S/O FTM/Last few weeks

SLaBM2B · April 2013

The other night my H was kissing my belly and I thought to myself, wow... I'm going to miss this. For the last 4 years, its just been us and in 6ish weeks our entire lives are going to change forever. How I'm just realizing this, I don't know, but wow... I am going to miss it being just my H and I and I'm scared. Very very scared.

This is normal, right?

smithm24 · April 2013

stargazer763:
If it's not, we can be the weirdos together!I'm very scared, and very excited.

This. Can I join? SO and I honestly only get four weeks because he has to be gone all of June. I'm feeling cheated out of that time, but he has to take the class to graduate on time ::sigh::

SLaBM2B · April 2013

MeghanKG:
I hope so, because I've been feeling this way for months. It's weird how much you take for granted the amount of freedom you have without kids. If he's working at night, I can go to the store, go see a movie, take a two hour nap, whatever. It's going to be a huge change and I think it will definitely take some getting used to. I was talking to my sister about this and she said not to sweat it, and that before you know it, you'll wonder what the heck you did BEFORE you had kids.

exactly! The sitting around and not worrying about anything but ourselves is something I think I'm going to miss. And honestly, I LOVE having my H all to myself. Okay. Years are coming. I need to stop.and baby just kicked me so I guess he's mad I'm thinking this too ;-P

courty625 · April 2013

You're definitely not alone! DH and I talked about this a few weeks ago. Some nights he'll go upstairs and play video games and I'll stay downstairs and watch TV or something. We decided we really need to start spending as much time together as we can now. This morning we slept in til 9!!! and then just layed in bed together for a while. It was so nice!

missejayne · April 2013

Nope, you are NOT crazy... I feel this way a lot anymore.

jennOK · April 2013

I also can't believe we are going to have a new little person in our house in just a few weeks. Scary!

Michaela2011 · April 2013

I have been feeling the same way. I just told my H the other day that we need to take advantage of this time, because in a few weeks we won't be able to just go places on a whim! He asked me last night if I wanted to take dance lessons this summer, which really is sweet, but I asked who was going to watch the baby? We have no family nearby and are still relatively new to the area.

MrsAuby · April 2013

O this thread makes me feel better! I felt like the only one, and when I say anything like this to MH he's like "yea it's gonna change, I can't wait!" I get worried that I won't like sharing him, but then I try to remind myself of how much I think I will LOVE seeing him interact with her and that I won't even remember I was scared to share him!

MeganF722 · April 2013

I am feeling the same way. I love it just being the 3 of us. This morning we were all in my bed and all I could think is where are we going to fit another person. I am glad that we have had 5 years with DD, they have been so much fun. And I know LO will be as much fun, but I will miss this time.

sheacox · April 2013

My hubby has been gone for a bit and will be gone till birth... Def take advantage of alone quality time! It is so weird to think that when he comes home it won't be just me and him, it will be three! So I'm totally nervous, but excited too. I miss my hubby. I think we are all having completely normal FTM jitters!

beachbum0084 · April 2013

It does change your life. I have 100 free movie tickets and before we had Camden those would have been used within months. We're going on a year of having them and not even half way through bc most of the time we use them for cartoon movies. We don't get to just up and go see whatever anymore. But when your 3 year old grabs your cheeks and looks you in the eyes and says"mom, you're my best friend ever!" You seem to not care anymore. Kids are the best! However I am terrified of having two now lol

jackielyn · April 2013

Oh thank God! I thought I was all alone in this! I was literally in tears on the phone with my mom the other night because I was freaking out! I'm getting so nervous about how life will change and how difficult things are about to get and how they'll never be the same again. DH and I are pretty much home-bodies, so our social life won't really change, but those late night runs to Target or WalMart just because we're bored will definitely stop happening.

I've also been freaking out about how my body is going to change what with the leaking and the bleeding and the healing, and just how uncomfortable/self conscious that's going to make me. Don't get me wrong, I'm really looking forward to meeting and snuggling this little girl who has been doing ballet and kickboxing (sometimes at the same time!) in my belly for the past 7 months, but the fact that DH has ZERO experience with kids and is relying on me to be the confident one in this is also taking its toll. When I told him the other night that I was starting to freak out, his response was "You can't be freaked out...I'm the one who's supposed to do the freaking out." Yeah, thank's for the support, babe. ::sigh::

Oh well, either way, it's good to know this is a normal way to feel and that I'm not alone.

emolm · April 2013

Normal.

Not gonna lie I still miss it.

Someday it'll be the two of us again but then our parents will be old and need their diapers changed. Le sigh.

lioness13 · April 2013

My DH and I have been together 12 years, married 5. Having a baby will be a huge change and it freaks me out. I told him I was worried about what would happen to us. He was really sweet and said he isn't worried at all. It made me feel better.

HelgaFunk · April 2013

It's threads like this that really make me appreciate The Bump.

I'm a little antsy about all of the above mentioned things as well. I have a step-son but my husband and I still have every other weekend together while he's at his mom's. While I'm going to miss our alone time I also realize that the baby will eventually sleep and then it'll grow up and be with friends and then I'll probably miss the kid not being around. I'm looking forward to what the future brings. Scared to death but looking forward to it.

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