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December 2010 Moms
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Bossy mom in playgroup
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I am struggling with how to handle one of the moms in our playgroup. I don't know if I need to say something to her, or just leave it alone.
Jack is still dealing with stranger anxiety, but we've been regularly seeing a group of 3 moms and their kids for a little over a year now. He is just now really starting to be comfortable around them and will actually play with them. He is still very cautious about the moms, and won't even really look at them. Just recently the weather has been nicer so we've been going to the park, and the kids have been playing in the sand. Jack is not aggressive with the other kids, but he does tend to fling his sand a bit when he is digging. Whenever he does it I remind him to look behind himself and try not to get sand on the other kids.
Well, there is one particular mom in the group that will kind of yell at him! She'll say JACK!! WATCH WHERE YOU'RE FLINGING SAND!! .. and it bugs the crap out of me. I am already there talking to him about it. She KNOWS that he is already kind of scared of her. WTF is she doing? It really makes my mama bear come out. She has done it several times this past week, and I just want to say "Hey, I got it, ok? I can't make him stop flinging it unless we just go home, but I can teach him and remind him without you scaring him!"
Am I overreacting? Should I say something? Should I just forget it? Ugh. I'm so non-confrontational with friends. 
ETA: I've never heard her yell like that at the other kids, and we generally don't tell each other's kids what to do unless the mom has stepped out for some reason.
I used to be a big deal. Now I'm just old.
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Re: Bossy mom in playgroup
Are you guys chummy enough to tell her what you just typed here? The "hey I got this, you're scaring J even more" without coming off too snarky so she doesn't get too defensive? And of course I'd do it privately too. But that'd still
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ok, don't hate me for this, but...
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Thanks for all the input, guys! I would also be annoyed if someone elses kid was throwing sand on Jack, but I would never jump on that kid if the mom was already in the process of doing it. I'm also extra super sweet if I have to tell anoth