Translocation Confirmed

SA1112 · April 2013

After almost 4 long weeks of waiting anxiously, I heard back from our genetic counselor yesterday. Our most recent loss was due to a translocation resulting in Trisomy 14 and my DH's karyotype results showed that he is the carrier of a Robertsonian Translocation 13;14. The good news is that if one of us had to have it, it seems that a male carrier is the better in terms of risk. There's a <1% for delivering an affected baby with severe mental retardation or multiple congenital anomalies. The bad news is that we will have a high rate of miscarriage. I'm glad to have an answer because I know so many people don't ever find one but I'm just sad knowing that we will likely have to endure this heartache many more times. DH is taking it pretty hard and feels like it's his fault that we had two miscarriages. I'm trying my best to make him not feel that way because I know he would do the same for me. To the other multiple loss ladies, is there anything that keeps you going after so many losses? I'm worried about the toll it will eventually take on us. Thanks for listening...

Mrs.E.07 · April 2013

I don't have any advice, just lots of ((((hugs)))) I wish I could tell you how to keep going, but I'm struggling with that myself after experiencing my 2nd loss.

Although finding a problem is never a good thing, I'm glad you have gotten some

JordyInIndy · April 2013

I'm glad you have answers but I'm sorry it's not a very good one. My heart breaks for your DH.

Honestly the two biggest things that help me personally, are therapy and Zoloft. I really had to do that for me so that I could stay sane and stay s

sammer818 · April 2013

*HUGS* While finding an answer is comforting in some respect, finding an answer that you can do nothing about is so hard. I'm sorry your DH is feeling like it's his fault. I struggle with those same feelings, as we've had 6 losses, all unexplained. I f

luciddreamer106 · April 2013

I'm glad you found an answer even though it's tough to deal with. I don't really have any advice. I've had two losses and am trying to not give up hope on having a good outcome. My heart breaks for YH. It's never easy when you think it's your fault. Good

krirecke · April 2013

I am very glad that you were able to find an answer, but so sorry that it means a tougher road for you. Lots of ((HUGS)).

socialwkrsweetie · April 2013

I don't have any advice... Just lots of (((Hugs)))

doglover31 · April 2013

I don't have any advice just wanted to send you lots of hugs!

PatientlyWaiting10 · April 2013

ChiaWombat:
I can't add anything to the previous posters' comments, they said it all beautifully. But I'm sending you big ((HU

Poppy715 · April 2013

I'm so sorry for your DH and you. ((HUGS)) to both of you. I understand the need for an answer but how hard it can be when you get one. At least you have an idea of what to expect and how to go from here. I'm so sorry you may have to go through more losse

gscoville · April 2013

(((((Big Hugs)))))

zapgurl44 · April 2013

I'm sorry, lots of big squishy (( hugs)). We found out that our baby girl had trisomy 12 and we are still waiting for DH and I's blood work results. It's a tough pill to swallow. It's comforting knowing "why" but then it opens a Pandora's box. We ha

LunaBug924 · April 2013

I have no advice either, just wanted to give some (((hugs))).

heather52904 · April 2013

I don't have any advice, just ((HUGS))

SA1112 · April 2013

Thank you so much for all of your responses, hugs and encouragement! It means so much to me.

Sammer- I really appreciate what you wrote regarding your experiences with multiple losses and staying focused on making decisions together with your DH

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