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10.5 Month Old Will Not Sleep!
So.. It's been forever since I posted on here most just lurk but omg I'm in need of some advice or at least some sympathy. My son is 10.5 months old and has always been a crappy sleeper. At six months we did CIO and finally got him napping great and putting himself to sleep consistently. It took until 9 months for him to finally start STTN. That lasted only a blissful 2 weeks. Since then he's gotten progressively worse which lead me to last night, his worst night and mine thus far. He was up at 9:50, 11:45, 3:15, and 5:30 and I just heard him up there talking in his crib as I type this at 7:15. Now each of these times weren't wake up, back to sleep, back to bed in minutes. I was up with him at 11:45 and 3:15 for almost an hour. He wakes up instantly screaming, standing in his crib, crying so hard he's gagging himself until I, not my husband, he wants nothing to do with him at night rock him. Usually the second I lay him down he's back in full crazy screaming mode. Usually it ends in him being so exhausted he screams himself back to sleep. What the heck could be going on? What kind of sleep training cures this? Is there a baby sleep whisperer I can send him too LOL?
Also, just a tid bit of info we unfortunately room share. We're living with my parents while we're in between houses. My three year old occupies their other bedroom.
Also, just a tid bit of info we unfortunately room share. We're living with my parents while we're in between houses. My three year old occupies their other bedroom.
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Re: 10.5 Month Old Will Not Sleep!
How long has he been getting up and screaming in his sleep? If it's only been a few days could it be an ear infection? My LO is like this when she gets them.
Aside from that, do you have a bedtime routine that you follow? What time are you putting baby down for the night? Sometimes, when you baby down later they don't sleep well for some reason. We starts our LO's bedtime routine at 630 and she's usually down by 7 - 715.
What does his naps look like? Where does he nap and for how long?
He naps great! Two hours in the morning, two hours in the afternoon. Always in his crib. And his bedtime routine is pretty set. In bed by 7:45 every night and he's usually asleep within minutes.
He's a bugger! That's for sure!
I can totally sympathize! I'm in the same boat so not in the position to offer any advice either. I'm pretty sure I'm doing everything wrong at night. Today, I've been up since 4:00 a.m. He woke up at 10 and midnight as well. I'm so tired today I cried before going to work:(
I do think my kid is naturally a bad sleeper. It is probably a mix of things for us, which makes it difficult to tease out and fix. One is that he is still MOTN nursing and doctor said he still needs to eat at night. He cut his first tooth a few weeks ago so who knows if others are coming. He has been having some typical separation anxiety at this age as well. So all this means that we aren't (and can't?) be super consistent in our responses to him at night.
The only thing that seems to help a little bit is to make sure he is slightly awake when I put him in the crib as well as after tending to him during his night wakings and then if he starts crying, do the 5/10 minute checks until he falls asleep. So basically it is responding to him at night but minimally, taking care of his needs, but him knowing that I'm not going to nurse/rock him to sleep all night long. It is really hard, I hate hearing him cry, but I get backed up against a wall some nights that I feel like there is no other choice. Then it gets better for a bit, then starts going downhill again. Repeat.
Ugh, it is so exhausting! Hugs to you. I know how you feel!
I was in this same situation as of about 3 weeks ago. DD STTN when when she was 3 months old! I actually called the doctor because I thought something was wrong. We enjoyed 2 months of blissful STTN. Then 5-months came. For whatever reason she started waking up multiple time throughout the night.
Fast forward to about 5 months later, and she was still waking up multiple times a night, similar to what you're describing. I was so sleep deprived and miserable. Sometimes DH would come home from work and I'd just bawl my eyes out because I was SOOO exhausted.
We actually contacted a sleep specialist in our area, and she referred us to a book by Kim West entitled The Sleep Lady's Goodnight, Sleep Tight. It was a GREAT book for us. She also has a website https://www.sleeplady.com/
DD now naps and sleeps well at night. And I am WAY more well-rested.
I know every baby is different, so this book may not work out for your situation, but for us it worked wonders, and I wanted to pass the info along because I know how rough it can be to have a baby who wakes up constantly.
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Is he really picking up his movement - crawling faster, walking etc? My son has never STTN so I am not much help here but we had 2-3 terrible weeks between 9.5 and 10 months. At that time he has been crawling for about 4 months and was starting to stand on his own, climb stairs, improve his coordination and balance etc. Once his physical movement and coordination plateaued again he went back to 2-3 wake-ups.
Also you don't mention feeding him, and if you've done so sleep training perhaps you've cut out MOTN feedings. I know several babies my son's age that don't need to eat at night but if I don't feed DS he cries himself back to sleep but wakes up 45 minutes to an hour later. If I nurse him or give him a bottle he sleeps for 3-4 hours. I plan to feed him for another few months and re-evaluate. I personally don't care if its a habit forming pattern, I need my 3-4 hours and I am happy to feed a baby to get it. One day he'll be able to make it through the night without eating or he'll got downstairs and make himself a PB&J with DH, either way it eventually won't be my problem