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Madeline is only 3 months old, but I am starting to think about solids anywhere from 56 months I'm really attracted to baby led weaning, but dh is excited about purees. He hasn't fed our daughter much since I EBF and he really wants that bonding time with her....you know the "here comes the airplane" stuff. Anyway, I don't want to deprive him of that, but also want her to explore food when she is ready. What do you think?
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  • lindslalalalindslalala member

    I think that spoon feeding your LO gets old really fast. It's nice to just give them the food and let them have at it. Everyone can eat at the same time that way. We tried BLW for about a week until I chickened out and started making purees. I wish we would have stuck with it though, and I'll give blw a try again for baby #2.

    I don't feel like spoon feeding is a bonding experience at all either, but maybe that's just me.

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  • blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member
    I don't really see how feeding purees is a "bonding" activity. But I EBF my son till 6 months and he's just as bonded with DH as he is with me.

    The nice thing about BLW is that you don't "feed" your child. You eat with them. And as a culture, that's a big way we connect socially. Which is theoretically a strong bonding experience. Think about grabbing a meal with your friends.
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  • nosoup4unosoup4u member
    You can do a combo of both. If he's more comfortable with purees, then let him do it. She may or may not like it, you know? We spoon-fed DS2 yogurt until he was a bit bigger and started spoon feeding himself (SO messy!) around 9 mos. He was primarily BLW also.
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  • RoryorHenry?RoryorHenry? member
    Maybe your husband can read the Baby Led Weaning book and he will get excited about bonding through the fun of food play? I just dont think that spoon feeding purees will give him the bonding experience he is looking for and BLW is so much fun and fosters independence and a healthy relationship with food.

    We have been doing BLW for about a month so far. Our dd has not eaten anything that she has not fed herself and meal time has been a true pleasure. My husband loves taking pictures and he really feels like he is a part of the process since she eats when we eat together.

    We just came from a BBQ at a friends house where our six month old DD was chowing down on a lamb chop. Everyone at the party was amazed. Dad is a real carnivore and he was visibly beaming when everyone joked about how she is obviously his daughter.
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  • sandyapplessandyapples member
    I did a modified version of blw with DD1 and I'm doing the same with DD2. Some homemade pures at first and quickly transitioning to table food. I'm pretty laid back with feeding. If we are eating something she can have depending on how old she is then she can selffeed. If not then I'll give her some mashed banana or something while I'm making dinner and give her a mum mum to eat during supper. DD1 was on only table food by 9months and is a great eater now. She loves raw veggies, shrimp, rice and all kinds if things that most 2 year olds won't touch. Adding in a few pures in the early days for convenience didn't hurt her one bit.
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    Spoon feeding get old, fast. You can't eat your food if you are doing family meals, so your food gets cold, and then you are snarfing your food between bites. And spoon feeding isn't really a bonding activity, either.

    We much preferred BLW so that we all got to eat at the same time. It was just so much easier all around to skip purees.

    I do understand your husband's point, though. I also EBF, and my DH got his bonding time doing bath time. That is still Daddy/Daughter time to this day. There are other ways besides spoon feeding to have bonding time.




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  • linzeek44linzeek44 member

    We do BLW and DS has never been spoon-fed anything (so I guess we are more "hardcore" than some BLWers). 

    DH actually really likes 1) not having to make or buy separate foods and 2) enjoying the meal experience. We eat the same foods at the same times, and it's a great, relaxing meal time for all of us.

    DH agreed to try BLW, and likes it a lot now that he has seen it in action. Maybe talk to him and see if he'd be willing to do a combination of BLW and purees or helping pre-load a spoon for BLW. Also, maybe what he is picturing (fun "here comes the airplane") isn't necessarily what will happen. He might not love it so much if she refuses the airplane, or keeps grabbing the airplane, you know? 


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