I am pregnant and due at the end of August, right before SD's 4th birthday. While spending time with SD this weekend, it dawned on me just how much she is used to being the center of everyone's attention.
I think that SD is just accustomed to everyone paying attention to her whenever she demands it, and that everyone is immediately delighted by whatever minor thing she does. I don't think DH and I play into this too much, although we're probably guilty of it too, but I know BM does.
So, now I think I need some advice on how we can deal with this now in preparation for the baby coming. We already plan on DH having special time with just him and her, but it's inevitable that she will have to share the spotlight with her new sibling sometimes. I guess I'm wondering how we can wean her off the constant need for attention now, before the baby comes, and we don't have a choice. It seems so difficult when everyone is not on the same page.
Re: Question About SD Being the Center of Attention
Start treating her like a "big girl" now, so that she is more independent, able to help you, etc. Say "please" and "thank you" when she helps out (with anything, not just baby related).
When a second baby is born (BF or not), dad has to step up to the plate if he is used to you doing the heavy lifting in terms of child care. He can take SD out, etc. Also, he can stay home with the baby while you and SD do "big girl" things like getting manicures or just going out for "girl time."
You may think I am crazy, but it also helps if SD has friends in the area for playdates. Even if they are in YOUR house, it keeps SD entertained.