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Ugh

SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
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I'm feeling so overwhelmed.

I feel like there is just not enough time in the day. I feel like I'm failing at every aspect in my life right now and it is just so. flicking. hard. to find a balance.

I don't have enough time with my kids. I never feel like I have the time to participate in class stuff for DS like all the other Mothers do. I barely have time to keep up with homework and feeding and bathing and other basic important stuff. Let alone make cakes out of watermelons for 'healthy class day' or make pretty baskets to donate to the school fair.

I work constantly and yet I'm still barely living hand to mouth. I want my kids to be able to have a great childhood, with family trips and every thing they need without question. I HATE struggling financially even when I'm doing everything in my power to provide.

I love my work, but I feel like I never stop and I don't have enough time to prefect my skills with continued education and really get where I want to be. I don't have TIME to be the best I can in my career.

My house is a mess. Between work and kids and planning birthday parties and the migraine I had this week there is not one towel or washcloth clean in this house. We are currently out of cat litter, snack foods, and many other things.

J and I are fighting because I'm a *** when I'm stressed out.

I feel like I'm double failing at everything right now and I just need a hug :
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  • xmaryrickxxmaryrickx member
    Sorry you are having a tough time. Try to take some comfort in the fact that everyone has these times and it will get better

    Do you have someone who could come help you for a few hours? Help clean, laundry, run errands, something?
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  • TasheystarTasheystar
    I feel you girl. I don't want to sound like I'm competing with you for suckiest day, so I'll just say that my house is a disaster also. I have no motivation whatsoever to clean it. Maybe I'll do it tomorrow... Who knows?
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  • Em0325Em0325

    Everyone has days where they feel overwhelmed. Take a few deep breaths, maybe a bubble bath, maybe a glass of wine (if that's an option). Just take a few minutes to regroup and recuperate because you aren't going to be at your best when you are stressed. Remember that your kids aren't going to remember that time mom didn't have the house filled with snacks 15 years ago and those types of things. They will remember seeing you work your butt off, which will teach them the value of hard work and persistence, and that will be something they look up to you for. 

    I know how you mean about living hand to mouth, and I gotta say, kids don't notice those things. You stretch your money out when you have to. You have pasta night 4 times in one week if you have to. Don't let that stuff get you down. Keep your head up because it sounds like you are working your butt off and doing your best. And that's all anyone can ask of you....

    and if you feel like you aren't being fair or nice to "J", maybe he should join you for your bath or wine. Relaxing time for both partners is important.

    Feel better and don't be so hard on yourself!  

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  • socloudy99socloudy99 member
    imageEm0325:

    Everyone has days where they feel overwhelmed. Take a few deep breaths, maybe a bubble bath, maybe a glass of wine (if that's an option). Just take a few minutes to regroup and recuperate because you aren't going to be at your best when you are stressed. Remember that your kids aren't going to remember that time mom didn't have the house filled with snacks 15 years ago and those types of things. They will remember seeing you work your butt off, which will teach them the value of hard work and persistence, and that will be something they look up to you for. 

    I know how you mean about living hand to mouth, and I gotta say, kids don't notice those things. You stretch your money out when you have to. You have pasta night 4 times in one week if you have to. Don't let that stuff get you down. Keep your head up because it sounds like you are working your butt off and doing your best. And that's all anyone can ask of you....

    and if you feel like you aren't being fair or nice to "J", maybe he should join you for your bath or wine. Relaxing time for both partners is important.

    Feel better and don't be so hard on yourself!  

    This!

    Also breakfast for dinner is always quick and cheap so maybe you can have a little more time to spend with the family relaxing one evening. Set a timer for 30 minutes and everyone cleans something then relax with a funny tv show and popcorn before bed!

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  • TasheystarTasheystar
    imageandrea99:
    Hugs. I feel a bit like a failure at the moment. It seems like the house gets clean OR I work a full week OR I spend time with DH and SD. How do those Super Moms do it??


    I thought they all have a cleaning lady. Lol
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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    Thank you guys for the support. I am hard on myself and I think I just need to relax sometimes and realize I can't do everything perfectly all the time. It's super hard to find balance as a working mother, add a blended family situation and it gets even more crazy.

    I have the day off today and I brought DD to daycare, got a manicure, and I'm about to go for a nice long run! I think that should reset my overloaded brain for a while.
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