Discipline

startingover10423 · April 2013

So, Bug has been getting a lot of time outs lately. Usually he's in time out for a longer time because he gets out of his time out chair. We have tried putting it in a corner...I don't know what else to do. I feel so mean because he screams and kicks and pushes me away when I put him back in his chair. Any ideas?

bearfootz · April 2013

I don't know if this is child psychologist approved - but we've taken to putting toys on time out. It shows the kids that there is an immediate consequence. We explain that if their behavior improves the toy will be given back in a set period of time - an hour or sometimes the next day - or sometimes when we remember that it went on time out. Seems to work when their own time outs aren't effective.

Glitter Pop · April 2013

We do toy timeouts as well. It suggested to us by our ECI therapist. It's what we use when he throws a toy or some other offense. It gets his attention faster. We usually put the toy up for a few minutes, explain why it's in timeout and then give it back to him. If he repeats the behavior the toy gets put up for the day. Rarely does he lose the toy for the day.

startingover10423 · April 2013

If I take a toy away, he has plenty other toys to play with. He doesn't really care if I take it away...

[Deleted User] · April 2013

Be consistent. If you are wanting him in time out, then do it. Put him on his chair, step away. If he gets up, you put him back & reinforce that he is in time out. Of course he's upset. He's in trouble. If you are looking for a punishment system in which the child does not scream, cry. or throw a tantrum, there isn't one.

MrsGoodkat · April 2013

Bearfootz:
I don't know if this is child psychologist approved - but we've taken to putting toys on time out. It shows the kids that there is an immediate consequence. We explain that if their behavior improves the toy will be given back in a set period of time - an hour or sometimes the next day - or sometimes when we remember that it went on time out. Seems to work when their own time outs aren't effective.

I first read that as you put toys IN time out (like with him). I was like, that sounds counter-productive...lol.

I agree with Sofa. You just have to be super consistent if you want to do time-outs. If he gets up, put him back without a word and re-start the time. Yeah he'll be mad but eventually he's going to learn that fighting doesn't help.

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