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October 2013 Moms
BentoMinion
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I feel no real excitement
BentoMinion
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I have no real excitement over this baby anymore. I don't even feel like it is real.
At first I was so excited. We had been trying for 10 months and nothing. Then I got pregnant and I surprised my SO. It was kinda funny since he did not get it at first. I had plans on how to break it on FB after our viability scan.....
And the first scan showed a sac and they would not even date it.... That was Feb 13th. The next scan was because I had heavy cramping (that heavy is not normal) and pain for over 24 hours. We went to the ER per Dr. instructions and the tech showed us nothing. She turned it so we could not see. She told us nothing. So we went back to our room thinking I was going to miscarry. This is exactly what happened both times I had a miscarriage. After 30 minutes the nurse comes in and tells us we are all set and we can go home.... she did not realize the Dr. had not come in and that the tech had not told us a thing. In tears I asked her if the baby was ok. Come to find out baby was fine and I was 12 weeks and 2 days along.
Tomorrow I will be 18 weeks. I have heard the heart beat several times since the ultrasound. Still, I have no desire to really share it on FB and neither does SO... Maybe it is because we have not seen the baby since it was just a sac? Because we have no pictures when we have always had them? Maybe we both fear the worse still? Maybe because of some temporary stress going on around here?
Don't get me wrong, we are both glad to be having this baby. We want this baby. Yet I have to sit here and fake excitement when I feel like nothing is there outside of symptoms. I know I have felt the baby several times. Still,.... I do know if I lost the baby I would be mortified.
The only pleasure I get is the amusement that my SIL is being driven nuts because we have not gone public yet. Yep, I know that is sick in the head, but it's the truth.
At first I was so excited. We had been trying for 10 months and nothing. Then I got pregnant and I surprised my SO. It was kinda funny since he did not get it at first. I had plans on how to break it on FB after our viability scan.....
And the first scan showed a sac and they would not even date it.... That was Feb 13th. The next scan was because I had heavy cramping (that heavy is not normal) and pain for over 24 hours. We went to the ER per Dr. instructions and the tech showed us nothing. She turned it so we could not see. She told us nothing. So we went back to our room thinking I was going to miscarry. This is exactly what happened both times I had a miscarriage. After 30 minutes the nurse comes in and tells us we are all set and we can go home.... she did not realize the Dr. had not come in and that the tech had not told us a thing. In tears I asked her if the baby was ok. Come to find out baby was fine and I was 12 weeks and 2 days along.
Tomorrow I will be 18 weeks. I have heard the heart beat several times since the ultrasound. Still, I have no desire to really share it on FB and neither does SO... Maybe it is because we have not seen the baby since it was just a sac? Because we have no pictures when we have always had them? Maybe we both fear the worse still? Maybe because of some temporary stress going on around here?
Don't get me wrong, we are both glad to be having this baby. We want this baby. Yet I have to sit here and fake excitement when I feel like nothing is there outside of symptoms. I know I have felt the baby several times. Still,.... I do know if I lost the baby I would be mortified.
The only pleasure I get is the amusement that my SIL is being driven nuts because we have not gone public yet. Yep, I know that is sick in the head, but it's the truth.
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Re: I feel no real excitement
Me: All things check out so far DH: MFI (VERY low sperm count, low motility, low morph)
12/24/12 IUI #1 100mg Clomid = BFN
On IUI #2 100mg Clomid = BFP!!!!!!!!! Beta #1: 31, Beta #2: 100, Beta #3: 210, Beta #4: 570, Saw Heartbeat on 2/26/13!
This.
Give yourself some more time. There's a reason a baby takes 9 months to enter the world. Hopefully by the end you'll be excited, or at least ready to be a parent. If the feelings continue after baby is here, definitely talk to someone!! Therapists can help.
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I'm glad you posted thus because I have some days where I am excited and then others where I am not wanting to be pregnant at all. I do think it is normal but not talked about and sometimes people like to shame others for these feelings.
I have my anatomy scan Wednesday and I think that that appointment will make it more real for me and knowing if it is a boy or girl will make me more excited and connected.
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You would be embarrassed if you lost the baby? I wouldn't worry about that at all.
I guess it bugs me because I have been so excited with all the others and I don't even want to shop for this one. I have 4 other kids and I believe they are all gifts. Yep, the house is busy, but I would not give any of them up for the world. So why can't I be that excited with this one? sighs I hope it turns around sooner than later. I hope it is just because I have not seen the baby so I am guarded.