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Prove up hearing

tracy41tracy41 member
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When I filed my default paperwork on my paternity and custody case I checked a box requesting no visitation for BD. Considering he has been pretending I don't exist for months, didn't show up to sign the birth certificate despite saying he'd be there, has requested I don't contact him, and failed to respond to the court paperwork I assumed this would be a no brainer. However, the court has set up a prove up hearing regarding the no visitation request.

Has anyone had one of these? Am I expected to prove something? Will he be there? I sent him an email, since that's the only way he wanted me to talk to him, asking, again, if he wants visitation but I do not expect a response. I have no idea what they want to know. He didn't sign a birth certificate and ignored the court paperwork served on him. What am I supposed to do follow him around and shove my son at him?

Update: Well I was shocked to get a reply to my email but not shocked that he said he wants no contact and did not ask how LO is doing. Easier for me, I guess, but it just seems weird and a little sad. Thankfully for all his other issues my XH has said that any brother of DS1 is a son of his and will partially stand in. And isn't that just a whole ball of fun waiting to happen!
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Re: Prove up hearing

  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Prove-up doesn't mean you are required to prove anything.  If they had continued the case for a status call, that would mean they wouldn't be making a decision. At least that's what it means in the collections legal field, and I hate to make assumptions but I do believe that is the same for all legal fields.  I've never been through this, so I have no advice.  All I can really say is just relax, it seems like this is just a formality.  But also, be prepared.  I have no idea what they're going to say and, depending on the state, they may require visitation if you name BD as the father.
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  • tracy41tracy41 member
    And see this is the funny thing...I don't mind visitation. I want my son to know his father. But how do you grant visitation to someone who doesn't want anything to do with the child and won't admit he exists? Oh well, guess I'll see what's going on next week.
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Keep us updated, hope everything goes well for you!
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