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Really?!

skibunny59skibunny59 member
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My cousin is expecting and she started an advice team on amazon.  Basically you add items to her advice list that you found helpful as a mom.  I added some really good carriers:  the Ergo, the Moby, the Infantino wrap and tie.  Anyway, I go on her registry this morning to check it out and what does she have on there:  a Baby Bjorn carrier.  UGH!  I am a little bit of baby wearing snob and I kind of cringed when I saw that on there.  I know the Ergo is expensive so maybe she saw that and thought "Oh my goodness this is expensive.  I don't want to ask people to spend that much money" and that's why she chose the bjorn.  But I suggested the Infantino wrap and tie which is much cheaper than the bjorn and way better.

Not sure if I should say something or not.   Of course I would just be nice and ask "Oh.  Did you happen to look at the carriers that I suggested?"  I don't know anyone who had a bjorn and was able to wear it for long periods of time without it killing their back.  I just think it's so worth it to have a good, comfortable carrier.

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  • mb314mb314 member
    IMO you may be over-reacting a little.  I know that the Baby Bjorn isn't the carrier of choice on here, but many women do use them.  That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with saying something to her, nicely, like "I see that you've registered for the Baby Bjorn.  I've heard a lot of mothers actually find it hard on their back."  If you live around her, you could offer to let her "try" your carriers or look at them to see how they work. 
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  • honkytonk_kidhonkytonk_kid member

    I always just tell people, "Hey I'm sure some people like it, but I found it horribly uncomfortable for both of us, here's why..." Or "I know carriers are expensive but I already have a couple- want to test them out before you buy your own?"

    Other than that... eh. People find out on their own what carriers they like.

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  • EveryusernameistakenEveryusernameistaken member

    Meh, I agree that you're overreacting.  You already made some suggestions, she saw them, and made a decision.  As PP have said you could make a comment about how the Bjorn isn't the most comfortable on the back, or let her try your carriers out, but you've already put in your two cents so I wouldn't worry too much.

    When I pregnant and in the very early stages of motherhood I was appreciative of experienced mamas' advice, but if they really pushed something I'd get annoyed because I wanted to figure stuff out for myself, you know?  Now sometimes I have to bite my tongue to stop myself from being That Person :)


     

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  • skibunny59skibunny59 member
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    Meh, I agree that you're overreacting.  You already made some suggestions, she saw them, and made a decision.  As PP have said you could make a comment about how the Bjorn isn't the most comfortable on the back, or let her try your carriers out, but you've already put in your two cents so I wouldn't worry too much.

    When I pregnant and in the very early stages of motherhood I was appreciative of experienced mamas' advice, but if they really pushed something I'd get annoyed because I wanted to figure stuff out for myself, you know?  Now sometimes I have to bite my tongue to stop myself from being That Person :)

    I agree with you on this.  Thanks Ladies!  I will keep my mouth shut.  I hope everyone know I'm not upset with her or anything.  I just didn't want to come off like I was angry at her.

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  • ForeverEverAfterForeverEverAfter member
    When my pregnant friend asked about carriers I sent her a link to a blog post showing proper positioning that used diagrams from the hip dysplasia institute. I never named any brands, just showed her types. She told me after a shopping trip that only one of the carriers in the big box store was any good. Maybe there's a way of giving the information without singling out the bjorn. Anything showing that the knees should be higher than the bum rules out the original bjorn.
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  • NYDayNYDay member
    I usually lurk, but to be honest this is too much of a personal preference issue for you to get upset over it. I tried the Moby and the Infantino and both of those were uncomfortable for me. I carried 2 children in a Baby Bjorn that was loaned to me by my friend and felt it was a Godsend.
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