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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
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Newly 1 and tantrums: ignore, comfort, distract?
sechat322
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Hi all,
i have a newly minted one year old, and some newly minted behaviors to go with that birthday cake! In the past few weeks, our daughter has started having small tantrums when she doesn't get her way (if we take something away she isn't supposed to have, if we take her away from a toy or activity she was enjoying, etc.). I know these might not be the huge tantrums people expect from 2 year olds, but I'd love to start handling this the right way.
I'm doing my best to research the reaction we're supposed to have, but a lot of the advice seems geared to older toddlers. For example, I certainly don't mind saying, "I can see that you're upset that we took your toothbrush away," but I don't have any sense that she comprehends what I'm saying or that she's just looking for me to acknowledge her feelings. Time outs are preposterous for a baby her age.
So. What do you all recommend as best course for handling this stuff in really young toddlers? I'd generally think that distracting/redirecting is our best bet - and while that still works, it doesn't work nearly as well as it used to. She definitely remembers the "forbidden activity/thing" and unless I give her something pretty awesome to replace it, she can keep going for a little while. I can ignore her, if the idea is not to reward her behavior with attention. I can comfort her, if the idea is to soothe and move her along to calmer seas. The only thing I'm sure we shouldn't do is give her the toothbrush back.
Any tips and tricks from the wise veterans here?
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Re: Newly 1 and tantrums: ignore, comfort, distract?
Ignore, ignore, ignore. The second any attention is paid, it just gets worse. If he's on the floor, I leave him there and continue with my business or walk away. If he's in his highchair, ignore. If I'm holding him, I put him down and
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Ignore. Always.
Well, most of the time. Sometimes, if she's throwing a tantrum because I took away something she didn't need to be playing with, I will show her a toy or something she CAN play with. If she continues to throw a tantrum even
It really depends on the situation. Sometimes we ignore, often times we distract. I found this post interesting: https://www.boston.com/community/moms/blogs/c
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
That has been my strategy with DS and it works perfectly for him. Once he realizes that his actions don't get attention, he calms down pretty quickly.
I also ignored undesirably behaviors like acting up in his
MMC 3.30.16
What helps with tantrums will in some ways be child-specific. There are LO's who don't like to be touched when upset, and others NEED that comfort. I don't look at acknowledging the tantrum, and helping LO calm down as rewarding "bad" behavior because
Thanks so much, everyone - all of your comments are extremely helpful.
Until the last week or so, tantrums have felt very... theoretical. I agree that they're entirely developmentally normal, and are really the only way she has to express
Hi,
I am mum to a 21 month old and I work with children who have autism so plenty of experience dealing with behavioural issues, but I still find them challenging to deal with.
When my LO gets hold of something he really shouldnt play with