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kunigunde
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Intro
kunigunde
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Hi everyone! I'm new here but not new to the TTC world or to parenting
by now. My wife and I have a 2 year old son and I'm currently 14 weeks
pregnant with our second. We used the same donor so they will be full
siblings. We conceived our son on our 3rd IUI and this one on our 2nd -
both were unmedicated except for a trigger. While it sounds relatively
easy, it was a long journey!
Just to give some background on us, I'm American and my wife is German and we live in Germany primarily due to DOMA (I can't sponsor her for a greencard and she doesn't have the qualifications for an employment-based visa). Living in Germany has its perks but not when it comes to starting a family. Same-sex couples are denied access to fertility treatment and third party adoption.
It was fairly easy for us to find fertility clinics willing to work with us in Denmark and we consulted with three before we chose one but once we were on the cusp of our first IUI (based solely off an OPK), we realized it wasn't realistic. We had to either drive 10+ hours one-way or buy expensive last-minute plane tickets. The stress was overwhelming to say the least and we canceled even though we really liked the clinic.
Although we felt hopeless and depressed, we continued our search (wishing we spoke more languages than English and German!!) and eventually found a clinic in Belgium. The drive was "only" 5 hours one-way which was difficult but somehow manageable and on the 3rd try, I got pregnant. The second time around also was not without complications but it was much easier simply because we knew what we were doing, how we wanted to do it and who would help us along our way. We also went straight to monitoring and using a trigger (which we only used the 3rd and successful time the first time around) and fortunately got pregnant the second time. We're so thankful it happened so quickly and now we just hope this pregnancy continues to go as smoothly as the first one!
I've read through some of the posts and you seem like a very supportive group! I wish we had found you sooner and I'm looking forward to getting to know you all better!
Just to give some background on us, I'm American and my wife is German and we live in Germany primarily due to DOMA (I can't sponsor her for a greencard and she doesn't have the qualifications for an employment-based visa). Living in Germany has its perks but not when it comes to starting a family. Same-sex couples are denied access to fertility treatment and third party adoption.
It was fairly easy for us to find fertility clinics willing to work with us in Denmark and we consulted with three before we chose one but once we were on the cusp of our first IUI (based solely off an OPK), we realized it wasn't realistic. We had to either drive 10+ hours one-way or buy expensive last-minute plane tickets. The stress was overwhelming to say the least and we canceled even though we really liked the clinic.
Although we felt hopeless and depressed, we continued our search (wishing we spoke more languages than English and German!!) and eventually found a clinic in Belgium. The drive was "only" 5 hours one-way which was difficult but somehow manageable and on the 3rd try, I got pregnant. The second time around also was not without complications but it was much easier simply because we knew what we were doing, how we wanted to do it and who would help us along our way. We also went straight to monitoring and using a trigger (which we only used the 3rd and successful time the first time around) and fortunately got pregnant the second time. We're so thankful it happened so quickly and now we just hope this pregnancy continues to go as smoothly as the first one!
I've read through some of the posts and you seem like a very supportive group! I wish we had found you sooner and I'm looking forward to getting to know you all better!
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Re: Intro
Welcome to our little world
We are a good group (if I do say so myself) and we are happy to have you aboard! Be sure to check in on the weekly Pregnancy check-in on Monday, our Ten Things Tuesday, and PIP on Thursday (we love pix!). These are great ways for you to get to know us, and us to get to know you!
Congrats on #2 on the way!
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
Congrats!!
Married 7/7/10 - Provincetown MA on the beach -
Reception October 23, 2010 - Martha Clara Vinyards, North Fork Long Island
5/12/13 - 5/13/13 IUI #1 - BFN
6/14/13 - IUI #2 - BFN - 7/17/13 - IUI#3 - BFN Clomid cycle 100mg 08/13 - cancelled bc produced too many eggs. Clomid cycle 50mg 10/13 - IUI#4- BFN. Clomid. Switched Dr in November. IUI#5 11/20 and 11/21 with trigger and clomid. -TWW {\rtf1\ansi\ansicpg1252 {\fonttbl\f0\fswiss\fcharset0 Helvetica;} {\colortbl;\red255\green255\blue255;\red51\green51\blue51;\red255\green255\blue255;} \deftab720 \pard\pardeftab720\sl280\partightenfactor0 \f0\fs22 \cf2 \cb3 \expnd0\expndtw0\kerning0 \outl0\strokewidth0 \strokec2
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Welcome! Our very own LGBT international bumpie!
All the best of luck for this pregnancy, and I hope you will join in our posts as well!
TTC with RE since March 2012
3 missed O's, 6 IUIs = 1 BFP then 8 w M/C, 5 BFNs
(2 unmedicated IUIs, 2 clomid IUI, 2 femara IUI)
Shared maternity/partner IVF, transfer #1 BFP!
EDD 11/28/13