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help with discipline...

klibby707klibby707 member
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My little man just turned 2 this past week.  He sometimes acts out by throwing toys and hitting mommy.  Ideas for this type of behavior at this age?  

I try to tell him that hitting hurts and that throwing his toys isn't a good idea. Sometimes, I'll take him away for a little bit if he is throwing his toys.  If he hits, he ends up saying sorry and showing mommy "gentle" which he rubs my hand gently. Then, I give him kisses, tell him "good boy," and he goes back to playing.  I try not to say no.  

Any help would be much appreciated, even if it sounds like what I'm doing is okay. Thanks!  I'm so pregnant, which is another reason he could be acting up, and it's just hard right now!  

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  • logoz80logoz80
    I would give my daughter a timeout. It was usually forcing her to sit on the couch and not play or move until she calmed down. It eventually worked, but she recently started throwing things again, but at least she no longer hits. 
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    Thanks.  For some reason, I thought time outs weren't effective at this age.  Or did I just make that up?
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  • rjeller32rjeller32 member

    We do times outs as well (a minute for each year old), probably for the past 6 months, and it's really improved the behavior of my LO. She throws tantrums at dinner time, and hits a lot. Each time, I tell her to go face the wall, and she will do it for 2 minutes. It helps her to calm down and then we talk about what she did and why it's wrong. She will still throw an occasional tantrum, but she knows as soon as I point, she is in trouble, and will now even tell me "I am sorry I cry." which breaks my heart, but the tantrums definitely don't.

     

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  • kaswansonkaswanson member
    I think you will be able to tell if time outs are effective with your LO or not.  My DD loves to "play" time out and when I put her in there she laughs and then will do the bad behavior that got her there and then run back to time out giggling!  She just doesn't get it.  We are doing Love & Logic for toddlers and that's working much better.  We just started but I'm really excited about it.  Like your LO, DD will often hit someone just to kiss them and make it better.  Sigh!  
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  • sschwegesschwege member

    imageklibby707:
    Thanks.  For some reason, I thought time outs weren't effective at this age.  Or did I just make that up?

    For DD they were.  We only use it for hitting or pushing.  She goes behind the gate for 2-3 minutes.  I think when used sparingly it's a good tool.  Plus I think the lesson is valid, if you hit people they might walk away or not want to play with you. 

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  • spokenfor1583spokenfor1583 member
    We do timeouts with him when he hits. Right now we put him in his crib because he thought sitting on the step was fun and a game. The crib seems to be working a little bit better.
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  • drpaynedrpayne member
    What do you mean you don't like to say no??

    Time out works for us!
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  • RachieTKRachieTK member

    Our pedi recommended time out at our two year or check up. It works for us... But only when consistently used.

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  • BeckyTheEngineerBeckyTheEngineer
    imageklibby707:
    Thanks. nbsp;For some reason, I thought time outs weren't effective at this age. nbsp;Or did I just make that up?


    We started time outs shortly after age 1, for when our daughter was doing something potentially dangerous. Really, all the time out is me holding my daughter in my lap so she can't get into whatever she is trying to do. Around 2 years old I think we switched from that to the time out being sitting somewhere with no toys. This has been very effective for us.
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  • klibby707klibby707 member
    imagedrpayne:
    What do you mean you don't like to say no?? Time out works for us!
    I heard that saying no isn't effective. I've read a lot on it. Thanks everyone for the suggestions!
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  • shawshaw

    I give J an immediate time out for anything that could be physically hurtful.  No warnings.  He has to sit quetly for 2 minutes in a chair stationed in between the kitchen and dining room (away from people and TV/electronics).  Then I go over and get face to face with him and tell him to repeat after me "we don't hit.  Don't hit mommy.  that's hurts."  Then he has to say sorry and we hug.

    For other issues I usually give one warning and say "do you want a time out?"  To which he says "NO TIME OUT!!!!"   

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