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Need advice please!

caugar13caugar13
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Okay so I'm about 10 weeks pregnant. I'm married and love my husband very much, but in December last year we separated and filed for divorce. I moved to a different state and we didn't talk much anymore. I moved back home in March and me and my husband got back together, and I was so happy to have him back. Then a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. I thought the baby was his until we went for my first ultrasound and they told us how far along I was. I made some stupid decisions while we were separated and so did he, but I'm definitely paying more for mine. He was heartbroken, and now he doesn't know if he wants to raise this baby with me. I don't want any contact with the baby's father but somehow he has found out about my pregnancy so I no longer have a choice.. I'm really scared and I feel like my life is falling apart. Anyone been through something like this or have any advice to give? 
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  • nikit23nikit23
    Does the baby's father know that you're pregnant?
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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    The third to last sentence says he does.

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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    Interesting.  Explore your options and do what is best for you.  Hope it works out.

     

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  • emikatemikat member
    I hope you and your husband can work this out together.  As for the father of your child, if he's aware and wants to be a part of his child's life he has that right.  Good luck to you and I hope everything works out. 
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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

    I was in a similar situation when I was 18. Who gets married at 18? Unfortunately I did. Anyway I was so scared and alone and I felt like my life did fall apart. My H wasn't able to handle it and left me. Mine was different in that BD wanted nothing to do with my DD. 6 1/2 years later I couldn't ask for a better life (well I could live without BM's lol). I met an even better man when my DD was 12m and he is my DD's daddy. I know it's said too much but everything really does happens for a reason. I hope your H stays but if he doesn't keep pushing through and life will get better.

    Are you sure the dad wants anything to do with the baby? And if so is he serious? 

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  • caugar13caugar13
    Me and my H got married when I was 18 too. He almost left me.. honestly I'm not sure he still won't. And I haven't heard anything else from the BD but he said it was unfair for me to keep this from him. But he's not someone I want my child around.. he's put his hands on me before and he's severely emotionally unstable.. I'm terrified he's gonna try something..
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  • twister22twister22 member

    imagecaugar13:
    Okay so I'm about 10 weeks pregnant. I'm married and love my husband very much, but in December last year we separated and filed for divorce. I moved to a different state and we didn't talk much anymore. I moved back home in March and me and my husband got back together, and I was so happy to have him back. Then a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. I thought the baby was his until we went for my first ultrasound and they told us how far along I was. I made some stupid decisions while we were separated and so did he, but I'm definitely paying more for mine. He was heartbroken, and now he doesn't know if he wants to raise this baby with me. I don't want any contact with the baby's father but somehow he has found out about my pregnancy so I no longer have a choice.. I'm really scared and I feel like my life is falling apart. Anyone been through something like this or have any advice to give? 

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  • caugar13caugar13
    I'm looking for advice, not someone's ignorant opinion, so keep your snide comments to yourself.
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