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Feeling down

brooklynesquebrooklynesque member
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Everything had been going pretty smoothly with this upcoming DE cycle.  My donor was cleared by my clinic last week, pending the results of a genetic test or two.  The staff at the clinic thought she was awesome.

Today, though, the told the nurse she had to delay the cycle a month, so I'll be cycling in July rather than June.  I believe her reasons are legitimate but I am so scared that she'll become unavailable and that my string of bad luck in the reproductive department will continue.  Sometimes I feel like the universe hates me.  Come July, it will be 4 years since I started trying to conceive.  :-((  I guess another month shouldn't matter, but I was actually starting to get excited.

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  • melkel559melkel559 member
    I'm sorry about the wait. Any bump in the road, no matter how small, sucks something awful when you've wanted to start a family so badly and for so long. Glad to hear her reasons seem legitimate though. FX everything goes smoothly and you can cycle in July. Hope the time passes quickly for you! Hugs!
    TTC since June 2011
    DX: DH (30) severe MFI, severely low count & low motility
    Me (32): all clear
    Appt with Urologist 5/21/12: exam, ultrasound, bloodwork all normal.
    Testicular Biopsy with TESE on 6/8/12. good sperm found! (left side only) froze sperm, failed thaw test :(
    Orientation for IVF/ICSI on 6/13/12. Waiting for the green light following biopsy results...results show adequate sperm production both sides.
    2nd SA 6/18/12: sample is "adequate for ICSI"
    Plan: IVF/ICSI July 2012!
    ER: 7/26/12. 15 eggs retrieved, all mature.
    TESE/TESA/aspiration from epididymis, no motile sperm found :(
    froze all eggs, the saga of praying for good sperm continues.
    8/3/12: 2nd opinion from MFI uro on biopsy slides. Suspects "partial late maturation arrest."
    Plan: more SAs, third biopsy/TESE with frozen back-up either from DH or DS.
    SA 8/17/12: Zero sperm
    SA 8/23/12: Zero sperm
    9/26/12: SPERM FOUND! 15 eggs thawed, 12 survived and were ICSI'd, only 3 fertilized normally. Refrozen as embies and will thaw in Nov. Please survive and grow!
    All 3 survived the thaw on 11/15/12!
    FET 11/17/12: transferred 2, one 4B, one 4C. Beta 11/30:BFFN
    moving on to DS
    DIUI#1 2/18/13,50mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta 3/4/13: BFN.
    DIUI#2 3/19/13, 50 mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta #1 (14dpiui) 4/2/13: BFP!!!! 150. Beta #2 4/4/13: 420 Beta #3 4/8/13: 2691. Beta #4 4/15/13: 15,086
    1st u/s 4/8/13 shows one gestational sac
    2nd u/s 4/15/13 shows yolk sac, fetal pole and early heartbeat
    3rd u/s 4/25/13: measuring right on track. Heart rate 148 bpm
    A/S 7/22/13: IT'S A BOY!!
    PAIF/SAIF Always Welcome
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  • happywifemomofonehappywifemomofone member

    imagemelkel559:
    I'm sorry about the wait. Any bump in the road, no matter how small, sucks something awful when you've wanted to start a family so badly and for so long. Glad to hear her reasons seem legitimate though. FX everything goes smoothly and you can cycle in July. Hope the time passes quickly for you! Hugs!

    This!! I know that the waiting is definitely the hardest part of this whole process!  When my donor was stimming and I was waiting yet again, it felt surreal-like it wasn't even my cycle.  Hang in there and Big (((hugs)))

    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member

    I'm sorry. Waiting stinks especially when you finally found peace in using DE then another delay messes you up. Argh...

    Hoping the time flies by fast as I will be wanting it to also so I can start too...lol. {{hugs}} Hopefully something can distract you like a hobby :) GL 

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • ladyrader0227ladyrader0227 member
    (((BIG HUGS))) - this is such a rough road and any delay feels like forever. Try to find the silver lining if possible - her reasons are legitimate. FX everything else will go smoothly.

    Me:37 (DOR), DH: 40 (Normal) TTC #1 since Fall 2010
    2010-2012 - 7 rounds of Clomid, 4 IUI & 2 IVF - all BFN (2 chemical pregnancies)
    April 2013 fresh DEgg - 15R, 4F, 2 transferred = BFN.  
    FET - 11/13
    Beta #1 11/23 = 247; Beta #2 11/25 = 538; Beta #3 11/29 = 5481 BFP!!!!!
    U/s #1 12/7 & U/s #2 12/16 = One perfect little heart beat!! 
    EDD = 8/1/14

    Hope is the thing with feathers - that perches in the soul - and sings the tune without the words - and never stops - at all - (Emily Dickinson)

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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
    Ugh! Sorry to hear that! FX that the time goes by quickly!

    April 2013 DE IVF= BFN

    September 2013 DE IVF (Fingers Crossed) = BFFFN! again...

    October 2013 FET of our last 2 = Beta Hellzz for 6-7 Weeks. M/C

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  • Km672Km672 member
    It is so discouraging when there is a change in plans, even just a month feels like an eternity!!
    The waiting is so hard.
    I'm sure it will work out, but I totally understand your worries.
    Best of luck, you are so close!! your cycle will be here before you know it!!

    Me (32) DOR, elevated NK Cells/ 2 copies of MTHFR mutation/ MH (35) azoo/high DFI   (TTC#1 since 2009)

    IVFs#1-4: (4/10-2/12) all BFN

    Surprise Bfp (9/11) - c/p

    DS IUI#1-2 (9/12, 10/12) - BFN

    DS IVF: (11/12) - BFN

    DE/DS IVF#1: (10/13) - 2 day 3 embies transferred-BFFN

    FET of 2 day 6 blasts: (12/13) - c/p

    DE/DS IVF #2: (4/14) - 1 day 5 blast transferred...BFFN...again.

    FET 5/14: 1 day 5 hatching blast transferred...another BFFN

    Repeat SHG 6/14-normal / Endometrial Receptivity Array biopsy 7/14-Receptive Uterus

    New RE, additional testing reveals elevated NK Cells

    FET of 1 day 5 blast (RE recommends transferring 1 due to elevated NK cells) with lovenox, steroids & intralipids in October

     

     

     

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  • ArgyleBrideArgyleBride member
    Oh, what a let down! I'm sorry.  I do want to thank you for sharing your story--I am going through the application process to be an egg donor, and it reminds me of the fortitude and consideration I must bring to this process.  Waiting a month might feel like not such a big deal on this side of the process, but of course on the other side it definitely is and I think egg donors need to be aware of that and be prepared to do everything we reasonably can not to delay.  Good luck, next month will be your month!  
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  • MrsT4MrsT4 member

    Hi Brooklyn,

    If it's any consolation, I can certainly relate to you, as my 4-year wedding and TTC anniversary will be this July also....hopefully we will be cycle buddies! :)

    But ((hugs)) as I definitely understand being nervous about being delayed further.  I'm a little (*cough*) older than you, so I certainly understand that a one month delay feels like an eternity sometimes, especially because time isn't on our side.

    I sincerely hope that this upcoming cycle will result in your rainbow baby!!!

    Best of luck to you!!

    Me: AMA, DOR, undetectable AMH, carrier of SMA, MTHFR homozygous C677T, high cytokines, low IGg B cells, Factor XIII V34l mutation, High Anti-Phosphatidylethanolmine, borderline hypothyroid and mildly insulin resistant.

     

    MH: No known issues, aside from MTHFR.

     

    Recommendations from RI: LIT, Humira, IVIG, Lovenox, Baby Aspirin, Folic Acid, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin.

     

    Currently taking:  Pre-Natal vitamins, Foltanx, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin. 

     

    When cycling also taking: Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, Humira and IVIG.

     

    TTC since 7/11/09..with medical intervention starting in 2010, including 4 failed IVF's and 6 failed IUI's...only "success" was a chemical pregnancy in 11/2012 (credited to use of DE).

    FET #1 (11th cycle) on 8/23/13 = BFN.

    FET #2 (12th cycle) Transfer of last two (day 6) donor egg blasts on 1/22/14 = BFP, EDD = 10/10/14 (please stick little BOY!)

     

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    ***PAIF/SAIF always welcome***

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  • udc22udc22 member
    Hang in there.  It will all work out for the good!  
    TTC since 10/2010
    IVF #1 - BFN
    IVF #2 - BFP, MC @ 4 weeks
    IVF #3 - ET ~ 3/18/2013
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