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I don't know what to do

Kristalynn22Kristalynn22
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
I've raised my now 18 month old son by myself till last month we moved to a new place with my fianc and my son was getting along with him great but now he won't go up to him like he used to and I can tell it breaks my fianc's heart and he frustrated. My son just wants to play with me because I'm guessing that's all he's used to. I'd love some ideas on how to get him to turn to my fianc more often and not always be clingy to me but both of us...
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  • WipzWipz member
    Maybe you could make one of the daily rituals a daddy and LO thing...  My son and DH have a bath time ritual.  LO loves his baths and trying to take a bath or shower without him is like mission impossible even if you wanted to try lol.  Find something that he loves to do on a daily basis and do it as all 3 of you and then you can start to put a bit of distance gradually  till its just a them thing?  maybe that will help. 

    I am sure things will settle down... :)
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  • katiewhompuskatiewhompus member

    I think our LO's are still in a development phase where they want to be with mom most of the time. H has always been around and Dd definitely goes to me when she is in a clingy mood. 

    H has one day off a week when he gets Dd all to himself. They go to the park together, nap on the couch together, and read lots of books. It was rough at first (when I went back to work at 7 weeks) but now Dd loves her daddy day.

    Also, remind your FI not to take it personally. That's a lot of change for a kid and sometimes the kids just want their moms.  

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  • ConniesMomConniesMom

    My DD did this for a while - don't worry it's just a phase - the suggestion of having a routine that is just about dad is a great one and worked for us - but it took a bit of time... very important for your Fi not to be worried by it - it is so normal - a friend of mine had exactly the same thing too before me so I did what she siggested and it worked out just fine ;-)

    let us know how you get on xx 

    32, SAHM, adore my baby girl - TTC no.2
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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member

    It could just be a phase.  My girls go through times where if both H and I around they only want me.  When they're drinking their last cup of milk and winding down before bed we'll sit and watch a show with them and some nights they'll scream unless they're both on my lap, and on other days they'll be happy to sit with him.  Yet if I'm not around and H is alone with them they'll be perfectly fine.  I think clinginess is normal and for us it comes and goes. 

    We never force the issue at the moment but if they've had a few days of being extra clingy I'll have H do daycare pickup and I'll head to the gym or grocery shopping to give them a bit of time together.  H also does Sunday mornings - he lets me sleep in and he gets up with the girls and they spend the morning together, just the three of them.  We've found that planning time for them to just be with him where they haven't seen me keeps them happy and makes it an enjoyable experience for all of them, whereas if we try to force one to go to him while I'm there it just results in lots of crying and H getting kind of frustrated and sad.

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