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Going back to work sadness

Well, I'm on my last week of leave and go back to work on Saturday. I'm so not looking forward to it and I'm not sure how I'll get through it as I've broken down into tears already just thinking about it. I trust DH (watching on Saturdays) and our sitter, but I'm dreading giving up all the personal time I've had with DS.

So, working Mamas, share your "first day back at work" stories. How did you do? Breakdowns? Embarrassing moments? Any coping advice? I work in a call center, talking to customers all day, so any advice on "faking it" (if necessary) is greatly appreciated! :)

 
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  • I don't have any advice. I'm in the same boat as you!!! I go back to work on the 13th, and I am dreading it!! I am intererested in hearing what the other momma's have to say.
  • My first day back at work with DS (now 2) I broke down in tears about finding a place to pump. I work in a hospital, which you would think would be BF-ing friendly, but the listed pump rooms I tried to use were co-ed locker rooms. The first one with a man sleeping in it. I had to pump in a dirty bathroom, while crying the whole time. I eventually found an office to use. 

    It was hard going back at first, but the adult contact was appreciated. The hardest part was my mom acting like she was DS's mom. I was jealous of the relationship she had/has with DS. 

     

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  • I had my first day of work yesterday. Luckily I have a very part time schedule; if I had to go back FT I'm sure I would have been (and still would be) a complete mess. I cried the night before, and I cried on the way to my mom's house to drop DD off in the morning. Once I got to work, I was okay. I just tried not to think about things too much and focused on remembering how to do everything after being off for 3 months! I'm a nurse, so I also have to talk to people all day, and honestly, it really wasn't too bad. You just have to try and get your mind off the fact that you're not with your LO, and focus on the task at hand. I've gotten pretty good at faking being nice and happy over the years of being a nurse, and it all came back pretty quickly :) Good luck! I'm sure you'll do fine. 

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  • I had to finish up my semester at law school so the first time I left LO (with DH) was when he was only 2 weeks! It was only for a few hours, and I Facetime'd with them once or twice just to SEE that my baby was alive, happy and comfortable. I also had DH intermittently send me pictures. The first few times away were rough, but it does get better quickly when you realize LO is just fine when you get home! 

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  • Going back to work was (still is) extremely hard for me. I'm happy that I have the grandparents watch DS while I'm at work, but I'm still bummed about leaving him every morning. What helps is that they do send pictures of DS throughout the day.

     But I cried the night before I went to work. And the day I went back, I somehow managed to keep it together. The only nice thing about being back is that I get some adult interaction and that is about it. Otherwise, I did not miss work.


  • For me the ride in was awful - lots of tears - but then when I was there, it was okay.  Great to see some friends and kept myself busy so I didn't think about it.  It got much harder a few weeks in and then got easy again. It's a tough adjustment - best advice - don't thnk about it! 

  • Today is my first day back and it's been rough but really ok overall. It's nice to have adult people to talk to in the daytime but I keep thinking I smell a pee diaper and have been wondering what the girl in the cubicle next to me is doing or if she always smelled like that and I'm only now noticing it! I will pick my munchkin up in a few hours and I can't wait! 
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    It was hard going back at first, but the adult contact was appreciated. The hardest part was my mom acting like she was DS's mom. I was jealous of the relationship she had/has with DS. 

     

    This. I came back to work yesterday. I was sad all weekend but yesterday was not actually that bad. Last night is when I realized how sad it was that I get home around 6 and LO goes down by 9. My MIL is watching LO which is nice because I do not have to worry about him but I know she will watch all the firsts and I will hear about them. I know he will know I'm his momma but I'm really struggling with how familiar LO and MIL will be with each other.

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  • In response to "the firsts"... my sister and I both work part time and have a rule of No Sharing Firsts! I don't care if he cures cancer while I'm at work, I want to be the first to see him do it!
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  • I went back when dd was a bit older, but I convinced myself to be giddy with excitement about silly things, like eating lunch without being yelled at! Can you find some 'silver linings'?
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  • I remember the day I went back with DD1, almost 5 years ago. I was fine at the office, but when I got home I was overwhelmed with guilt. I rocked her, sobbing, for hours until DH came home and took the baby for a bit. The next day was about the same. It got much much better after that first week. Good luck and it should get easier as time goes on.

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