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August 2013 Moms
kanned0121
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Baby Shower question..
kanned0121
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Hey ladies! So my best friend growing up is throwing me a baby shower and I'm so excited! My mom and I have offered to help with anything from invites to food.. just anything to make it easier and help out. I have just a few questions and would love to get some advice.
1. Is 2 months before my due date too early to be having a shower?
2. My friend thought it would be less stressful for me to just do a facebook invite rather than send out "real" invitations. I would prefer real invites- and my mom has even offered to do them. But I don't want to come off as ungrateful or too pushy. What would you do?
Thanks in advance for your help!
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Re: Baby Shower question..
1. No, it's not too early. That puts you at approximately 31 weeks.
2. Maybe tell her you want to do traditional invites so that you have some memorabilia from the shower?
1. That's when ours is, so should be fine.
2. Please, please, PLEASE don't do invites via Facebook.
1. No- not too early. My 2 showers will be right around the 2 month mark prior to my EDD. I figured it was a great date where I'd still be comfortable, be able to organize the nursery, and finish buying things that we need prior to LO arriving.
2. I totally understand as I personally hate evites/fb invites. I would tell her maybe not everyone you want to invite has Facebook and that perhaps physical invites would be a better way to go to ensure everyone is made aware of the shower?
This and although it's hard to get RSVP's by phone, sometimes it's even harder to get numbers from Facebook. Often people put maybe, but don't show, or vice versa.
1) Not too early. Actually almost perfect timing. (Feel lucky, I'm having two and they're both on the last weekends of July. Talk about cutting it close!)
2) FB invites for a shower seem a little tacky to me. It's a special event, and I would really want a physical "real" invitation.
I REALLY do not want to. I just don't want to be a "brat" since she's being nice and throwing me the shower.. I don't want to be a mom-to-be-zilla..
I think it's totally tacky to do evites for anything. Except for maybe a BBQ or a birthday
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Very happy for you that you have such a fantastic friend who is willing to plan this shower for you
Great that you and your mom have offered your help also. I don't think 2 months is too early for your shower....but this is coming from a person who had their shower last month. To be honest I am glad I had it so early, because at the end of the day I was so hot and exhausted that I couldn't imagine myself in that position at let's say 35 weeks. I also have that much more time to buy the last minute items. DO whatever works for you and the hostess.
As for your invites, maybe you can do a fb invite for your close friends, and your mom could send out paper invitations to her family and friends. I had a jpeg of my invitation and my friend just sent that to our friends on facebook and they replied to her through there. My mom took care of sending out the invites to the "older aunts and friends" who aren't computer savvy.
Maybe just tell your friend your mom really wants to send out the invites (that way you also get the "real-invites" you prefer. I don;t think you would be coming off as un-grateful at all
I'm doing my shower exactly 2 months before my EDD. Was supposed to have a second shower in another state (but not now due to flying restrictions) and it would have been 2 months 1 week in advance of EDD. So I think you're fine timewise.
If she really wants to do an electronic invite, you could always do Paperless Post or Evite. Paperless Post is nicer IMO
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I would tell her that facebook-only isn't a great idea because not everyone is that into facebook, and facebook invites often get missed (esp if someone has the settings such that they don't get an e-mail if they get a fb invite, or their fb e-mail is something other than their regular one, etc). Mailed invites are less likely to get misplaced. And how would it be less stressful for you, anyway, if she's the one that's supposed to be doing it? If you want to offer to pay for and send invites, I think that's fine, as long as the invites make it clear that she is the one hosting and she is the one they RSVP to.
My hostess opted to do a facebook invite as sort of a "save the date" measure, because she got behind on getting the actual paper invites out (they're still going out about three weeks ahead of the shower, but the shower is in May which is a pretty busy month with graduations and such), plus she had a bad experience with sending out paper invites for my bachelorette party a couple of years ago and people losing track of them or not getting them until a couple of days beforehand even though she sent them well in advance, so she wanted to make sure no one got missed. She said right in the facebook invite for folks to keep an eye out for the official paper invite, so I didn't mind the FB thing in this case (and not much I could do about it if I did, since she set it up and sent it out without talking to me about it! Which, as the hostess, was her right).