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going from 3 to 4 kids....

TUGOsQueenTUGOsQueen member
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Adding a 4th kid to the family is all I can think about lately since the window to do so is fading to keep them all close in age. Currently we have 3 girls ages 5, 3 and 1. I can easily rationalize both, having another and being content with the 3 healthy kids we have!! But, I don't want to regret in a few years not having one more. I never felt as if the baby was my last. Financially, space, etc, we're good for another one. but the thought of being pregnant with 3 kids that need so much scares me much less nursing and newborn needs... ugh. decisions!!! 

Those with 4 or more, what was/is the biggest challenge?  

Married my best friend on 5/14/05
Three Girls: Bits 2/08  Biscuit 10/09 & Sweet Chuck 2/12
One Favorite son: Suishy Smalls 6/14
And another Princess coming 7/16
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Re: going from 3 to 4 kids....

  • itsmevkbitsmevkb member

    I'm not going to lie, being pregnant at age 41 with three kids already and working full-time was a little rough.  I was tired, dead tired all.the.time.  My husband really stepped up and took over a lot of things while I was pregnant and he's also done a lot of the night feedings this time around (I formula feed.)

    Having said that, Maren just fit right in the moment she was born.  It was like we'd always had her and barring the lack of sleep, the transition was actually really easy.

    For me, I looked at the pregnancy and newborn stage as relatively small amounts of time in the grand scheme of things.

    Good luck with your decision.

    Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

    Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

    This Cluttered Life

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  • NicoleWINicoleWI member
    No advice, really, but I will be where you are in a year. I have a 4 year old, 2 year old and 4 month old and we "think" we're done, but we haven't 100% decided. I am 38 now and would want to have a fourth soon if we're going to do it. We don't know if we can take it as the kids are a 24-7 job right now and things are a little out of control. Plus, yes, pregnancy would be hard. And finances long-term are a bit concerning with college. And, we'd like to move ahead with other activities as a family and not still have someone in the 'baby' stage. But, our biggest worry is age/risks: we are so lucky to have had 3 good pregnancies and 3 healthy kids, and I worry about the risk of having a fourth with special needs. So...we'll see.
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  • gimmietimmiesgimmietimmies member
    I found going from one to two harder actually. The only thing I loathed was trying to potty train when I had a newborn. I'm just glad I had lo in a carrier, I had a pee hider that would run away or sneak off yo do her business. Oh, and laundry. Laundry sucks.
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