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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Spoiling???
Hi out there!
Our baby is 10 and a half weeks old. When he begins to get fussy or cranky and is just on the brink of crying, I pick him up to sooth and comfort him. The only time he really will let out a serious cry is if I'm not fast enough with his bottle and he's telling me he's starving! I try to let him fuss it out on his own before I pick him up and when I do so, I'm literally standing in front of him or am just a few feet away, well within eye shot for him. I've been told two or three times in the last couple of weeks that my baby is spoiled and that I am the root cause. Do you think this is true? Is it possible to spoil a baby at such a young age by comforting him when he is about to lose it? Also, how should I handle those nay sayers? What would you say if someone told you that you were spoiling your baby?
Thanks!
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Re: Spoiling???
1. Your child is not spoiled.
2. You can't spoil a baby that young.
3. Most people are morons.
4. Please, keep comforting and feeding your child.
EXACTLY!
No ma'am, your baby is not spoiled! 10 weeks old is still a tiny little thing. It's impossible to be spoiled at that point.
Honestly, as hard as it is, just ignore stupid comments. If that doesn't work, I always go with "you raise your kids your way, and I'll raise mine my way."
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Trust me, I?m not just standing there staring at my baby! I?m doing quite the opposite as a matter of fact. I?m talking to him, touching his face or playing with his hands and/or feet. I?m certainly not standing there starring at my baby like he?s an alien. I posted this question because I am confused as to why people are telling me that I?m spoiling my baby when I know in my heart that I am not. He?s a baby for crying out loud! If he cries, I?m going to console him ? it?s my job, I?m him mom!
You can not spoil a baby that young. I have been told the exact same thing and I just ignore it.
Thank you everyone for your advice! First time mom, here.
I can certainly see where a baby could become clingy or have issues going to sleep at night as they get older if they don't learn how to CIO, even just a little bit. And if that happens, then I'll deal with it and probably post a question, too, but I'm certain that as of now, it is impossible to spoil my son. Besides, I'm a full time working mom (my husband works full time as well) and the only time I get with him is between 5pm-8pm (roughly his bed time), midnight feedings and weekends; how could I possibly be spoiling him??
Out of curiousity though, at what age is a baby capable of being spoiled? Is it after they are capable of self soothing?
This. I remember being so concerned with this stuff in the beginning. I loved to rock and was hearing I shouldn't rock him to sleep because he'll depend on it, etc. But eventually I said, you know what, you don't get this time back and I will do what I want to do to comfort my child. Spoil the crap out of them! Why not?! We're not talking about our 4 year olds having iphones and ipads and being spoiled little rugrats. We're talking about snuggling and loving our babies.
All of this. You cannot spoil a newborn, even if you tried. They need love and affection.
You can't spoil a baby, esp. one that little! Go with your gut, mama. Your baby needs you. I always like to think that someday my daughter won't want me to give her a hug in public or won't want to hold my hand because she's too cool. I'll think back to all of the time I spent cuddling her and rocking her with she was a brand new baby, and I'm sure I won't be sad I did!
Also, tell other people to shut up. Not their kid, not their concern.