board. But there are some individuals that have been dealing with IF for years, and they cry not out of jealously like you think, but because they are wondering if they will ever get to experience that. Not to mention, everyone is on a different cycle day here. After spending $2,000 on a medicated IUI cycle and testing just to find out its a BFN, thats a really hard day. Seeing a post with a pregnancy siggy might just make that day a little harder too. Thinking that they will be able to change their siggy to a pregnancy siggy, only to find out they have to make another ovulation one... Asking someone to mention they have a siggy or child pictured is only to help an individual who is having a really hard day aware of what they are viewing. We're trying to not make it any little harder.
We're not jealous. We're not bitter. We're our own little private support system. We can't go to the TTC board or out shopping and say what were side effects from clomid? How long does the ovidrel shot take to test out? Does your insurance cover IUI? Can you refer me to a RE (if they even know what that is) in my area? What was your recovery like after a hysteroscopy? A laparoscopy? Etc... We come to this board because we can all relate to one another in one way or another. We get support, advice, recommendations from each other.
IF is really hard! Most people can't relate. Financially its hard, emotionally its harder. This board has it's rules and courtesies. They are implemented and geared around the posters here. That said, I would never go to a support group for people with skin cancer and say check out my tan lines, then say why are you all so pissed at me or salty that I can go tanning?!?
Lastly, your coworker. Look how you acted then reacted to a bunch of strangers you dont know. Maybe you being pregnant has nothing to do with her no longer talking to you. I don't know you or her, so I don't know. But based off of the things you said here, I can only imagine what you might say to somebody you know.
I hope you got the insight you needed, and by insight I mean attention.
It is NOT about jealousy and that post was by someone who has a whopping two posts on the bump, not a regular poster on 3T. It's about expecting people to be considerate. You come here, without having ever had a conversation with any of us, and ask why we're angry and bitter and make sure to mention in every post that you're pregnant and we're not. And then wonder why people get upset with you? You are a terrible person.
Maybe she has a completely different problem that you don't know about and you're thinking the whole world revolves around you. The sun doesn't rise and set on your ars either, sweetheart. So why don't you be the bigger person and start acting like the friend that you want her to be.
Me: 32 DH: 31.
B/W: good. SA: good.
November 2012: Paratubal cyst found during U/S.
January 10, 2013: Lap removed paratubal cyst and Stage 2 Endometriosis.
3 cycles of Femara + TI = BFNs
June 2013: Femara 2.5 mg, Gonal F Injects 37.5 IU, Menopur, trigger + IUI = BFN
July 2013: Femara 2.5 mg, Gonal F Injects 75 IU, Menopur, trigger + IUI = BFP!!!!
Beta 1 @ 11 DPIUI = 76. Progesterone = 27.3
BFP 8/16/2013 // EDD 4/28/2014
Jordan Samuel born April 19, 2014. 6 lb, 12 oz and 18 inches long.
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Get a life.
HSG = blocked tubes in March 2011
(Would have started work up sooner but husband deployed in 2010)
Tubes unblocked successfully in June 2011
TTC naturally no success (Husband deployed again in2011
Clomid IUI 3 rounds- Dec 2012, Jan. 2013, Feb. 2013 Failed
IUI # 4 Follistim/Ganirelix/Ovidrel/Progesterone Supp.- April 2013-Failed
IUI # 5 Follistim/Ganirelix/Ovidrel/Progesterone Supp - June 2013-Failed
It's pretty clear to me that you're the jealous and bitter one, OP. You came on this board to harass women who have never done anything to you. It seems like you're feeling lonely and isolated since you've gotten pregnant. You know why? Because you think that you deserve special treatment. Your coworker doesn't care that you're pregnant, she's just had enough of you.
And one more thing, that gum you like, it's never coming back into style.
TTC #1 since February 2011
C/P 5W3D
Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=
Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
Bleeding and low betas=very cautious
Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=
Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3
transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13=
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
It's a BOY!
Our TTC Journy:
October 2009 - Started TTC
November 2009 - BFP M/C on November 23 @ 7 weeks
December 2009 - September 2010 - Actively TTC
October 2010 - BFP. Ectopic Pregnancy. Left Tube Removed.
November 2010 - BC 1 cycle
December 2010 - BFP
August 2011 - Sahara is born!
September 2011 - BC until ??? (2 years AT LEAST!)